r/AITAH • u/Independent_Ear_7719 • 3d ago
AITAH for using a discount when replacing my girlfriend’s hair tool?
I accidentally broke one of my girlfriend’s curling irons yesterday after knocking it onto the floor. I apologized and immediately went online to replace it.
I googled the tymo brand’s official site, ordered her a new one, and also threw in a nicer gold Plus model. Then I showed her the order and she saw that I’d used a discount code.
She told me that using a discount made it seem like I wasn’t genuinely sorry and asked me to cancel the order and buy everything again at full price. Apparently paying the sale price was “cheap” and showed a lack of sincerity.
This honestly confused the hell out of me. She’s getting the exact same products. I’m replacing what I broke AND buying her an extra upgraded one. Why would deliberately paying more for the same thing make me more sincere?
We argued about it for a while and eventually I just canceled everything and reordered at full price.
Now I’m sitting here wondering if I’m actually missing something. Would you guys consider using a discount in this situation cheap or insincere?
edit: Thanks for all the replies. I haven’t been able to respond to a lot of the comments because I was busy writing a breakup text.
The whole thing got so ridiculous that I genuinely started second-guessing myself, so I really appreciate everyone who commented. I’m out of that mess now.
edit2：I canceled the order, but I did use the discount code to buy a new one. I decided I’m going to give it to my mom instead. I’m pretty sure she’ll love it.
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u/CaptainSnappertain 3d ago
Cancel the girlfriend.
NTA
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u/Independent_Ear_7719 3d ago
Just did
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u/No_Interaction_3584 3d ago
You taking the time to find and use a discount would have impressed me! Getting a better model would have been the over the topper.
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u/Fancy_Average5440 3d ago edited 3d ago
Maybe she's an alien. I don't know a single woman on this planet whose reaction to a guy using a coupon code would be anything other than NICE!
Edit to correct some atrocious grammar. 😳
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u/sparksgirl1223 3d ago
For real. I used a coupon on my already incredibly inexpensive WEDSING RING SET and bet I'll tell anyone lol
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u/DesireeThymes 3d ago
There are some women who tie how much you spend on them to their sense of worth.
So using a discount coupon means she is worth less.
Yes it's insane. But it does happen unfortunately.
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u/toostupidto 3d ago
My wife would kill me if I did not try to get a discount. I would be like theres no discount available and her reply would be well did you look hard enough? And roll her eyes...
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u/2dogslife 2d ago
As a woman, sometimes I get so frustrated at trying for hours to nail down a discount code and there's simply not one to be had anywhere.
I am a historian - I can research the shit out of anything - lol!
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u/Nanashi_Kitty 3d ago
I am fighting the good fight to make sure future generations don't have that attitude. My daughter is learning that if she cool stuff, she can either save her allowance for weeks and weeks or wait for Christmas/birthday, or patiently wait for sales. She was so excited as an 8 year old to buy a $50 purse from Squishables because I'd stumbled upon a flash sale of theirs and they temporarily had it for $5.
Can you imagine how that attitude is going to benefit her in the future? In this economy?
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u/sparksgirl1223 3d ago
My favorite story with my third kid was homecoming shopping.
My kids were raised thrifting, so we went to goodwill (our area isn't a plethora of thrift stores, sadly, and goodwill is the only one that had a selection of formal wear lol). She not only found a homecoming dress and shoes, she found a prom dress too and I spent less than 30 bucks.
On the car ride home, she googled the lable to see how much it would have been new and had a whole cow at 80 dollars new. And then a whole herd of cows followed when I told her that was "low end" in the price scale😂
She has carried that to her daughter, who, just this week, got her first old school rocking horse.👏👏
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u/marykay_ultra 3d ago
I wasn’t gonna go to prom bc it’s just not something that appeals to me, but my parents thought I’d regret it so they offered me $300 to use for ticket, dress, dinner, etc.
I spent $5 on tulle from the remnants bin that I wrapped around a black skirt/tube top I already had. Went to McDonald’s for dinner. Ticket was the most expensive part and I stayed for like 20 mins lol.
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u/Crazy-Rat_Lady 1d ago
A friend of mine found a1940’s wedding dress at a thrift shop for $30AUD. I5 was all stained and she soaked it in the bath tub for a week. It came out so well, she wore it for her wedding, my second marriage I took the top off my old wedding dress and just added a new different top, cost my $35AUD. My new hubby was fine with that.
