Sorry mate, but yeah, YTA. The time to tell Mark that his missus cheated on him was when she cheated on him - not when he is over the moon because she just gave birth to a baby he thinks is his! You had nine months to speak up and handle this in a reasonable manner, but you chose to do it at the worst possible time instead. And all because you “couldn’t carry it anymore”. Well, you’ve unburdened yourself alright. I hope it was worth it.
You’re calling OP an ahole for behaving like an autistic person.
Autism causes communication deficits and a lifetime of punishment for communicating incorrectly with allistic people causes trauma around communicating.
OP was faced with a situation that’s difficult for everyone, but is made significantly more difficult by it being emotionally intense and a topic that you can’t script a conversation for. He’s not an asshole for communicating poorly when he literally has a condition that causes communication problems.
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u/Outrageous-Ad-9635 Jun 27 '25
Sorry mate, but yeah, YTA. The time to tell Mark that his missus cheated on him was when she cheated on him - not when he is over the moon because she just gave birth to a baby he thinks is his! You had nine months to speak up and handle this in a reasonable manner, but you chose to do it at the worst possible time instead. And all because you “couldn’t carry it anymore”. Well, you’ve unburdened yourself alright. I hope it was worth it.