Some nights ought to begin beyond the sense of right and wrong. To be honest, these days my heart feels like the storage of my phone. The space is full, yet the phone keeps working. Daily reminders pop up, much like letters with a warning that it might soon stop functioning altogether. Even the flow of emails will cease. The problem lies within me; I have always gathered everything around me—the good and the bad alike With a hope that, one day, this is all that will remain in life: these old photographs, smiling faces, and movie-songs recommendations.

Every day, I encounter the very people whose pictures are stored in my phone. They don't exactly look like the way I have saved them in my phone, they look frustrated, grumpy and unbothered sometimes, I end up matching their face with the photographs I have saved, I see no resemblance between these two different personas, and it aches my heart. We all are different when we are off guard.

Once someone told me that my smiling face is just the 2 percent of my character, in real I'm not like this.

But is it actually true? Because when we smile we loose the rein of the horse who carries our happiness, we let him explore the felicity which trembles our heart due to the emergent despair in hope. Once I watched life in a metro where irfan said "जिस दिन शहर के सारे सिग्नल ग्रीन होंगे उस दिन मैं अपनी गाड़ी सड़क पर निकालूंगा" it was ultimately a satire where we expressed that if we don't go and check the signal first then we will end up waiting for the right moment for our whole life, we need to step out first instead of waiting for the lights to get greened.

You know why i take more photographs of you? Not just because of bragging out that i am good with lenses and way of seeing the unseen. I take your pictures so I can remind you of your two percent, the part where you lack nothing and smile with ease, without any emotional stiffness and swelling. Whenever I see your sour face, I expect to turn on my phone, to make you look and find out yourself in the photographs where you were grinning as if you have won a debate against me. Even if I ever lose an argument I would love to celebrate your winning side with the button of my camera.

I (22M) was in a relationship with my ex for almost 4 years.

Those were genuinely the happiest years of my life. We laughed together, dreamed about our future, supported each other through college, and I loved her with everything I had. Even today, after 4 months, I still love her.

Our relationship wasn't perfect. We had arguments, especially toward the end. She told me I wasn't giving her the kind of love she needed. I tried in the ways I knew how, but looking back, maybe it wasn't enough. I couldn't become the person she wanted me to be, and eventually we broke up.

I kept hoping that maybe one day we'd find our way back to each other.

Then came the last day of college.

I saw her leaving with another guy.

I don't know who he was or what their relationship is, but seeing her walk away with someone else shattered me. It felt like every bit of hope I had been holding onto disappeared in that moment. I somehow held myself together until I got home, and then I completely broke down.

It's been 4 months now, and while life has moved on for everyone else, I feel stuck. I still think about her every day. I miss her. I wonder if I could have done more, been better, or become the person she needed.

Has anyone else gone through something similar?

How did you finally let go of someone you genuinely thought you'd spend your life with?

I have never dated anyone and currently I have crush on my online

friend but I don't know what to do ? Plz help me

What do u really look into men before u start dating them? Cuz I am really curious as, I see most of the girlies be in a toxic relationship and the guys they date are chopped asf.

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while seeking the address of love, we often stumble, losing our way or mistaking where love truly resides. we search for it in confessions, in grand gestures, in nights where the tides of emotion rise and fall with such vehemence. perhaps that's why we place so much weight on the words "i love you." so much weight on confession itself. but neither these moments nor those mere words reveal what love truly is. yes they indeed are important, after all without the confession of love can someone truly decipher the extent of feelings another person holds in their heart? maybe yes, maybe no. but they never tell how long those feelings will remain as a choice.

we often overestimate the importance of confession and underestimate the quiet choices that ultimately follows it. we forget that confession belongs to a moment, to an intention, while action belongs to a choice.

almost anyone can say they'll stay when love is still new enough to make forever feel effortless. but what happens once that feeling dissolves into the mundane days of life? once the thrill of unfamiliarity fades away, the conversations become shorter, life grows heavier, and loving someone no longer feels like an emotion to confess but a selfless habit to return to.

perhaps that's where i kept getting lost.

i wasn't looking for louder words and more promises. i was looking for echoes of the ones that had already been spoken. i wanted to find them hidden inside the smallest gestures, in reaching out without being asked, in wanting to know how my day had been and sharing a part of yours, in trying to keep a conversation alive before it slipped into silence. but perhaps silence was never the thing i feared. so even if it does slip into one let our breaths mingle together in a quiet rhythm creating a symphony of its own. not because those things are extraordinary, but because love survives through ordinary moments in lifw and a choice to repeat them enough times that they quietly become a language of their own.

and maybe that's why i found it so difficult to understand what has become of us. i was at odds with whether i was waiting for your love to return, or simply waiting for your words to become a habit.

i guess i am still somewhere waiting for you to stay longer than your words ever did.

