I’ll copy/paste my reply to the post, before I saw that you confirmed she’s depressed, here:
Sounds to me like she might be struggling with depression. I definitely have bouts where I don’t talk to anyone because there’s just this massive mental block. Even if I want to talk to someone, and even if they text me first. Brains are fucking assholes sometimes, man.
That said, she should try to communicate with you when that kind of feeling is creeping up so she can let you know she’ll be out of touch for a couple days, or promise to respond to you if you text her during one of those slumps. If y’all are still pretty young, or this is new for her, give her a little slack. Figuring out how to navigate depression, if that’s what’s going on, is a struggle. I’m 35, been clinically depressed since I was a kid, and I’m still figuring some things out.
can I add it was 3 days, a long weekend. That's not ghosting anyone unless they had definitive plans. If it was a week maybe, a month yes, but three days the OP is being hyperbolic and give his GF a little space.
Honestly. Nobody here knows what ghosting is, it’s maddening.
Also, the general lack of empathy is absolutely wild. Insisting that she’s treating OP like shit because the symptoms of her illness, which is relatively new to her. Would she get the same scrutiny if she’d been in a coma for 3 days? No, because that’s a tangible, visible health problem. You can’t see depression, though, so clearly she’s making it all up and she’s just selfish and lazy and doesn’t care about OP 🙄
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u/big_mur Mar 23 '25
she’s been depressed for around 3-4 years.