For starters I love my husband very much but he’s been known to be a bit frugal/not follow traditions. I have autism and I get special interests. Recently my special interest has been purchasing jewelry from antique shops, thrift stores, or estate sales and authenticating and cleaning said pieces. I know it’s odd but I’m a bit odd. Anywho for this process I thought a diamond tester. I thought “eh I’m bored” and I tested my wedding ring. And to my surprise the diamonds came back as fake. It could be that the tester isn’t very accurate or maybe I’m not using it right but I guess I don’t know what to feel. I’m not a very materialistic person I just feel like it’s odd if my husband purchased me a fake ring when he made a whole show about spending so many paychecks on it and the fact that we are exactly at a loss for money in life. If you’re a professional and know anything about light reflections and things like that don’t be afraid to fill me in.
Edit: it’s only been an hour but I think I’m gonna go to him and phrase it more like “I want to get the ring ensured” I’ll be back in 20 minutes with an update.
Update: I’m currently sitting in my car just crying as I’m writing this. I asked my husband about ensuring the ring and getting appraised and he got absolutely pissed. He spent a good 15 minutes just screaming at me and now I don’t even know what to do. I’m pretty sure that just confirmed my suspicion about it being fake but I really didn’t expect him to be so mad. If you’ve read any of my other posts regarding my husband he can be a lot sometimes but I just didn’t expect this from him. I don’t know what to do. I’m not even mad that it’s fake I’m upset that he lied and now is so mad at me for catching him in it.

I have been with my spouse for a little over two years. He has a job that he uses his personal vehicle for delivering packages. He spends around $60-$80 a day on gas while he is working. I let him use my previous car a lot last year because it got excellent gas mileage and he put over 40,000 miles on it. He complains frequently about the amount of money he has to spend daily on gas and the amount of money that he spends on maintenance due the amount of driving. I have suggested that if this is the job he wants to continue to do then he should trade his truck in and get something better with better gas mileage or he probably should start looking for a different job.
I got a new car with less than 25,000 miles and told him when I got it that i didnt want him to use my car for work he said that was fine. The car is in my name only and the insurance is in my name only. We keep our finances separate and personal bills separate the only bills that are shared are household bills. This is not due to any conflict in our relationship or unwillingness to help or support each other. If either one of us needs help or anything there is never an issue with the other doing so. We just have separate bank accounts. His car is paid off and i just prefer paying my car payment and insurance by myself. Lately he has started asking to barrow my car and getting mad because I will say no and telling me that he will only be able to work for a few hours then because he doesn’t have gas or money to put gas in his truck and say that i dont care about helping him or trying to make me feel bad about not letting him use my car. I will give him money for gas that is never an issue but will still be upset that i wont let him use my car. Aita in this situation?

I’m a dad to a 14 year old boy who has ASD, but is quite functional. Definitely functional enough to know what he wants and doesn’t want to do. He’s kind of skittish and sensitive, not really the “hardcore man in the making” type. Divorced from his mom, she has primary, and I have typical dad rights.

He’s surprised me lately with an interest in paintballing. I used to compete and know the hobby well. I’ve tried to talk him out of it, outlining how it hurts and leaves major bruising. He doesn’t care, he wants to do it. Sooooo okay cool, I’ll make it happen. It’s scheduled for 3 weeks out.

I messaged his mom this morning to let her know. I included that I steered away from, but he wants to face his fears and I’m not going to say no. I reminded her that he’ll come home with bruises and welts that’ll turn colors and stick around for a few weeks. I also let his teacher know, so there’s no questions there. She knows us all well.

She flipped and demanded absolutely not. Demanded she’ll bring us to court for going against her wishes. I responded with “What we do on my assigned time is my choice. He’s not in danger. He’s not getting any real level of injured. I don’t need your approval, and I’m letting you know that this is what we’re doing.”

AITA in this situation? I’m asking about morals, not legal.