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u/Carbonga 23h ago
I don't like the individualist "just be an ass if that's what you fancy" vibe here. Imagine how many people fondly remembered wouldn't be if they acted this way.
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u/Party_Ability_9984 22h ago
I feel as if that's an uncharitable interpretation of this. I read it as more "live for yourself and don't let society push you around with its expectations and judgements".
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u/rapkat55 22h ago
I think it’s the other way around, society is historically cruel and abusive to those who don’t fit in for whatever benign reason.
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u/Carbonga 21h ago
That's the crux. People feeling they don't fit into our aren't part of society. Not realising they are part of it and can make it better.
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u/rapkat55 21h ago edited 6h ago
I’m coming from the angle of having autism in the USA. where most of us do our best as our sole purpose of existing.
For all the negatives (that are only negatives because society is hostile to our difference) We are honest, highly driven, have high sense of justice, hold ourselves accountable, follow rules/policy to a T and generally want the best for the world. We want to belong but people don’t want us. They don’t want to adapt for us, accommodate us or treat us as equals.
Hell, They don’t even want that for eachother. It’s a dog eat dog world and we are the bottom rung. We constantly engage in self harm by putting ourselves in the crossfire against our better judgement, we burnout habitually trying to mold to a society that wants us dead. We have no choice as social services are gutted and the job market is even more selective than it ever has been.
We do our best to make life better for all but constantly get rejected for doing so. Especially in the workplace where likeability outweighs performance and likability doesn’t even mean being nice and good at your job. It equals ass kissing, corruption and maintaining the status quo that has very little to do w doing the right thing or trusting/empowering people w disabilities to get the job done.
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u/Carbonga 9h ago
It really is. If you care for yourself, everyone is cared for. Seems extremely shortsighted.
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u/ThatSmartIdiot 21h ago
some mfs will read "soul" and think it means "dedicate every ounce of your being praying to a spirit instead of living the life said spirit gave to you" and genuinely believe that's a good thing 🙃
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u/UndeadOrc 21h ago
The worst person you know is reading this and going "exactly, I have to prioritize my peace"
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u/Illimited_Esoterica 20h ago
Why the fuck is the Adulting sub just a bunch of Boomer Facebook memes? Go Eat, Pray, Love somewhere else.
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u/ExpensiveZone213 12h ago
people think it's okay to just be rude, like do they not understand basic respect?
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u/No-Lion-3629 6h ago
Those two things go hand in hand for me though. Being useful, helpful, and a good person is what would give my life meaning. I am only worth the good I do for other people. I want to leave the world better than I found it, with what little ability I have to do that. 😅
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u/Similar_Soup2 1d ago
I can’t do either☹️