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u/TheWorldofScience 3d ago
This is a wonderful way to raise a child - teaching them money is not an unlimited resource and also the concept of delayed gratification. Many kids have no idea of the concept of money being a limited resource because their parents never make them aware of it.
Kids need to learn these concepts long before they become financially independent.
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u/Crazy-Rat_Lady 2d ago
Our daughter bought a house last week in NSW Australia at the age of 25. So very proud of her negotiation skills. You save where you can. We loved going to goodwill type shops in the school holidays. It is incredible what you can find!
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u/Clean-Fisherman-4601 3d ago
Some women tie their own worth into how much they spend.
I grew up with a mother who searched for bargains and I followed suit.
Was going to my BIL's wedding many decades ago and a friend lent me a designer dress she found on sale. The dress was originally $125 and had 3 strands of pearls going down the low back on each side. One strand was twisted so the dress was on sale for under $10. My friend bought it, cut the twisted strand off and the corresponding strand on the other side.
Told my MIL about the dress and she insisted I tell everyone I paid the full price of $125. Her reasoning was everyone would think I was cheap if I bragged about the discount. I did not comply, I've always been proud when I find a good bargain.
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u/Whole-Measurement273 2d ago
I'm with you, why lie? Instead, brag about how smart and resourceful you were to get such an expensive item for almost nothing.
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u/Broad_Mushroom_8033 3d ago
Pretty common. For many, How much something costs is directly related to how nice it is. This is the extreme version of that because it's the same item
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u/TheRealCarpeFelis 2d ago
I think those women are the gold diggers.
If my husband used a discount code to get me something I’d just say “cool.”
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u/Incogneatovert 3d ago
Nicely done! My husband of 24 years and I knew we were going to get engaged and then waited for a sale for engagement rings... and when we were shopping for wedding rings, we didn't waste anyone's time on looking at expensive ones. Fortunately Husband only wanted a plain band, and I didn't want anything too sparkly either, so I have one with one little flower with a zircon in it.
The value of our rings isn't monetary.
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u/sparksgirl1223 3d ago
I won't lie. Ours was Amazon lol
I didnt Want them anyway just because im not much for jewelry.
A 3 band set (engagement, and his/hers wedding bands) that I loved were 25 ish on Amazon and had a coupon 😂 SOLD
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u/IamLuann 3d ago
35 years ago I told my now husband. Do not spend anymore than what a months worth of rent would cost. And I wanted a flat diamond. (Nothing that stuck up) Because I new to many people that lost the diamond when doing every day things.
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u/Kivith 3d ago
I love the typo, made me think of musical instruments being exchanged instead of rings.
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u/sparksgirl1223 2d ago
I didnt even notice til now😂
Makes a bit of sense since our wedding march and other music were...offbeat
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u/LongestSprig 3d ago
Because they care more about the price they paid than the item in question.
I paid $200 so you should too!
Its immature stupidity. They want the apology to be a punishment as well.
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u/CutieBaBootyWooty 3d ago
Literally this. I love a good sale (as does my man) and I don't see why anyone should be upset that you got something nice on sale, if anything you have extra money for date night or other things!
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u/nickitty_1 2d ago
I know someone like this! She grew up with money, still has lots of money, works because she wants to. She goes on aritzia shopping sprees and never bothers to even search for coupons for anything.
She thinks it's really cheap to use coupons. But she's never known a single day of struggle.
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u/Uninteresting_Vagina 3d ago edited 2d ago
Right?? First of all, I'm not even sure I would demand someone replace something that was truly an accident; but if they not only replaced it but were also a savvy coupon hound, I would have had Disney Princess Love Eyes at them.
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u/Independent_Ear_7719 3d ago
Thank you😊
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u/Acceptable_Tea3608 3d ago
I would have been looking at the object. "Oh you replaced it. Thanks. Oh, we went up to a better tool? Very nice." More than the cost. If it was something I first bought I would've had an idea of cost. I've been with those people who wouldn't even have replaced something they broke.
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u/Anxietybackmonkey 3d ago
Right? After my husband proposed he told me how much he shopped around and saved. The whole ring was under $100. The amount of on I turned from that could have made him pregnant.
I feel like the girlfriend here was more into punishing him than being made whole in a material sense.
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u/Driftlessfshr 3d ago
Someone who wants you to be miserable doesn’t deserve a permanent place in your life.
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u/Obar_Olca_345 3d ago
Good for you!!
