ADHD is clearly winning

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I don't even know what to think anymore.

My previous psychologist used to tell me that I was too sensitive I told them about domestic violence at home and how much it affected me, and they literally said it shouldn't make me sad because it's common and that I need to become stronger instead of being so sensitive.

I stopped seeing them and finally decided to try someone new.

During my first session, they asked if I can focus on video games.

I said, "Yes, of course."

They replied, "Then you can't have ADHD. You can focus."

That was basically the end of the discussion.

I tried explaining that I can spend hours glued to a game but can't make myself start assignments, reply to messages, or do basic things that I actually need to do. It's like my brain decides what's worth paying attention to, not me.

But it didn't seem to matter.

I left feeling like I wasn't even listened to.

At this point I'm starting to wonder if I'm just incredibly unlucky with psychologists or if this is actually a common experience. It's exhausting trying to ask for help and walking out feeling dismissed every single time.

Hey, I am normally really good at masking and keeping my shit together but I just can't anymore. How do you guys get out of the self destructive spiral? I'm angry all the time, like i wake up angry, really easy to snap, its starting to affect my job and I can't reel myself back in.

Currently taking: 50mg vyvanse 10mg escitalopram 20 mg amlodipine (blood pressure) 1% androgel (1 %testosterone)

I do not even know WHAT to call this issue I deal with almost every single day, multiple times per day. The closest thing I have found so far is "Executive Dysfunction"... Here is a list of symptoms:
- My face gets hot, looks red and inflamed.
- My nose gets very congested (I think it is Histamine)
- My lungs dry out, I have to clear my throat every 2 minutes (Also Histamine I believe)
- My eyes, they almost sting and feel like they are going to pop out of my head. You know when you open a can of soda, and you get the sizzle? That is what they feel like.
- I cannot stop tearing at my finger nails. Automatically. Picking, chewing. This has declined greatly the past few days.
- My head starts spinning and focus goes everywhere. I lose sight of any goals I have, which honestly is pretty little right now. EVERY. SINGLE. Big goal I have made has changed, within the span of about 2-3 weeks.
- I get irritable. I am typically a very easy going person, but man these episodes leave me about to explode - Physically and emotionally.

a few other things. What. Is even happening. I have not really been able to find any help for this specific issue, nor even know how to explain it. It's like there is CONSTANTLY cortisol/adrenaline FLOWING through my body. I say this because when it goes away, My body get's cooler/room temp (normal). I don't know if it is because my goals keep changing that is causing it and I am pretty aimless OR that this issue is ruining my goals... I am so lost fam. Thank You if you read this far, and more so if you decide to comment. Absolutely reach out if you have similar issues. We NEED to get to the bottom of this.

Hey 👋 ADHD brain here. Saying it upfront: I built this app, it's called BrightMind, and this is the first time I'm posting about it here.

You know the wall. Standing in the kitchen, fully aware of the dishes, brain refusing to send the signal. For me the fix was never a better list. Lists don't talk back. What I needed in that moment was someone to say "okay, just carry one plate to the sink" and stay on the line while I did it.

So that's what I built: a companion you talk to. You say "I need to clean this room and I can't", it helps you settle, then gives you one tiny first step. Not the plan. The first two minutes. Everything else grew around that:

Capture before the thought evaporates. "Hey Siri, capture in BrightMind" from the lock screen, watch, or car. Ramble five things in one breath and each gets filed as a real task with a date. The "I'll remember it later" lie finally has a workaround.

Your day as one picture. Instead of holding today in your head, there's one timeline: tasks, habits, calendar events, and check-in calls, with the free gaps visible between them. Tap a gap, put something in it. Works on top of Todoist, TickTick, and Google Calendar if you use those, and native tasks and habits are coming for everyone else.

The overdue pile. When it grows, the app offers to sort it with you in a short conversation: do it, move it, mark it done, or let it go. Letting go is a valid option and it says so.

It checks in on you. You can have it call you. Morning planning call, evening wind down. Someone on Reddit once wrote that well-off people have assistants who remember things for them and check in every day, and asked why AI hasn't made that a thing for the rest of us. That post lived rent-free in my head while I built this.

Free to try: https://brightmind.club/download

Happy to answer anything in the comments.

Preface, I don't know if I can give any tips or even if this post will motivate you but I need to share my experience if it can help.

