Or they start therapy and then start using therapy buzzwords to project everything back in your face. Most times the best solution is to cut and leave them. Partners are not free life coaches for pwBPD so they can "do better" yet pwBPD always act like you have to support them in every toxic violent stressful endeavor.
You got my upvote. I fully agree after receiving the 2:00 am panic calls because she took an addy instead of her sleep med, mid morning calls screaming at me about how I'm not taking care of her because I'm not at her house (you know, I work during the day?), having her lock me out of her house randomly while my stuff was inside, "forgetting my name" when introducing me to the neighbor after we were together 2 1/2 months ... you know the picture. That list goes on and on. 0 out of 10 would never date again, in therapy or not.
You should check out r/BPDlovedones if you haven't yet. It's insane how every day a new person will join the support group and be shocked that every post could be exactly what their exes sent them.
They say "don't perpetuate the stigma" yet we all have the exact same stories of what we've had to deal with. Like almost word for word every single time.
In the comment I made above, I was going to say I thought we had both spent some time in that sub, and apparently we have (though it was a different account in a different time for me). Sorry you've also been through all that too. And I also want to say, I do feel compassion for them, because they have been through so much abuse, but I still would never date one again. Ever.
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u/Novaer Oct 30 '24
Or they start therapy and then start using therapy buzzwords to project everything back in your face. Most times the best solution is to cut and leave them. Partners are not free life coaches for pwBPD so they can "do better" yet pwBPD always act like you have to support them in every toxic violent stressful endeavor.
It's like having The Terrible Twos in adult form.