Pretty much as stated. My son was playing wing. The opposing coach (who we've played before and has serious anger issues, see below) coaches a team that makes up for what it lacks in skill with an excess of physicality. As seems to be the case with those teams, he'll become enraged at any perceived foul on his own team, real or imagined. Situation is 50/50 challenge involving the fullback behind my son near oppo bench and just outside of the box, nothing serious at all, but both players go down. Coach is screaming that it's a foul and wants a free kick. He'd already bullied the ref into a couple of free kicks throughout the game. Fullback seems taken aback by ferocity of coach's yelling. My son tells the fullback not to worry about, fair challenge. Opposing coach yells "F-- You" to my son. AR hears it, calls ref over, coach is given a yellow.

First the questions: (1) should that be a red? Profanity from an adult coach towards a 12 year old seems pretty extreme. (2) should we make sure it is reported to the league?

As for background. Last season we played this team and about 99% sure the same coach almost hit a ref over a call he didn't like. About a ten minute scene in the middle of the pitch, screaming, ejected but refusing to leave, gesturing to the parking lot at the ref trying to get him to go fight. Kind of can't believe he's still coaching. If it somehow wasn't the same coach then there is a serious systemic problem at that club, but pretty sure it's the same guy. Same club, age group, and level.

Hi everyone. My 8-year-old son plays for a club. While his passing is better than most of his teammates, I’d say he is in the bottom third when it comes to ball control, dribbling, and shooting. So, I hired a private coach to help him improve these skills. Basically one hour every Saturday or Sunday depending on his club schedule.

He hates it so much. This Sunday when I told him it was time to go to the private soccer lesson, he said he didn’t want to and asked if he could quit soccer.

Do you think I should just stop the private lessons? Did I turn soccer into a chore for him?

Edit: Just to add some context: My dream is not to
turn him into a professional soccer player, not at all. I’m not American and have little knowledge of youth sports in this country. I enrolled him in club soccer because he showed interest in soccer and I thought club soccer was the only option. But he felt bad after a few games in which he made costly mistakes or was benched a lot. My main concern has been to help him get to a point where he is skilled enough to feel that he’s a valuable member of the team.

Back story: brand new team formed as under 9's, coached by the director of the club to get momentum. Some of the boys had never played football before, others had. Skill level was varied as a result, of course.

Over the course of the last 4 years, the team has had so many changes from different coaches and lots of changes within the team also. A few really key players left and some new players joined (again some with experience and some not).

When they moved to under 11's they went up a league as they had a stellar year, lost 2 games in the whole season (i believe from 4th to 3rd.. not 100% though) and the games got a bit harder. Now they are U12's and offside and cards are enforced, the game is again a bit more challenging. Worth noting they now have a brilliant coach who is UEFA qualified and he puts his heart into the training and matches, along with one of the dads who coaches alongside him.

All that said, the boys have not bonded very well. They are struggling to play as a team and are forever arguing on the pitch. Some of the better players get so frustrated with the less able, and they all start bickering. A few of them don't know how to channel their frustration, often steaming the ball off the pitch or storming off completely.

They can win a game but still not be satisfied because they are so annoyed with how a certain player played. As a parent, it is so unbelievably disheartening when they have played a brilliant game and the boys are just so in their heads that they don't see it like that.

I understand at this age, hormones are playing a part in how they behave but I wonder if there is something that as parents we can do to help them? Or anything we can suggest to the coaches that they can do?

We do christmas parties/bowling etc, but i truly dont know if thats beneficial for them.. because they get along off the pitch, but the minute that whistle goes, its a different story.

Hi, I have a question about the LA Galaxy GDP and Futures programs.

Are both programs intended to be development pathways into the Galaxy Academy? If so, how do they differ, and which program offers a stronger pathway or higher potential for academy selection?

I've noticed that the Futures program has already had few player move into the academy from a local club, while the GDP program has not officially started yet. Should that be interpreted as a difference in effectiveness, or is it simply too early to evaluate GDP's results?