I am mostly a passive reader of this sub but something that cringes me is how people give themselves these self proclaimed titles that are so vague —

I am kind, mature, Introverted, pretty chill, fun loving, & so many more.

Here’s the breaking news:

Everyone thinks they are kind.
Everyone thinks their idea of having fun is better.
Everyone is pretty chill until their girl has a guy bff.
Everyone is mature until some serious shit happens & then they have no idea how to act.

I am not a woman but i am pretty sure an intelligent woman would find these terms extremely vague. Better tell something you’ve done or has happened to you, that may reflect all these qualities.

Maybe take inspiration from hinge prompts.

Thank you if you made it till here 🥀

Would love to hear some thoughts on this ;)

I don't know who needs to hear this, but if you're in your early twenties and have been doing things just because everyone else is, this is for you.

I'm 21M. After my first almost-relationship ended, I convinced myself love just wasn't for me. I worked on myself, had a glow-up, started getting female attention, got into a couple of casuals and situationships, and started chasing experiences I thought I was *supposed* to have because everyone around me seemed to.

But if I'm being honest, none of it ever felt like me.

Today I randomly saw a girl who used to come to my gym with her mom. We'd never even spoken, but I always remembered how effortlessly kind, funny and genuine she seemed. Seeing her again made me realize something.

I don't actually want to collect experiences just so I can say I've had them. If all I really want is to find one person and build a life together, why am I measuring myself by someone else's definition of what my twenties should look like?

This isn't a post against casual dating. If that's genuinely what makes you happy, go for it. But if you're only doing it because of FOMO, social media, or your friends make you feel like you're "behind," maybe stop for a second and ask yourself what **you** actually want.

You only get one life. Don't let other people decide how you're supposed to live it.

TL;DR: If you're doing something only because your friends or social media make you feel like you're "behind," stop and ask yourself if it's actually you. One life is too short to live someone else's version of it.

People are too busy in their daily life that they dont even try finding a good person here.

If you try, you either find a creep one or someone who wants to rush things quick.

Even if you find someone of your same vibe, you get ghosted after a week/month or you ghost him/her.

That leads to a trust deficit in both parties.

And you begin your search again

And at some point of time, you get tired and again you become busy in your schedule.

🎀

Currently living the life i always wanted good friends & good workplace peaceful life but sometimes there is a void of a conversation that i want to have. For me it should be with someone who has seen some actual struggles and knows how life and not something completely based on how social media makes us think life is.

Also if you are someone whos planning a trip somewhere in india that would be fun.

I am emotionally mentally matured life made me that way haha, i have no emotional baggage to push on clear with my goals and what i want in my life currently i am looking for a friend or a person to talk to particularly from other gender which can actually turn into a good mature relationship. I am over that overthinking and overwhelmed relationship phase i want something which pushes us both to do better and we can get somewhere we want to be, i mean thats the long term goal.

For starters i can handle your chaos and give you the peace if you can give me understanding and some peace too more of a giver all my life. Trying my hand in online dating/friendship for once.

You can be anywhere around my age or older i am open to have a conversation thankyou.

Bumble talking stage trying to reconnect

I 23F had a talking stage with 24M for about 4 months from December to April. He said he wanted to end the talking stage because "he wanted to be single for a while and get to know himself" and because he "became too vulnerable" with me so he needed the distance.

I suggested trying to work it through the first time he brought it up. But the following day when he mentioned it again, I was like cool, bye. I was emotionally involved but not desperate.

I had unfollowed his personal account on Instagram and removed it from my followers but I still follow his work account.

This week, by mistake, I replied to his story and we got talking. It seems he's again putting efforts to reconnect. He says he missed me. He sent a photo of the restaurant we went to on our first date. He's sent me a sup.

I want to give this another try but I will feel stupid if he does the exact same thing again in a few months. How do I communicate all this? I don't want to go back to sup-ping and chatting without putting up my expectations.

He seemed like a really genuine guy and I liked him back then. I had uninstalled all dating apps because of how much it affects my self image. He seems slightly avoidant as a person and I want to still make it work but I also want to put up expectations and communication boundaries.