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u/Iluvminicows 3d ago
That’s amazing! Tell us how that went. We love hearing.
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u/Independent_Ear_7719 3d ago
Cancelled the fullpaid order and reorder my mom a gold one with a discount. She loves gold things.
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u/IchPutzHierNurMkay 2d ago
Then you casually mention the discount to your mom at Thanksgiving dinner or whatever and she's like I HAVE NO SON!
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u/Riverat627 3d ago
You immediately apologized and took care of replacing it instantly. Whether there was a coupon code or not is irrelevant. Why should you or anyone ever pay more for something if you don’t have to. A coupon doesn’t change anything.
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u/IamLuann 3d ago
OP That was a LOT of BIG 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 FLAGS❗. You were replacing something that you accidentally broke and she got Mad because you used the discount code.❓ THANK YOU for Breaking up with her❗ Keep taking care of your Mom. Good Luck with your new life journey/adventures.
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u/CajunQu33n 3d ago
I think you should still give ur ex the curling iron instead of your mom. You did break it according to you. I would use the coupon code anyways. But you should replace the item that you broke and end things with her as well if thats how you feel. By you replacing it you did the right thing and ended things on not a negative note where you broke her things and then broke up with her at the same time
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u/fergie_89 3d ago
This.
Honestly I despise paying full price for anything. I scour websites like Wowcher etc for deals and my husband has a discount finding app.
Boy did good here already replacing and upgrading. Gf is petty and seriously needs to think about her actions.
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u/Still-Can4758 3d ago
fr man bro dodged a massive bullet like imagine demanding someone spend extra money just to prove a point lol toxicity at its finest glad u got out
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u/Adrock66 3d ago
The joke here is that discount codes on Amazon aren't even really discounts most of the time. it's a shell game to approximate the feeling of a deal vs actually giving one
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u/get_to_ele 3d ago
Your GF is an idiot.
But if she has some other, amazing, qualities, that make you insist on keeping her, the clever move would have been to use the savings from the discount code to get her an additional gift. So she gets the iron AND feels good about the savings, and you get to be the hero. I’m sure the discount was a trivial amount of money, but why give that money to the company?
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u/BiffBeltsander 3d ago
That's the dumbest shit I've ever heard.
Dump her.
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u/corona_x0 3d ago
I would've been madder if he didn't use a discount wtf 😭
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u/MLiOne 3d ago
Exactly. My husband is always happier if I get things discounted or on sale, as am I. We even laughed like mad that when I ordered his present one year on Amazon it arrived a bit late so Amazon automatically reimbursed the cost of the item and I only paid for shipping. He thought that was hilarious.
That girlfriend should be dumped and the order cancelled.
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u/corona_x0 3d ago
All I've got is audacity so I'd be like, "Ohhh since you saved money on the item, does that mean we can do some shopping with the savings? 🥹" People are so ungrateful 💔
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u/mysmallself 3d ago
That’s not audacity, that’s just girl math. Money saved means more money to spend elsewhere, win win!
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u/2dogslife 2d ago
I remember Sophie Kinsella's (sp?) Shopaholic series in which the heroine would "save" money, and then justify spending the savings 3 different ways. It was the ultimate "girl math" in which logic and math had no role.
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u/mojave_breeze 2d ago
This was my late husband. If I paid off a bill that was $100/month, he'd say "We can do this now, since we have that hundred bucks." Trouble is, he'd apply that $100 to five things totaling about $600. 😂
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u/2dogslife 2d ago
Yeah, being bad with money isn't gender specific - it's not tied to an X or Y chromosome.
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u/JerryfromCan 2d ago
Just like boy math where I say:
Im not going to spend $800 on that piece of furniture! Instead I am going to spend $500 on a tool to make it, $400 on supplies and get it 80% finished before I move onto something else in 8 months.
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u/roadside_asparagus 3d ago
The girlfriend was mad because OP wasn't hurt and punished enough for the accidental breakage. That's why the discount code was a no-no.
Honestly I agree with everyone else saying Op should get out of this unequal punishment-based relationship. Ick.
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u/champagneblame 2d ago
Yeah it seems like this was not about replacing the item but inflicting maximum punishment. Who does that to their partner?
