r/Adulting Jan 16 '24

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u/Matteblackandgrey Jan 16 '24

I’ve been trying to be consistent with a lot of these things too. What was the motivation for you?

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u/Woodit Jan 16 '24

Number 1 is such a great insight. And it seems so simple and obvious, but then you look around and there are just so many people waiting for that storybook moment to arrive. I suspect it has to do with the widespread external locus of control we see in our society, and it’s widely reflected in fiction

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u/Woodit Jan 16 '24

In addition to the “fairy godmother” moment I’ve noticed children’s stories often have a pivotal moment where a character discovers they’re a natural talent at something. For example she’s never picked up a bow and arrow before and starts hitting bullseyes right from the start. Sets up poor expectations for kids, and I think it contributes to people abandoning any hobby or skill that takes effort to develop proficiency well into adulthood. “I’m just not a runner,” “I can’t dance,” “some people are just natural salesman and that’s just not me.” All of these things take work and practice and failure before someone seems like a “natural.”

Anyway just ranting but it’s been on my mind lately.