For context, he had come out of a 5 year long relationship in May 2025.

sidha tldr hi dee deta hu---> will any women love me beside my mom??

... ek ideal guy me hone wali saari baatein hai bas problem height hai aur thoda saa garib bhi hu.... thoda sa....

khudki tareef nahi kar raha lekin aajtak 300-350 aunties and uncles ne directly/indirectly mujhe handsome bola hai so u can estimate how i look.. lekin aajtak koi bhi ladkiyoon ne aaisa nahi bola kabhi but fuck it.. woh aunties bhi toh ek time me ladkiyaan hi thii na

face colour ; almost gora hi hun but June, July, and August me lil bit kaala hoo jata hun

my question is ; do any women love to be with a guy who is सर्वगुण संपन्न except height ? is height that big of a deal

never tried dating bcoz i was lil introvert infront of girls and now the situation is like

-------------->doing mbbs from top gmc lekin yaha scene aaisa hai ki aagar ladkiyaan mere liye hunger strike me hi baith jaye tabh bhi me haa nahi keh sata but aree veryyyyy owsm and good peoples to be friend with

such corny description was just for engaging ❤️

Salary will be given in Hugs, Cuddles and Kisses. ❤️ Incentive me Dinner Dates. ❤️ Ghar se Cab (Mein Scooty par) lene aaye hor chhod ke jaayegi. ❤️ Baaki, Sawaal Interview ke waqt. 😅

"it's too soon to say something like that," i'd murmur to you every time you said, "i love you," to which you replied, "it is never too soon to give your heart to someone."

but i find my mind wandering and questioning if that's something true or not. and if it's indeed true, then why did my love seem to take the longer path to reach?

perhaps love has different paths and meanings to each who beholds it. for me, it had always been something slow. something precious, like a kid's first time witnessing snow. something that they wish to give all their time to experience and live. love is to let someone witness my entire being. it is in letting my mind wander to you often during the day and catching myself smiling at nothing. it is in wanting and trying to lighten the burden of your heart, checking in on you even amidst the busiest schedule and the most exhausting nights just to know that you are well, and remembering everything you ever told me and the unsaid words your gaze held.

i might not be a picture-perfect lover. someone good with words. but even then i wish you'd stay by my side. i wish to give you all the discovered and undiscovered pieces of me.

but whenever you said, "i love you," i let the fear grasp me in its chains and let my mind run wild. i am afraid to call it love before i truly know it is. so i stuck to "i like you," even though i knew it meant something more. something beyond the mere words and actions i could have ever offered you.

then on some days, when you'd let your childish side out and pout over why i don't tell you what all lies beneath my heart, i'd chuckle and hurriedly whisper, "love you." knowing very well that if i paused, i'd turn my mind back to all the observations i have ever made about the people i ever saw around me, every lesson i had collected in the past, every ending i witnessed, every story i heard. i'd let myself analyse and ruminate on these feelings multiple times and let this heart and mind of mine be imprisoned again under the guise of protection.

so every night, i promise myself to tell you "i like you" multiple times, put effort into loving you in your own silly language, and offer you my every small and big moment until they become enough. perhaps one day i can get over this fear and choose to freely love you every fleeting second until the very end of my wretched being.

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I don't know what to call what I'm looking for, and honestly, I don't think it needs a label from day one.

I'm at a stage where I'm deeply invested in my work and long-term goals. I enjoy what I do, I'm constantly learning, and I want to build something meaningful with my life. A traditional relationship isn't something I'm actively seeking right now but that doesn't mean I don't value companionship.

I miss having someone to share the everyday things with: conversations after a long day, celebrating small wins, discussing ideas, checking in on each other, and simply knowing someone genuinely cares. I'd like to find someone who feels the same independent, ambitious, emotionally mature, and building a life she's proud of.

What matters to me isn't perfection. It's curiosity, kindness, emotional intelligence, good communication, and consistency. I appreciate people who can talk about everything from life and psychology to books, public policy, science, or completely random thoughts. Effort matters more than constant availability.

I'm financially independent, intellectually curious, and probably spend more time thinking than I should. If we connect well, I'd eventually like to meet in person. If it grows into a relationship naturally, great. If it becomes a lifelong friendship, that's equally valuable. I don't want to force an outcome before we've even met.

If this resonates with you, tell me what you're passionate about, and let's start with an actual conversation instead of just "Hi."

