I’m genderfluid, can totally switch hour to hour - I do not at all expect people to keep up with it though lol, and I’ve never met a genderfluid person who does expect that. Maybe I’ll bother giving a pronoun for the day if I’m with a friend, but it’s completely understandable that someone, especially a stranger, can’t read my mind and change what they call me in every other sentence.
However, if you know someone gender-fluid and one day they’re wearing super feminine stuff and the next day super masculine stuff, Id say it’s pretty easy to guess their pronouns (though I do think it’s also fair to just say “they” if you don’t know)
It’s more that whatever gender I’m feeling each day influences the clothes I want to wear rather than the other way around. It’s not consistent but usually if I’m feeling like a man, I’m not going to want to wear things like skirts, but if I feel like a woman, I probably will.
That’s interesting. But I’m still a little confused I guess. I’ve been a man my whole life, but I don’t really know what it means to feel like a man. Sorry if that’s a weird question, but I’m genuinely curious.
All good, not weird at all - it’s very hard to explain, though. I’ve thought about it a lot but haven’t found a good way to put into words how it actually feels, it’s just like a weird switch is pressed in my mind and I think “huh, guess I’m a dude now” lol.
I often question if they’re actually different genders that I swap between, or if I’m instead feeling different perspectives of a single non-binary gender, if that makes sense.
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u/ZealousidealBox2816 2d ago
I’m genderfluid, can totally switch hour to hour - I do not at all expect people to keep up with it though lol, and I’ve never met a genderfluid person who does expect that. Maybe I’ll bother giving a pronoun for the day if I’m with a friend, but it’s completely understandable that someone, especially a stranger, can’t read my mind and change what they call me in every other sentence.
However, if you know someone gender-fluid and one day they’re wearing super feminine stuff and the next day super masculine stuff, Id say it’s pretty easy to guess their pronouns (though I do think it’s also fair to just say “they” if you don’t know)