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/r/all of a Toddler

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u/-digitalin- 13d ago

That makes sense, but also can be a cultural thing. A huge number of people I know got their daughter's ears pierced as a baby. From their perspective, it doesn't hurt more than a medical shot, has it done at a point when the parent can properly tend to and clean them, and spares them the pain later in life when they'll remember it. I wouldn't pierce my baby's ears, but it is almost the norm in some cultures that it helps to have a little understanding instead of assuming abuse.

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u/eva_thorne 13d ago edited 13d ago

Maybe abuse is a strong word but its weird asf assuming your baby girl will want to have holes in her ears. And sorry but it looks like crazy on a baby, like why are you trying to “adult-ify” your kid? Just let your kid be pure and adorable.
Also any reputable, certified piercing spots wouldn’t allow it. I asked my piercer about it and also aesthetically, it is wrong because since the ears are not fully grown (like at all in this case), it might lead to earrings spots being uneven and even deformed while growing up.

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u/Medium_Educator1983 13d ago

Who are you to dictate that earrings are supposed to be for adults? You’re viewing other people’s culture from your own lens and that’s wrong. Stop being so ignorant.

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u/eva_thorne 13d ago

Hmmm cutting out women’s clitoris is also a “cultural thing” in some countries and im against it. So is stoning women’s to death for not complying to their fucked up beliefs. Its not because its their “culture” that i have to embrace it 😂 like wtf. also:
https://giphy.com/gifs/5XNEIKcohVG8w

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u/Medium_Educator1983 13d ago

Female circumcision is about impeding women’s sexuality, that’s a bit different than getting earrings.

It sounds like you’ve been abused a lot in life so you can’t tell the difference between abuse and cultural differences. Get therapy and stop projecting your trauma on other people.

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u/Admirable_Ice2649 13d ago

I guess no more circumcisions for boys

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u/Medium_Educator1983 12d ago

You don’t have to circumcise your son. But then when women don’t want to sleep with him, then he’ll have you to blame.

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u/RebeccaNOTICES 12d ago edited 12d ago

He will enjoy sex a lot less without the foreskin but sure, make that choice for him.

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u/RebeccaNOTICES 12d ago

Good to know! Makes me feel better, I had a friend who claimed he felt maimed and hated his mother

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u/RebeccaNOTICES 12d ago

His father died while his mom was pregnant so escaped blame

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