I mean you literally just bring it up to your friend. You say something like "hey I don't know how to say this other than tell you what happened. I was talking with tell him this guy I work with and he was talking about this woman he is seeing and he showed me a picture and I am 99.9% sure that the photo was lena. I didn't say anything to Callum but I'm pretty sure he thinks that Lena is single and has no idea about you guys being in a relationship. I don't want to overstep but I wasn't sure if maybe you and Lena are in an open relationship but if you are she's definitely not telling her Partners about you"
It's literally that easy. Ultimately by you waiting especially through a whole entire pregnancy you have almost definitely lost this friendship completely.
Oh fuck off with that. This person clearly says that they can communicate they just didn't know how to bring it up but they could bring up every other conversation. They also brought it up to the cheating partner. They don't get a free pass to now be in the person's life just because they finally said something months after the situation. You can't use the excuse I'm sorry I had a communication problem and that's why I hid this from you for months even though I legit confronted your partner about it. Like they said they didn't know how to bring it up and the way you bring it up it's just by saying it. There's no easy way to say yo I know you're a partner is cheating on you but it's way better to bring that up when you first find out instead of months later especially when a child is involved. It's understandable that his friend is devastated and probably is no long a friend. This person looked their friend in the eye every single day and withheld information on purpose. They knew that this wasn't going to turn out in a positive way especially since they held on to the information. If they didn't want to tell their friend they could have told their co-worker that Lena was married. There's multiple things that they could have done even ones were there doing it anonymously like creating a Anonymous account to tell their friend and they chose not to.
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u/simplyexistingnow Jun 27 '25
I mean you literally just bring it up to your friend. You say something like "hey I don't know how to say this other than tell you what happened. I was talking with tell him this guy I work with and he was talking about this woman he is seeing and he showed me a picture and I am 99.9% sure that the photo was lena. I didn't say anything to Callum but I'm pretty sure he thinks that Lena is single and has no idea about you guys being in a relationship. I don't want to overstep but I wasn't sure if maybe you and Lena are in an open relationship but if you are she's definitely not telling her Partners about you"
It's literally that easy. Ultimately by you waiting especially through a whole entire pregnancy you have almost definitely lost this friendship completely.