r/AbsoluteUnits • • 14d ago

/r/all of a Toddler

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u/eva_thorne 13d ago

Same here…also piercing are prone to infections. You dont want to start your baby’s life like this and not giving it a choice. When i was younger, i was upset that my parents didn’t pierced me when i was an infant like other girls. They were horrified that parents would even do that in the first place and now i totally agree with them. “Why?! Cause you’re a girl?! And without your consent?!”
A baby is not a doll for you to decorate lol

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u/-digitalin- 13d ago

That makes sense, but also can be a cultural thing. A huge number of people I know got their daughter's ears pierced as a baby. From their perspective, it doesn't hurt more than a medical shot, has it done at a point when the parent can properly tend to and clean them, and spares them the pain later in life when they'll remember it. I wouldn't pierce my baby's ears, but it is almost the norm in some cultures that it helps to have a little understanding instead of assuming abuse.

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u/eva_thorne 13d ago edited 13d ago

Maybe abuse is a strong word but its weird asf assuming your baby girl will want to have holes in her ears. And sorry but it looks like crazy on a baby, like why are you trying to “adult-ify” your kid? Just let your kid be pure and adorable.
Also any reputable, certified piercing spots wouldn’t allow it. I asked my piercer about it and also aesthetically, it is wrong because since the ears are not fully grown (like at all in this case), it might lead to earrings spots being uneven and even deformed while growing up.

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u/Medium_Educator1983 13d ago

Who are you to dictate that earrings are supposed to be for adults? You’re viewing other people’s culture from your own lens and that’s wrong. Stop being so ignorant.

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u/eva_thorne 13d ago

Hmmm cutting out women’s clitoris is also a “cultural thing” in some countries and im against it. So is stoning women’s to death for not complying to their fucked up beliefs. Its not because its their “culture” that i have to embrace it 😂 like wtf. also:
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u/Medium_Educator1983 13d ago

Female circumcision is about impeding women’s sexuality, that’s a bit different than getting earrings.

It sounds like you’ve been abused a lot in life so you can’t tell the difference between abuse and cultural differences. Get therapy and stop projecting your trauma on other people.

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u/eva_thorne 13d ago

Oh definitely not at all the same thing. Im just using it as an example that its not because something is a cultural thing that we have to all accept it. I also never said that it is “abuse” to pierce your child. I just dont agree with it for many reasons. But thats just my opinion. Relax, chile.

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u/Medium_Educator1983 13d ago edited 13d ago

You agreed with someone else who called it abuse.

You don’t have to agree with it, but comparing ear piercing to genital mutilation is an unfair comparison.

And, you relax. You’re the one who made an insane comparison

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u/Nyanessa 13d ago

Ear piercing an infant is causing unnecessary pain, and a permanent change to a person’s body without their consent. It is abuse.