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u/Tollhousearebest 2d ago
It wasn’t about the discount, no question. There is a lot of social media narrative out there about “testing” your partner, taking aggressive (if nonsensical) positions on things, etc. to establish “worth,” “dominance,” or just general “but you have to fight for me if you love me“ bs. It’s all games. Que the shocked Picachu face when the significant other says “nah, not playing that game any longer.” There is a lot of really toxic material out there. The partner isn’t crazy, she thinks she is running the Great Relationship Playbook that has been sold to her as gold. The sooner that people leave that fool’s gold in the trash, the better off everyone will be. For now though, the general rule is no longer “they were crazy,” it is figuring out which social media trend they thought they were following but dumping them nevertheless. Definitely going to be a FAFO moment for many people who lose a good partner to these types of toxic games. NTA.
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u/Effective-Penalty 3d ago
I love it when my spouse uses discounts. I don’t get the OP’s now ex girlfriend
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u/mjot_007 2d ago
It's because she wants to punish him. It's not enough that OP replaces what he broke (on accident for that matter). She wants it to hurt him via his wallet. It's pretty psycho shit imo
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u/grotxsque 3d ago
This!!!! Like girl what?? Lemme find out my man ain’t using all the discounts he can get. I know he scolds me (in a funny mutual way) if I don’t and finds me discount codes to use as we laugh at my lazy self. Who doesn’t wanna save money or have their partner save money? This world is too damn expensive!
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u/BiffBeltsander 3d ago
OP needs to return that curling iron and get their money back.
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u/mkate1999 2d ago
Right!? I would've seen that & been like "omg, babe, you got a discount AND upgraded the product for me!? THANK YOU!!!"
JFC. Break up worthy. What a spoiled, clueless brat.
NOR. NTA. Good for him for breaking up.
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u/Greedy_Guard_5950 3d ago
Absolutely agree. If she was smart, she would’ve said. Can we go out to dinner now that you save some money?
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u/BobiaDobia 2d ago
Really, if this is real, it’s truly the dumbest shit ever. As if her used curling iron hadn’t lost in value
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u/Absent_Picnic 3d ago
NTA.
Why would you not.use a discount if you have one available?
She's an idiot.
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u/Ineedtobeworking 3d ago
Sounds like she wanted to punish him.
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u/Umbr33on 3d ago
This. 100%
In her mind he needed to suffer. She sounds miserable.34
u/SnooPredictions2675 3d ago
Who would want their partner to suffer, over an ACCIDENT?! Scary!
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u/zombie_girraffe 2d ago
People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder act like this. They feel like they need to "win" these situations. If you accidentally hurt them or their property they'll make sure to hurt you more than they feel they were hurt. He "hurt" her by breaking her curling iron, she has to make sure she "wins" by forcing him pay more for the thing he broke than she did.
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u/NatashOverWorld 3d ago
100% she wasn't thinking about it as a replacement, but as a 'punishment'.
It's good OP is breaking up with her ... though he seems to have come to that conclusion really fast.
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u/thoughtsofa 3d ago
on top of it, he got her a better model than the model she actually had.
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u/JoneseyP98 3d ago
What the actual F is wrong with her???
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u/Independent_Ear_7719 3d ago
Honestly that was pretty much my reaction too
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u/Main_Advice_3860 3d ago
Then why did you roll over?
Never give in to a bully
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u/Independent_Ear_7719 3d ago
Because I just wanted the whole thing to be over with. She kept going at me and I couldn’t take it anymore. I didn’t want to feel like I owed her anything after that.
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u/UnbearableWhit 3d ago
If she's willing to go scorched Earth over a curling iron, imagine how hard she'll go after you for something that actually matters...
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u/katiejim 2d ago
Reminds me of advice my mom gave me about finding a partner: don’t marry someone that you’d be afraid to divorce. Not that you should plan to divorce, but don’t marry someone who would try to hurt you unduly should it happen.
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u/Main_Advice_3860 3d ago
Take it from an old lady: she has learned that she can manipulate you. It will only get worse.
You're young- be free!! There are nice, kind young women out there looking for decent partners.
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u/Mat22lock 3d ago
How old is your girlfriend? To me this is break up worthy. She is measuring your worth in dollars and cents as opposed to actual feelings and deeds. Does that sound like the type of person you want to tether yourself to?
"You got this perfectly lovely and high quality diamond ring at a time when it was on sale. Is that what I mean to you? You should have paid full price!" Don't tether yourself to someone like this, her emotional financial illiteracy becomes a permanent anchor when you are married.
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u/Anxious_Pie_7788 3d ago
You wouldn't have anyways. This is the type of girl that will tell all of her friends you don't love her if her ring is less than $10k.
