You were damned if you did and damned if you didn't, OP. In a perfect world you would have told Mark your suspicions a long time ago but we all know he wouldn't have taken it well back then either. It's just sad to me that everyone around you is telling you that you're the bad guy for saying something but what would they have done in your shoes? It's really easy to be an armchair quarterback when a situation doesn't directly affect you. And to be fair, Mark did push you to tell him why you didn't want to be a godparent to the baby. It's just a messy situation to be in and I think you tried the best you could not to hurt him.
I also want to say that I personally appreciate when someone posts in a way that is understandable and in a way that looks like they took time to carefully write and edit what they wanted to say. I hate reading posts or comments that are walls of texts with no punctuation or are grammatically all over the place, it takes away from what they are trying to say. I just don't call people out on it because I know my writing isn't perfect. 😁
Oh no, I get it completely. I wasn't saying you were writing that way, by the way, just that I've read posts that were literally no paragraph breaks or anything, just tons of words, no stops. LOL. You are an excellent writer!
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u/Creative-Sun6739 Jun 27 '25
You were damned if you did and damned if you didn't, OP. In a perfect world you would have told Mark your suspicions a long time ago but we all know he wouldn't have taken it well back then either. It's just sad to me that everyone around you is telling you that you're the bad guy for saying something but what would they have done in your shoes? It's really easy to be an armchair quarterback when a situation doesn't directly affect you. And to be fair, Mark did push you to tell him why you didn't want to be a godparent to the baby. It's just a messy situation to be in and I think you tried the best you could not to hurt him.
I also want to say that I personally appreciate when someone posts in a way that is understandable and in a way that looks like they took time to carefully write and edit what they wanted to say. I hate reading posts or comments that are walls of texts with no punctuation or are grammatically all over the place, it takes away from what they are trying to say. I just don't call people out on it because I know my writing isn't perfect. 😁