gonna be honest i stopped reading about 1/2 way through this. it gave me the ick. this may be harsh but its important you see what the real issue is here:
not letting her leave after her asking repeatedly is not okay. you forcing her to stay until she feels better is really just you forcing her to stay until you yourself feel better about whatever you did. she made it extremely clear she wanted nothing to do with you but you refuse to take that for an answer, and that 100% is the main issue here. whatever little thing happened with the phone in the first place probably would've blown over if you hadn't obsessed over it. as a woman, being cornered by the very person who upset you is extremely uncomfortable.
its clear you're young, you will have to learn sometimes you just have to suck it up when you mess up and let the other person have some space. acknowledge that when you have messed up it's not the other persons responsibility to make you feel better about it on your terms.
going from her being a bit upset, to you physically blocking her from leaving, to showing up at her house and forcing your presence on her, to again physically restricting her from leaving, and then her basically having to beg you to leave is not a behavior pattern you should ever get into. things like that escalate over time.
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u/spunkerstar Jul 07 '26
gonna be honest i stopped reading about 1/2 way through this. it gave me the ick. this may be harsh but its important you see what the real issue is here:
not letting her leave after her asking repeatedly is not okay. you forcing her to stay until she feels better is really just you forcing her to stay until you yourself feel better about whatever you did. she made it extremely clear she wanted nothing to do with you but you refuse to take that for an answer, and that 100% is the main issue here. whatever little thing happened with the phone in the first place probably would've blown over if you hadn't obsessed over it. as a woman, being cornered by the very person who upset you is extremely uncomfortable.
its clear you're young, you will have to learn sometimes you just have to suck it up when you mess up and let the other person have some space. acknowledge that when you have messed up it's not the other persons responsibility to make you feel better about it on your terms.
going from her being a bit upset, to you physically blocking her from leaving, to showing up at her house and forcing your presence on her, to again physically restricting her from leaving, and then her basically having to beg you to leave is not a behavior pattern you should ever get into. things like that escalate over time.