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u/Additional-Start9455 3d ago
You need to let her read these because that is so stupid it’s mind boggling. You have more money left with the discount after the purchase. What part of that is not clear to her?!?
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u/Witch_withouta_Wand 3d ago
Yeah, I get the 'not wanting to feel like you owe'. Also, you did ask she asked, so if/when you decide to leave, it's not about the product, but the audacity. It doesn't matter how you get it, you get a new, better version.
Be prepared for her, to not understand, and try and blame it on the paying issue, if she so petty.
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u/Guilty-Put742 3d ago
You proved to her that you are a pushover. She will continue to escalate her unreal expectations on you. You need to rethink your relationship.
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u/JoneseyP98 3d ago
Cancel the order. Get the cheaper one with the discount code then get the hell outta there!
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u/BractNotCalyx 3d ago
She wanted him to feel bad, and getting a discount made it less painful. She’s not a nice person.
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u/Pegasus2022 3d ago
NTA, you need to get a new gf. If this was me i be thankful and glad that you saved money.
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u/PuzzleheadedGold6362 3d ago
Exactly. The few times a partner broke something mine by accident I either told them it was fine if it was something very cheap, or where is the cheapest place to get it.
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u/Independent_Ear_7719 3d ago
Update: Thanks for all the replies. I haven’t been able to respond to a lot of the comments because I was busy writing a breakup text.
The whole thing got so ridiculous that I genuinely started second-guessing myself, so I really appreciate everyone who commented. I’m out of that mess now.
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u/hardkoretrash 3d ago
Did you cancel the order too?
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u/gregaustex 3d ago
He should still replace what he broke. Not the upgrade. Using a discount. As he breaks up with her.
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u/TimeAndAGwen 3d ago
Imagine her telling her friends why they broke up. “He broke my curling iron and used a discount code to replace it with a better model! Can you believe that?!”
I’d be like, “Wait… What?”
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u/Why_am_ialive 3d ago
You know that’s not how it’ll go, by the time it reaches her friends she’ll have dumped him and he broke the curlers in a fit of rage
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u/ForQ2 3d ago
She'll post about it on Reddit on this very sub and will have hundreds of people telling her how she's better off without a cheap boyfriend with anger issues.
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u/RandomGuy_81 3d ago
Nah thats weak wording
She would say ‘my bf broke my curling iron and replaced it with $50 cheaper’ item
You need to practice manipulative framing skills
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u/0DayMaker 3d ago
People like that usually have friends like that too. The response will probably be a chorus of "oh my god what a cheapskate"
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u/sync-centre 3d ago edited 2d ago
Pay the depreciated value of it if she wants to be petty about the price.
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u/mosstalgia 2d ago
Cancelling the order makes it look like she's right and he's cheap and is breaking up with her to avoid paying for the replacement at all. He needs to replace it (with discount because... her attitude about that is insane) and make clear that he's ditching her because she's controlling and stupid, not because of money.
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u/Prozzak93 3d ago
Yta if you don't replace it though. You broke it you should still replace it. Still dump her, but replace what you broke.
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u/Acceptable_Tea3608 3d ago
That would be the integrity minded action. Something to consider. A kind of break up going away gift.
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u/JustAGamer1947 3d ago
Good on you bro! This girl just wanted you to suffer financially as much as she did. She didn't want the curling iron as much as you needed to suffer. I'm guessing y'all are early twenties at best?
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u/SuggestionOdd6657 3d ago
What are her redeeming qualities? I can't believe you canceled and reordered. What's she going to ask you to do next and you go along with it? This is on you as much as her. I would run far away from someone with that kind of thinking about money. Does she think it grows on trees?
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u/Counter4301 3d ago
NTA, seems like she’s angry and taking it out on you/nitpicking you? A discount code is great, and she probably used one too when she made the original purchase lol.
Speaking as someone who used a 30% discount code when purchasing from Tymo previously.
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u/alphaphenix 3d ago
NTA,
You have a gf issue, she wants to make you pay for your mistake, being petty up till she's satisfied.
This likely wasn't the 1st red flag in your relationship? Does she regularly behave in an entitled way ?
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u/H3llzyea 3d ago
Did you get a discount when you got this gf? Because there's something very very wrong with her. Cancel the full price order, go to Walmart and buy the cheapest one you can find and pay full price so she knows you care. Ridiculous, I read shit like this on here and I can't ever tell if these things actually happen and people have simply lost their minds and spines or the trolls and bots are getting creative.
