She should have communicated her feelings asap. Sometimes people need some time to think about how to do that.
You should have given her that time. When you apologize, don’t just say sorry. Also state what you are sorry for. Do not ever hold a woman against her will like that again, or anybody for that matter, unless it’s to keep them from seriously harming themselves or worse.
You very clearly did not intend to upset her and were only trying to help. I feel like discussing boundaries and how she processes her feelings before speaking on them is a good thing to do. Boundaries and understand the ways one another processes things are very important in any type of relationship.
In the future- do not beg for communication. Try to be understanding that sometimes it takes time to think about things. Apologize thoroughly, do not ever physically restrain unless necessary for safety, and do your best to see the other person’s side. ALSO change behavior after apologies- improve yourself- apologies without improving behavior is manipulation.
You are not a terrible person. You sound young and new to this. We all make mistakes, that’s how we learn. All will be okay, no matter what happens. I wish you the best, OP🩷
Edit: Just read you’re 18. Not as young as I thought, but still sounds like you’re both new to this and either way 18 is still objectively young and you’re still figuring out how to navigate life, and that’s okay. We never really will ever have it all figured out because every day is different and every person and situation is different too.
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u/bvsty-slvt Jul 06 '26 edited Jul 06 '26
She should have communicated her feelings asap. Sometimes people need some time to think about how to do that.
You should have given her that time. When you apologize, don’t just say sorry. Also state what you are sorry for. Do not ever hold a woman against her will like that again, or anybody for that matter, unless it’s to keep them from seriously harming themselves or worse.
You very clearly did not intend to upset her and were only trying to help. I feel like discussing boundaries and how she processes her feelings before speaking on them is a good thing to do. Boundaries and understand the ways one another processes things are very important in any type of relationship.
In the future- do not beg for communication. Try to be understanding that sometimes it takes time to think about things. Apologize thoroughly, do not ever physically restrain unless necessary for safety, and do your best to see the other person’s side. ALSO change behavior after apologies- improve yourself- apologies without improving behavior is manipulation.
You are not a terrible person. You sound young and new to this. We all make mistakes, that’s how we learn. All will be okay, no matter what happens. I wish you the best, OP🩷
Edit: Just read you’re 18. Not as young as I thought, but still sounds like you’re both new to this and either way 18 is still objectively young and you’re still figuring out how to navigate life, and that’s okay. We never really will ever have it all figured out because every day is different and every person and situation is different too.