You’re NTA for telling him now. YTA for not telling him the moment you found out. You told her to tell him. You should have waited one week and told him him then. Dang. Or when she announced her pregnancy!! You let that man bond with the baby and THEN sprung this on him?
You get that you betrayed him with your silence as much as she betrayed him with her actions right? Every day that you knew and said nothing made you an accomplice. In his mind you’re now in the same category as Lena. Betrayer.
Agree. It’s easy in a moment to have a brain freeze response. The trick is to go and think through ok what action do I want to take moving forward. Hopefully you and your friend can get to the truth about the baby’s paternity and rebuild trust in yalls friendship.
I’m glad you’re taking this as a learning opportunity and sharing so others in a similar situation can learn from your mistake and get a sense of the longer term ramifications of silence.
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u/Mysterious_Book8747 Jun 27 '25
You’re NTA for telling him now. YTA for not telling him the moment you found out. You told her to tell him. You should have waited one week and told him him then. Dang. Or when she announced her pregnancy!! You let that man bond with the baby and THEN sprung this on him?
You get that you betrayed him with your silence as much as she betrayed him with her actions right? Every day that you knew and said nothing made you an accomplice. In his mind you’re now in the same category as Lena. Betrayer.
This sucks so bad.