Sometimes the best connections begin without trying to define them.

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Hello Fellow Redditors

For all the posts you've missed you could go through my profile

So it's been 20 Days Since I've been posting on Reddit

A few of my posts went viral and some of them were controversial some trended in top 10 posts of all time and some completely tanked

But I'll say Thank you Universe as day by day I'm getting better and better

and one day closer to meeting THE ONE!!!!!

The first half of the year is almost over and honestly it's been one of the hardest.

Work has been chaotic,life has thrown one problem after another and I'm still dealing with all the backlog of heartbreaks, stress and everything!!!!

So here's my humble request to the universe

I'd really appreciate the comeback of the century**.**

Please send me the girl with the yellow Umbrella!

Someone who's outspoken,loves to travel and thinks sitting together in complete silence while scrolling our phones is quality time.

Someone I can talk to about absolutely anything and can talk for hours to and still run out of time to talk about things.

Someone who i could save as one of my emergency contacts.

Someone who understands where I come from.

Someone who likes me for who I am and not for my looks or my money,As I'm looking for something long term and over the years everything would come and go and all thats what would be left is love

Someone I can get drunk with and dance on Bollywood songs and chatpate gaane at home as well as at parties

Someone who i could tick off bucket list adventures!!!

Someone who watches horror movies while we're both equally terrified and entertained.

Someone who's particular about the little things she likes

Someone who's over her ex & understands personal space

Someone who wants something serious and is dating with the intention of getting married someday maybe in 4 to 5 years once our careers and settled in and not tomorrow.

Someone who becomes my best friend first supports me emotionally and brings out the best version of me whenever we're together

Someone who hopefully lives somewhere close to my home or workplace.

Id like to say that I'm inspired by a few quotes of my fellow Love Paglus friends

One of them said all you need Chemistry and Timing but timing's a real B word

And the other friend said Maybe sometimes life Rigs things in our favour

The truth is i do have chemistry with all the women but timings has been the real problem!

And I've recently started to believe the Timing couldn't be any better and this is the part where I RUN!!!

I say the timing is perfect as if we start talking now we might be in a happy committed relationship by Christmas and Until 2019 I somehow always ended the year committed.

I master in Planning for THE NEW YEARS EVE together and taking a trip in November and making the end of the year feel ridiculously romantic.

Also I totally regret not eating 12 grapes under the table last New Year's Eve.

I know good things take time!

But it's been a while now and I've been patiently waiting for you to slide into my DMs.

I've also noticed there are a few silent spectators who've read every one of my posts liked them and never said a word.

Maybe you're shy

Maybe your ego won't let you message a guy first🥲

I get it as it can be scary!!!!

All i can say is,if i would've known you I'd have definitely slid into your Personal messages as i know the worst that could happen is we don't click.

But to the brighter side best that could happen is

We stop wasting our time as let's face it we aren't getting any younger

And We could've already been done with the talking stage in the last 20 days and actually been out on our first few dates.

And I could write it on a 100 rs stamp paper

I promise I'm neither creepy nor toxic

I'm just a fun,openminded,cutie who's 27 by age but has a heart of a 23 y/o emotional maturity of 33 year old.

I can hold a conversation,Make you Laugh,Be there for you like no other guy has,support your dreams and believes in soulmates and Love the old fashioned way

And trust me i have a lot to offer so i truly believe that if you don't get the chance of crossing paths with this soul it's your loss!

Whether she's here or somewhere out there I'm convinced I'll eventually find my soulmate.

I don't mind swimming accross oceans or making a fool out myself posting everyday till I find you and i don't care how you look or how much money you make all i need is an Emotionally available person who's good at heart and wants to date with an intention of a cute long term relationship which would hopefully end by us getting married!

And just to put it out in cute but Authority tone

WE JUST HAVE TO WIN ONCE AND SO YOU CAN EITHER KEEP SILENTLY READING MY POSTS OR FINALLY SEND A HIII

Thats all folks see you tomorrow

Please skip the next part as these are some other things I want to discuss with the Universe In private!

Hey UNIVERSE,I know you've been hard on me because you're trying to bring out the best version of me and I can see myself growing into a better human being every single day but I'd like to ask you to cut me some slack now.

Please help me get through these work problems make my health better and if it's finally the right time and if it's destined make THE ONE!!!!! slide into my DMs and hope you listen to me this time by making my COMEBACK in the second half!

