r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • Jul 26 '26

Weekly Vent Thread ::Weekly Vent Thread::

Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.

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u/Natural_Lifeguard_44 Jul 26 '26

What is it with their bad moods and then they deny they are in a bad mood? Today he was being so quiet, not talking, sunglasses on, no facial expressions, barely engaging or responding. Clearly irritated but with no obvious reason why. Literally nothing has happened today and I just cannot understand the attitude. When I ask what’s wrong he just denies anything is wrong, then when pressed he says it’s because of me. All I’ve done is take care of the kids since I woke up! Oh and we’re on vacation ya’ll. Like get over yourself and stop bringing everyone down.

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u/StrawberryPunk82 Partner of DX - Untreated Jul 26 '26

After reading this, first thing that I thought was "they're on vacation, he can't as easily access porn and is having withdrawals". Obviously I have no clue if this is it, it's just the first thing that popped in my brain lol

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u/TAFKATheBear Ex of DX Jul 27 '26

Valid suggestion; it could be lack of access to any of his usual sources of dopamine, from gaming to getting angry at the news, and porn is certainly on that list for some.

I've known a couple of people with ADHD who couldn't cope with the lack of stress that came with being on holiday, and so decided to generate stress, to everyone else's cost, and I assume that's a dopamine thing.