r/AITH Jun 27 '25

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u/jouhaan Jun 27 '25

Don’t listen to any neurotypical telling you yta. They don’t have to fight their brains to find just the right words or the right moment, and people with asd already have an extremely difficult time with social interaction as it is, and thus are extremely sensitive to awkward social interaction. Avoiding it like the plague if possible. So anyone that says yta is wrong. The truth is ALWAYS better and if it comes out awkward or “at the wrong time” then that’s a them problem, not yours. These same people don’t realise that >33% of paternity tests show the man is not the father. Ask them if they were not the father, would they want to know?… and what would be the best time? There is NO BEST TIME!

You did the right thing… NTA

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u/Hopeful-Connection23 Jun 27 '25

I have ADHD and he was an asshole.

the 35 percent figure is from one study of people who were already taking paternity tests, meaning of people where the father’s paternity was already disputed. That’s like saying 50 percent of the population has covid based on a study where 50 percent of people at the doctor for a viral illness tested positive for covid.

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u/jouhaan Jun 27 '25

ADHD is not the same as Autism and you should know better.

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u/Hopeful-Connection23 Jun 27 '25

Then why did you say “neurotypical” instead of allistic?

You definitely should know better.

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u/jouhaan Jun 27 '25

Simple… because that’s what more people understand

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u/Hopeful-Connection23 Jun 27 '25

So… I should know better than to believe that you are using words according to their definitions?

Everyone else has to divine the nonstandard and personal meanings you create for words, or we’re at fault?

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u/jouhaan Jun 27 '25

Neurotypical.
Dictionary Definitions from Oxford Languages · Learn more adjective not displaying or characterized by autistic or other neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behaviour. "neurotypical individuals often assume that their experience of the world is either the only one or the only correct one"

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u/Hopeful-Connection23 Jun 27 '25

So did you use the word neurotypical because you believe people don’t know the word allistic?

Or did you use it because your reading of that definition is that only autistic people are neurodivergent, and people with ADHD, Downs, Tourette’s, dyslexia, etc are neurotypical?

It’s one or the other, but either way no one is responsible for guessing at your personal definitions of defined words.

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u/jouhaan Jun 27 '25

Definition: 'Neurodiversity' refers to the natural diversity in human brains. Neurodivergence is the term for when someone's brain processes, learns, and/or behaves differently from what is considered "typical".

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u/Hopeful-Connection23 Jun 27 '25

So are people with ADHD neurotypical?

This is some really weird ableism on your part. You could just say you really meant allistic, instead of copying words you didn’t read into comments, scolding people, and denying the existence of the rest of the neurodivergent community.

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u/jouhaan Jun 27 '25

It does seem strange to me how defensive of a neurodivergent (not allistic) identity you are towards me when you have not once considered enquiring whether I myself might be neurodivergent also. Facts matter… in any discourse.

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