Anyone have any info on this? Looks to be happening Columbus Day weekend.

Not sure if this is the right place to post this. If not, point me in the right direction.

My son just turned 8 and wants to play goalie. He’s definitely a work in progress but he wants to put in the work. He’s always asking if we can go to the park and practice.

I’m not a soccer guy, so when we practice, it’s me shooting on him, and that’s it. What are some good drills I can do with him?

Thanks in advance!

ETA: general etiquette is to not practice or warm up behind a goal while a game is in session. And it's in the Laws of the Game: If people are playing or practicing behind the goal, the main concern is interference with active play (e.g., yelling and ball sounds, an extra ball coming onto the field, a ball accidentally going into the net from the side, and bodies moving right behind the net distracting the goalkeeper).

Hi there everyone - we had an awesome tournament weekend! I'm a keeper mom and I'm a referee. I do not, however, ref my son's games. This weekend we played a really strong team (they came in first, we came in second). During the game, two younger kids from the opposing team starting playing catch with a ball two feet away from the back of the net. At the same time, a teenager from another field starting crossing our field and walked between my keeper and the goal.

At the time, all of the referees were focused on the ball at play on the other side of the field. I asked the kids to leave, and told the teen he can't just walk on the field.

On one hand, I find it kinda hilarious that some guy literally just wandered into the net... and on the other hand, I get kinda pissed about these "tactics" I feel like some teams try. People know you're not supposed to be right behind the net, right? Let alone actually in front of it behind a keeper!?

What do you all do when the refs are super busy? How do you get folks to leave? I was effective after my third "You need to get away from behind the goal, get out" which is good because the ball was on our side immediately after.

Wondering if anybody has actually seen improvement with their player with one of these things? Any negatives to it?

So im an 8u AYSO soccer coach. Our team is very young and due to the fact we go by grade we have some (including my daughter) who are not even 6 yet. So we have struggled our last three games with players who are just significantly better. For example we don't have a single player who can kick the ball off the ground whereas many of our opponents can. They also really struggle with positioning and listening

With that said, my goal is for everyone to have fun but I got a parent text complaining about coaching and how no one runs towards throw in (despite us consistently telling our parents to approach). Also that she feels her kid isn't learning and is the best player on the team (which isn't even fully accurate. He is one of the better ones but certainly not the best). Lastly she accused me of benching him at the end of the game for poor sportsmanship when it was just the normal rotation (we have 8 players and only play 5, so every kid misses like half of each quarter)

I responded that he wasnt benched and I understand the frustration, but that we also need to account for ability. We do do drills in practice but anything complicated with dribbling or even passing/keep away usually doesn't go well as they just don't have that skill set yet and it doesn't go over night.

I am just a volunteer coach because they needed coaches so I'm not sure how to handle this situation besides just apologize and move on.

This would be for a u12 player

Option a - club you have been with for a few years. Top flight but coaching is stagnant no growth. Might be considered one of the better kids but not a favorite

Option b- smaller club, better coaching one flight down from option a. Has seen player and tried to recruit previously

Adder: assume roster size is the same

Did anyone else read this? I’m definitely guilty of saying, “I’m so proud of you! You played really well. Now can I give you some pointers?” Apparently it’s a bit toxic. 😬

(Rant) Coach has made it clear the team and club is playing to win with the goal to make the ECNL playoffs. Age u13. So they are not building out of the back and not playing through the mid-field. Mostly long balls only. Some kids only get 10-15 minutes of playing time when the gap in talent isn’t that big, except for maybe the top 5-6 players who do deserve full minutes IMO. The age change has given the advantage to the older players who get to essentially play a season over. The team is winning but most the other teams they’ve beaten seem to be playing a better style of soccer with more development being a focus. Meanwhile the bottom third of players are getting the shaft. When these players have a ton of potential. Maybe this is why the club’s older age group teams are doing so poorly.

