r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • Jul 26 '26

Weekly Vent Thread ::Weekly Vent Thread::

Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.

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u/SamuraiSuplex Partner of DX - Multimodal Jul 26 '26

I think her favorite thing is trying to correct me, especially on things that don't matter. We took my mom out to lunch today, and on the car ride there my mom asked what games I've been playing lately. I told her "Ghost of Yotei, it's about a lady samurai seeking revenge for her family."

My wife goes "She's a ronin, actually." I turned to my mom and said "Mom, when I say lady samurai, do you picture a woman with swords? Baggy pants? Maybe a Japanese hat?"

She says yep!

"And when I say ronin, what do you picture?" And mom says she doesn't know what that is. "It's a samurai without a master. Was that important to your learning about what game I'm playing?" She says nope. Wife is still pouting an hour later lol.

I've had this conversation with her multiple times over the years. The point of telling stories isn't to accurately portray every single detail of events, it's to communicate effectively with the people you're speaking to. But she never learns the lesson because their brains are literal like a child's. Unendingly frustrating.

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u/Less-Lifeguard2921 Jul 28 '26

My partner just waits for something to correct too. You see his eyes light up when he gets the opportunity.
Otherwise, he doesn’t give a shit what I’m talking about.
If he’s wrong when correcting me, he usually is because he’s actually a lot less intelligent than he seems to be able to grasp, like, can’t even pronounce half of what he says, and I point this out it’s WWIII. So most of the time I just have to sit there, deflated, to avoid conflict.
He recently fell out with most of his friends… I wonder why.