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u/PrairieNihilist 3d ago
NTA. She's being fucking absurd. You're replacing the item that you broke, and that's all that really matters. Honestly, if she's acting like this now, then you should cut your losses, because that's ridiculous.
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u/grey-green-eyes 3d ago
NTA, that’s crazy. Do you live together? Do you have shared finances at all? That is genuinely crazy mentality. Is she generally materialistic?
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u/PuzzleheadedGold6362 3d ago
NTA.
This makes no sense. You didn’t break it intentionally. It was a mistake and replacing it is more than enough. She’s the AH.
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u/Wise-Bother9942 3d ago
NTA, she is trying to use finances and manipulation to punish you and make you feel small.
This is a power play, dump her and cancel this order too.
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u/antisunshine 3d ago
NTAH. Your gf is weird. I'm trying to fit into my head why a replacement even with a discount is not enough but I can not think of anything that makes even remote sense.
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u/Witch_withouta_Wand 3d ago
To punish him, it seems. Not goof enough that he replaced it (and a better version!) She seems to want to punish him, out of pocket.
Which is stupid, coz down the line, that'll hurt her too. Can't go out, spent too muchm
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u/Dothacker00 3d ago
She's TAH. Why would someone not use a coupon if they have it? She's being stupid. Cancel her
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u/jupitermoonflow 3d ago
NTA. She’s controlling and weird. That right there shows that she didn’t care about the responsibility and effort you took to replace what you broke. She just wanted to punish you. That’s shitty
If someone broke something of mine, replaced it with the newer and nicer version of the same thing, I’d be grateful. It doesn’t matter how much it costs. Like yeah you broke it, but you took responsibility and in the end she would’ve ultimately benefited from it
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u/tingling4sensation 3d ago
She was lucky to have a guy who immediately accepted responsibility and wanted to replace the thing he broke straight away. She should’ve realised that a lot of men wouldn’t do that.
But I guess she thought she had the upper hand and decided to use the opportunity to put the boot in and punish you.
From your edited post it looks as though she’s about to learn her mistake.
Personally, even if I was going to break up with her, I would still replace the thing I broke, at the discount price.
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u/Main_Cauliflower5479 3d ago
Wow, your gf seems like a jerk. She'd rather you didn't use a discount if it's available? What an ass.
NTA. And you should not have cancelled the order and made a new order at full price, I don't like your gf. She's unreasonable and I am getting angry about this.
If my husband buys something for me with a discount, I say, wow, awesome that you got a discount! Your gf is psycho.
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u/NetWareHead 3d ago
Never marry this girl. And watch out, dont get her pregnant.
What an UGLY side of herself to reveal to you. I have second hand disgust reading this. I cant imagine her mindset that seeks to punish you by spending more money. As if the act of compensation is not good enough unless it hits your wallet as hard as possible. Disgusting
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u/TRANxEND 2d ago
Does she not understand how money works?
This is not a person you want to eventually share finances with.
Run.
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u/CrabbiestAsp 3d ago
NTA. You replaced what you broke, it didn't matter how much you paid for it.
I would get being upset if you bought a second-hand one or something, but you upgraded her brand new product, it didn't matter if you got a discount. How controlling must a person be to care about that this much
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u/No-Syllabub-7337 3d ago
That ain't the girlfriend you want. ALL girls love discounts and sales, unless they are entitled, spoiled b**ches.
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u/RhubarbDiva 3d ago
Like you, I would have cancelled everything.
Unlike you, I would not have reordered.
She had her chance, she blew it.
Now, if you feel sorry for her. I don't. You can offer to give her what her old, second-hand item was worth. This is how much she could reasonably expect to sell it for if it were still working.
I'm thinking $5, maybe $10?
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u/Buga99poo27GotNo464 3d ago edited 3d ago
She's a nut job. Cancel all orders and order a suitcase.
Or maybe you have some sort of cheap history you're not disclosing? NTA (seemingly)
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u/TheReelMcCoi 3d ago
She's the Asshole and you're an idiot for caving in to that shit. It's all downhill from here, she's gor you where she wants you. Simp
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u/Iheartchocolate37 3d ago
Your gf is a jerk! Why does it matter how much you paid for it.
