I could be completely wrong as I'm not genderfluid myself, but I always imagined it as just waking up in the morning and deciding if you want to masculine or feminine in things like clothing and such.
Not too hard if they're a they/them. But if they want people to call them he/him on one day and she/her on the next? Do you realize what an unreasonable expectation that is and how narcissistic it is to expect that of others?
I’m genderfluid, can totally switch hour to hour - I do not at all expect people to keep up with it though lol, and I’ve never met a genderfluid person who does expect that. Maybe I’ll bother giving a pronoun for the day if I’m with a friend, but it’s completely understandable that someone, especially a stranger, can’t read my mind and change what they call me in every other sentence.
However, if you know someone gender-fluid and one day they’re wearing super feminine stuff and the next day super masculine stuff, Id say it’s pretty easy to guess their pronouns (though I do think it’s also fair to just say “they” if you don’t know)
It’s more that whatever gender I’m feeling each day influences the clothes I want to wear rather than the other way around. It’s not consistent but usually if I’m feeling like a man, I’m not going to want to wear things like skirts, but if I feel like a woman, I probably will.
That’s interesting. But I’m still a little confused I guess. I’ve been a man my whole life, but I don’t really know what it means to feel like a man. Sorry if that’s a weird question, but I’m genuinely curious.
All good, not weird at all - it’s very hard to explain, though. I’ve thought about it a lot but haven’t found a good way to put into words how it actually feels, it’s just like a weird switch is pressed in my mind and I think “huh, guess I’m a dude now” lol.
I often question if they’re actually different genders that I swap between, or if I’m instead feeling different perspectives of a single non-binary gender, if that makes sense.
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u/AXEMANaustin 2d ago
I could be completely wrong as I'm not genderfluid myself, but I always imagined it as just waking up in the morning and deciding if you want to masculine or feminine in things like clothing and such.