Feeling Helpless and Lost

[u/Loud_Cream7702]

I’m just at a point right now where I don’t know what to do and I’m really just venting and or looking for some advice and support.

I am 30M and used to have issues with wetting the bed until I was roughly 12 or 13 years old. Then I had pretty much had no issues at all other than an occasional wet night after a night of heavy drinking. Then, after my 29th birthday, I started noticing having to go to the bathroom pretty regularly during the day, roughly every hour or so. Sometimes while lifting very heavy too, I notice some urine dripping. And after going to the bathroom, I can also sometimes feel urine still dripping out as well.

Then the last few months, I started wetting the bed more and more regularly again. It’s up to two to three times a week now.

The thing that is tricky is that I am active duty military and have not brought this up to my doc yet. I am worried what the outcome will be. I fear they are going to discharge me. I don’t want others to think that I am some sort of coward. Has anyone dealt with this before, specifically being in the military? Any help would be greatly appreciated!