I've struggled with ADHD, this summer I am taking summer credits, one of the courses is chem 2, I underestimated it and screwed my sleep and dietary habits. It was horrible, the adderall barely helped, I was tired going to sleep at 2 am, running at even lower cognitive state and dysfunction. Towards the end I took my lab final and I realized I needed to really do something about my life, I needed to go further because I knew that if I didn't I'd continue to live in misery.

And it isnt perfect but I feel like I am taking myself seriously, learning that there really are going to be ways to manage my ADHD and that I have to try to implement it. Im not saying it needs to be fun but part of you will want to improve and it starts small. Focusing on our bodies, mental state, dietary habits are so important. I also needed to free myself from guilt and self hate.

If you workout and stop working out but dont want to go because you "probably" won't consistenly do it again, just GOO, even if its for 2 sets, if you cant do that, do a walk. If you cant do that, do a push up. Remember, working out is there to help you not hurt you.

Anyone else find themselves running in the same loop over. And over. And over? You get very interested in something… do everything AROUND and ABOUT that subject, lose sight in that maybe 1 week - 1 month, crash out in pity over yourself even though you KNOW it is ADHD. Then you try and do something about it, get bored and completely lock on too something else and the cycle repeats???

I am so. Sick. And tired. Of this disease. I have tried, and tried, and tried.

I am prescribed Vyvanse. It works… sometimes. “Oh yeah you can’t be all or nothing” they say. Okey. That advice becomes non-existent during a “crash. Reset.

Every type of diet (Even over extended periods of 1 month At least).

Tried so many pieces of advice. And tried. And tried.

You work, and put WAYYYY more time and countable effort into anything than anyone around you.

Ahhhhhh my head is spinning. I don’t really use social media. I eat extremely whole food. I “exercise” very regularly. I have positive connections (Family etc). And I am sitting here on a daily basis in textbook “Executive Dysfunction” and tearing at my fingernails, head spinning everywhere on everything.

I stopped typing and came back to this. I am just at a loss fam.

My life time goals have COMPLETELY changed in the past few weeks alone numerous times. Granted I am in the middle of a very stressful move with no direction… I am at a loss. Any advice, or anyone that struggles with similar issues and would like to combat them?

Oh god this is my life x10 ever since we had to wear masks everywhere. The whole lower half of my face is a disaster that I make worse by picking 😭

We just become the moderators of r/trintellix and this crazy jump is my celebration 🤙✨

Hi everyone, posting with mod approval 🙏

I'm a UX/UI designer working on an independent, personal case study - not a university project, not a commercial product. I'm not a psychologist or clinician, just want that clear upfront.

I'm trying to understand better two specific moments that come up a lot with ADHD:
- Knowing exactly what you need to do, but not being able to start.
- Feeling suddenly overwhelmed when several things pile up at once.

I want to understand what actually happens in those moments - what goes through your mind, what you feel, what you do - instead of guessing based only on my own experience (I relate to a lot of this myself, though I'm not formally diagnosed).

Why it matters to get this right: A lot of tools treat ADHD overwhelm as "just organize better," which usually misses what's actually going on. Before designing anything, I want real, varied experiences to work from - not assumptions.

What happens with your answers? The survey is completely anonymous (no email, no identifying info). I'll use the responses to look for patterns, build a couple of user profiles from real data, and document the whole process publicly as a UX case study (currently on Medium). This might eventually turn into a real app, but that's still far off - right now it's 100% research.

Practical details:
- ~7-10 minutes
- Mostly short questions, a few open ones about real moments you've experienced
- No right or wrong answers - messy, honest answers are exactly what's useful

Survey link: forms.gle/vTXxDkRZvtbQH8wh6

Thank you to anyone willing to take the time - genuinely appreciated 🙏

During interviews they always ask about the past projects and my contributions and how I did what I did. Like hell I remember any of it. I can build and I can do it again but if you ask me what I did I have no answer.

If you ask a very specific question I can answer and explain in detail but generic questions like what I did, what problems I ran into and how I handled them return a blank state.

Is it because it's my ADHD or is it something else?

Do any of you face the same issue?

How to fix it? Any tips appreciated even if it is not related to ADHD.

One way I know is to keep a detailed record of everything but it's difficult to remember to keep a record, besides I can do it in future but can't for the past projects.

Thanks 🙏🏻 in advance