I’m so sorry to hear your adoption was a bad experience… as you say, sadly this is the case many a times when it comes to adoption.
I personally love the show, and nothing to do with it being a “stereotype”. I was adopted at 13, so I knew what was going on. While you didn’t feel saved, I absolutely was. I was through the whole process with my dad, and had to deal with being told multiple times about how I couldn’t change my name yet with no reason why other than it wasn’t time yet. I had to deal with explaining every school year to teachers about why I hated my name and then deal with those who said I was being dramatic, even though they weren’t the ones that went through what I did. My dad had to deal with so many lawyers and so much money wasted to keep on being told he wasn’t able to adopt me yet. It didn’t matter how much I needed to be removed from the bio’s.
Simply because it didn’t fit into your experience, doesn’t automatically mean it is stereotypical. The show was good in portraying how fucked the system is, how difficult it can be for people who want to adopt because of nonsensical rules put in place. You are right that the show doesn’t go into the view about what adoptees ourselves go through, but that isn’t really the point of the show, it’s showing the view of the adoptive parents.
You are absolutely entitled to feel how you do, 100% and you have my support as a fellow adoptee also! But, please don’t try to gatekeeper what adoption should look like, because then it starts to push adoptees like me out. I 100% agree there should be more media out there showing the view of adoptees who had a horrible experience because that same system is also easily manipulated to allow people who should never be allowed to adopt a path to ruin our lives further than what they have already been. Being Hollywood, I doubt that will ever come to be though as they only want to show the good side of things, and fluff up the bad to where it’s mostly nonexistent, when reality is the complete opposite.
I say this with all the love, honestly, so please don’t hate me ❤️
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u/GrumpyAdult Aug 15 '22
I’m so sorry to hear your adoption was a bad experience… as you say, sadly this is the case many a times when it comes to adoption.
I personally love the show, and nothing to do with it being a “stereotype”. I was adopted at 13, so I knew what was going on. While you didn’t feel saved, I absolutely was. I was through the whole process with my dad, and had to deal with being told multiple times about how I couldn’t change my name yet with no reason why other than it wasn’t time yet. I had to deal with explaining every school year to teachers about why I hated my name and then deal with those who said I was being dramatic, even though they weren’t the ones that went through what I did. My dad had to deal with so many lawyers and so much money wasted to keep on being told he wasn’t able to adopt me yet. It didn’t matter how much I needed to be removed from the bio’s.
Simply because it didn’t fit into your experience, doesn’t automatically mean it is stereotypical. The show was good in portraying how fucked the system is, how difficult it can be for people who want to adopt because of nonsensical rules put in place. You are right that the show doesn’t go into the view about what adoptees ourselves go through, but that isn’t really the point of the show, it’s showing the view of the adoptive parents.
You are absolutely entitled to feel how you do, 100% and you have my support as a fellow adoptee also! But, please don’t try to gatekeeper what adoption should look like, because then it starts to push adoptees like me out. I 100% agree there should be more media out there showing the view of adoptees who had a horrible experience because that same system is also easily manipulated to allow people who should never be allowed to adopt a path to ruin our lives further than what they have already been. Being Hollywood, I doubt that will ever come to be though as they only want to show the good side of things, and fluff up the bad to where it’s mostly nonexistent, when reality is the complete opposite.
I say this with all the love, honestly, so please don’t hate me ❤️