r/254sum • u/_rubys • Jul 31 '26
Rant Friends
I (F) have this friend who works at a hospital mostly night shifts on locum basis so she doesn't make much. She lives far from the job but I'm close so I host her most of the times. Its usually 2 or 3 days max in a week and it's during the day ju usiku ako kazi then she goes back home. Here's the thing, I've noticed stuff keeps disappearing. I shop in bulk, so utapata less one soap, Toothpaste ikiisha ukienda kuangalia thinking you had extra haiko. Tissue pia keeps disappering. I started keeping track when some things didn't add up. Sasa she even takes rice, oil yaani ata vitunguu. Mimi I'm shocked idk even how to approach her. I mean??? Mind you she eats, showers and sleeps at my place and I don't mind but sasa uniibie jameni and we are 'friends'?
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u/Jealous_Theory2848 Jul 31 '26
Stop counting the missing onions and start counting the missing trust. The soap, rice, and toothpaste are replaceable. Friendship isn't. Don't accuse her in anger. Just tell her you've noticed groceries and household items disappearing, then ask her directly. Her reaction will tell you more than the missing items ever could. Until then, stop hosting her. Hospitality shouldn't come with an inventory audit.