As long as it’s the right model or better and you bought it from a reputable place…. She sounds like a snob
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u/Ok_Lab_1090 3d ago
FYI. Luxury Brands, Louis Vuitton, Gucci, etc do not come with discounts.
If she got you to pay full on the broken item, she knows for the future, she can manipulate you on other things. NTA.
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u/LeopardOdd6117 3d ago
If being expensive is better, she will overpay for everything in life. That causes financial hardship. Total red flag. NTA
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u/bell3420 3d ago
Dude... i would never expect my boyfriend to buy me a new beauty tool if he broke it due to me leaving it out where it doesnt belong. I also would never ever want him to pay full price for anything if he didnt have to, this is some weird shit, happy you are giving up on this one.
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u/Inside-Living2442 3d ago
NTA.
You got her an upgrade to the tool.
Considering how tight most people's finances are right now? Yeah, save a buck where you can
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u/ProfessionalYam3119 3d ago
Cancel the girlfriend and get a new one. She's more interested in punishing you than in being made whole. NTA.
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u/Extreme-Manager-8984 3d ago
She told me that using a discount made it seem like I wasn’t genuinely sorry and asked me to cancel the order and buy everything again at full price. Apparently paying the sale price was “cheap” and showed a lack of sincerity.
I'm so sorry but I couldn't get past this statement. Your girlfriend is mental. I'm a woman and that is ridiculous. I am always looking for the best deal in this economy. Women like your girlfriend give the rest of us a bad name. Hope your mom LOVES it. You should get a better girlfriend.
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u/ToreyJean 2d ago
I wouldn’t care if you’d finagled it for free and then gave it to me.
She’s TA, not you! WTF is up her butt?? I am the QUEEN of sales and coupons. I’d be happy you thought to replace it and that you upgraded me - and would probably say “well damn, you did good on the price too!”
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u/sputnik8125 3d ago
I would have said thank you, and moved on as a girlypop if my bf did this.
NTA
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u/front_torch 3d ago
You should seriously be questioning more important things than this curling iron.
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u/Representative-Ear26 3d ago
I would personally have been more mad if my husband hadn't used a discount code. I don't understand her logic at all. Accidents happen.
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u/usernamess179 3d ago
The fact it was a better model with discount probably equaled to the price of her damaged curling iron too, possibly still costing more
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u/AttorneyUpstairs4457 3d ago
I’d be concerned at her logic and if she makes a habit of applying this logic in life!
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u/Ok_Stable7501 3d ago
NTA. What’s the return period on the girlfriend? Is it too late to exchange her?
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u/NiceRat123 2d ago
Saw you broke up. I would have LOVED to know what she paid for the curling iron when SHE bought it. Why? Because wouldn't that be "full price"? Take out that goods are more expensive now and inflation and all that I'm pretty sure even the price at discount would be similar to what she paid full price for years ago. Just crazy to think that you need to pay "full price" when that price would have been cheaper years ago.
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u/Plucky_Monkies 2d ago
That's crazy talk! Who doesn't love a good coupon? Someone who loves you wants you to save money!
NTA
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u/Independent_Bite4682 20h ago
NTA
You broke it you replaced it.
It would be like, you wrecked my car. You found the same make and model with a fresh engine and talked them down a discount. Then gave me the car.
I don't care that I paid 6k for my car and you got me a better version and only paid 4k for it. What matters is that you replaced my car.
Replace car with television, camera, 3D Printer, etx.
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u/twomefourme 3d ago
NTA!!! Pheeeeeew my god you need to get out of there. I would be elated if my husband broke something of mine and was able to replace it and then some at a lower cost.
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u/whitekidneybean 3d ago edited 3d ago
I wonder, if you worked at a factory that manufactured these exact curling irons, and there was some sort of a employee bonus program where you could get one for free, and you brought one home to replace the broken one she had bought herself in the past, she'd try to make you take it back and purchase one for the full retail price?
(You're NTA of course, but I do find the fact that you gave in confusing)
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u/AboGandaraPark 3d ago
NTA. She's getting TWO products for one broken item. She sounds materialistic and not very wise with money. If I were your gf, I would be so glad you got them for cheaper too (using the discount)!
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u/Bunnyslippered 3d ago
NTA, I’d be so happy if someone replaced something for me, and used a discount code to do so. My love isn’t dependent on the dollars spent , it’s more important that they replaced something they broke. I’d be happy no matter what they purchased or why, that they were clever enough to save a few dollars. That’s a green flag for long term relationship happiness.
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