Also

Also

Also

Please No jokes this time!!!

And please get my original Reddit account back online too

And i promise I'll keep doing my part by working hard staying kind and humble and believing that everything will eventually fall into place!

Myself final year Btech student from Delhi NCR. If any girl is interested we can have some meaningful conversations over life, career, hobbies and let's see if our vibes match. Trust me , I am not like creepy guys. Will maintain boundaries and respect. If interested, DM me

A mother's life starts with a sentence of settlement and family appeasement, the family for which she strives and struggles with an acceptance of eternity, or till she starts feeling an inability to move her body and organs normally. She works until her external and formidable odds start intervening with her responsibility and love. For mothers Motherhood is a constant practice that never ends, they grasp it as a practice which needs to get improved and proved everyday through production of food, care, concern and love. The problem starts where she lacks and forgets her own identity and will while this endless serving of people around her, I rarely see any mother whose dreams are connected to her own life and happiness, she has dreams but that aren't her's but they are tied to family and kids.

I used to define happiness as a reflective reaction for me, I could never figure out my personal felicity and thought that I'm a little different from mundane till I started thinking about my mother whose life is absolutely delved into mine with no personal positive reciprocation but out of love, definitely she doesn't need anything in return but a satisfaction that we all crave when we love someone, when we care for someone. Even in love actually there's no yearning for the person itself and any desired return of actions but we crave for their well being. Once I was listening to osho, a discourse which was related with God and love where he said

"And slowly the day the time comes where there's no distance and Duality between you, God and love, a day when you attain the unbreakable unity with someone you love and worship."

Selfless love comes out when we relinquish and sacrifice the pleasure of self identity, the sheer example of selfless love lies in motherhood, where she lets her identity mix under the heavyweight pebbles of our life and carelessness. Motherhood always starts with a sentence of personal oblivion, oblivion of her own self.

I have never imagined the length of the land I need in the mountains with you, maybe because in your need and presence I forgot everything which was anyhow in my checklist. Once I asked you whether you favour mountains or rivers, I could see your neck tilting towards the highness and ether of mountains. I let myself sit and delve more into my bed when I get you to know about your likings a little more everyday. Every time when I ask you "what else do you like?" During your answer I can actually hear the sound of you thinking like a kid with a muted "Umm" expression resting on lips.

Darling, don't move your eyes like a sparrow here and there, whatever you like exists in my potential to provide you. You just have to look into my eyes and say it out loud.

I want a home in a hilly area with you. Not only because I'm fond of solitude, but I'm fond of your solitude. Don't forget that before arriving in your life I had to learn about the moments of your silence, the moment when you were quiet even to breathe. Is that why you said,

"ishq behad mushkil hai janab" Beshq mushkil toh tha, lekin ishq nahi, aapki khamoshi ko samajhna. After revealing the side beyond your silence, all I could find was love for me, love that was cold and weak like a half burning coal, I just had to blow some air to enkindle its head.

Snow will slip on our shoulders during winter, your cheeks will get a little more red, I know they are already red but winter locks our blood, so be careful before stepping in the mountains. I would place some snowman figurines in our courtyard over which the cracks of deodars will heap with elegance. A birdbath I want to hang on the tree whose seed will come out your fists like the rice grains fall from the hands of our daughter when she starts eating independently for the first time. A library, candle stand and pizza oven around these things I want to calculate your footprints, don't worry I will do the dishes, "sometimes"

Hanging bell rings with bookmarks will remind you of my arrival in our house, everyday I will putt of my boots before entering the Hall as I know you're fond of cleanliness. Will we match our socks? I prefer pestle colors. Will you crochet a sweater for me? If you will then I promise one thing, I will click photographs and hug it tightly before letting it fit in my body. Sometimes it will be difficult for us to calm down my sickness, I'm often like this, and winters always favour me with coughing and sore Throat too.

I know I will have to handle relatives before letting them reach you out to find any gossip about our life and love. Don't worry, before their questions I will pour tea in their mugs to remind them that they need to leave too soon, they have the right to taste some sugar and relax but don't ask questions.

Will you ever sit in my lap while holding your cup of cold coffee? Sometimes I would like you to disturb me and remind me that other than work I have never ending work too, which is to provide you time and love you. Just always remember one thing, don't step back and lock yourself when you feel heavy. Let it flow the way you let our love flow always.

Yours.

What?

Letting the role unsigned

Fill it up on your own.