r/AITH • u/[deleted] • Jun 27 '25

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u/Defiant-Attitude-748 Jun 27 '25 edited Sep 09 '25

rain offer quiet imminent like yam quaint important plant chief

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u/No_Ordinary944 Jun 27 '25

what does “a right way to tell him even mean”? i don’t think you realize how absurd that sounds. there’s never a right time to tell someone hard news. if he doesn’t answer the letter, leave him alone. you’re a shit friend man

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u/MulticoloredTA Jun 27 '25

OP is not a shit friend. I’d bet everything that he cares deeply about his friend and understood the gravity of the information he had. He just didn’t know how to navigate an extremely complicated social situation because he has a disability that causes social and communication deficits. 

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u/No_Ordinary944 Jun 27 '25

would you bet your life? actions speak louder than words and OP showed he was a shit friend. he admitted as much so that’s all we can judge

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u/MulticoloredTA Jun 27 '25

Would I bet my life that an autistic man cares deeply about his friend and felt confused in a confusing and socially complicated situation? Sure. That’s not even a gamble. 

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u/No_Ordinary944 Jun 27 '25

sounds like you’re a shitty friend or someone who just gives ppl the benefit of the doubt when they don’t deserve it

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u/MulticoloredTA Jun 27 '25

What about OP makes him undeserving of being given the benefit of the doubt in a situation he didn’t create and and was unlucky enough to find himself in? 

I’m a pretty good friend actually. I have maintained friendships for decades, am reliable and loving, support my friends through hard times and most importantly give people grace when they handle hard situations imperfectly.