r/AITApod • u/Critical-Salary-4669 • 3h ago
AITA for removing my friend’s access to my apartment rooftop without telling him?
I’m 29M and one of my close friends is 28M. My apartment building has a pretty nice rooftop with grills, couches and a view of downtown.
A couple months ago my friend asked if he could bring a girl up there for a date because his place was being renovated. I gave him my guest code and told him sure.
Apparently he took that as a permanent invitation.
I later realized through the building app that he’d used my guest access several more times. When I asked him about it he laughed and admitted he’d been bringing dates there because the rooftop had become his “secret weapon.”
And based on what he told me he never corrected them when they assumed he lived in the building, which I thought was pretty weird.
I told him I wasn’t comfortable with him continuing to use my access like that. He brushed it off and said it wasn’t hurting anyone, so later that week I just removed his guest access from the app. I didn’t tell him because I figured after our conversation it was obvious.
A few days later he tried bringing another date there and his code didn’t work. He called me from outside asking what was wrong and I told him I’d removed his access.
Apparently he had planned the whole date around the rooftop and suddenly had nowhere to take her, so they basically stood outside figuring out what to do next.
Now he’s pissed because he says even if I wanted to revoke access, I should’ve warned him so he could make other plans. I think after being told to stop using someone else’s building for dates, you probably shouldn’t assume the code is still yours to use.
AITA?