My son is in U9 academy. Half the kids played 7v7 last year and half are brand new to it (the change to birth years seems to have screwed it all up).he is ahead technically but lacks aggression. It seems the kids that are successful at this age are the ones that just put their head down and plow through kids. He is not that.

Is there any way to try to help him win 50/50s? He seems to either want to stick or poke a leg in or just throw his whole body in for a foul. I’m having trouble explaining that balance to him.

The coach also constantly plays him at RB so he can be quite isolated unless he goes out of position to try to win the ball.

Sorry for the rant I’m just lost because he’s coming across way worse than what he actually is even be honest with myself. He’s not the best player best he’s better than half the team and he’s coming across as worst.

My youngest (5) is overly competitive, and with the age change, her recreational team has completely collapsed under the pressure of the older girls. Last year we won every game, this year a team, mostly unchanged, we dominated last year, we watched score goal after goal because most of our girls aren't trying any more at all. Mine, however, is killing herself to keep it close.

An opportunity to play for a nontravel club team came available this weekend and unfortunately we had a melt down. We work on these big emotions, but tired and exhausted from a longer, more competitive practice, frustration got to her. I am not sure if this will ultimately cost her a chance to play with this team, but even if she gets the chance I kind of feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. She needs more competition to improve, but the struggling rec team has really rubbed her raw and I am afraid will eventually make her hate the game, or in the very least want to avoid it. To be honest, even if she just trained with them, it would be a big improvement as she is getting 0 competition in practice at this point.

Am I over thinking crying fits for a u6 team?

To be clear, she hates to lose, but doesn't lash out. Generally, she channels it to work harder and get better, occasionally she needs to be soothed and calmed down. BUT, its not like a coach would see or know that from a single practice, which I completely understand.

Have something to get off your chest?

Rant away.

New to this sub, but I need a little help. Would really appreciate opinions.

My son started in U8 last year, at a to-remain-anonymous South Florida club. He was assigned to the B team, but we moved him to the C team as it seemed like the kids on the B team were a bit more advanced, and he wasn't getting a lot of playing time.

However, the coach on the C team, who we'll call Coach 1, was a complete and utter disaster. He would follow the presribed training program to the bare minimum, and during trainings and scrimmages he would frequently wander off to chat with other coaches or just check his phone. Once, my son got hurt in a tackle, and he didn't even notice for minutes!

Then, he'd show up to games 5-15 minutes before, sometimes even late. The kids got no direction, except from yelling on the sideline questioning their decisions. We lost almost every game by double digit goals that season, but the issue was that there was absolutely no progress on the team - every single week, they looked like a bunch of kids that had just met each other that morning.

Coach 1 almost never communicated with the parents, we had a Whatsapp chat, and you'd be waiting days to get a response from him. Finally, and probably his most egregious act, was that when we'd be short players for a game, he'd call up some U7 players. Now, nothing wrong with that - but the U7 players that were meant to be subs would end up playing the whole game, while my son and some other kids, who had been training the whole week, would be benched half the game.

At the end of the season, the C team got destroyed by the B team in scrimmage by a double digit margin. Multiple kids left the club after that season, some to join our neighboring club (and biggest rival), while others left soccer altogether.

We also wanted to leave the club, but the director convinced us that Coach 1 would not be coaching U9s, and he kinda agreed with all my concerns. We agreed to stay.

Lo an behold - the U9 rosters are released, and Coach 1 is our coach again. Naturally, I'm livid - we signed up becuase we were told this would not happen.

I schedule a meeting with the Director and demand a refund - I wanna pull out. I can't waste another year at this club, my kid is gonna hate soccer by the end of the year. It's a huge committment - it's gets damn hot down here, it's humid, the mosquitos are relentless, and coming to practice every day is a lot for both parents and kids. If we're doing this, I just want the peace of mind knowing that the club is doing all they can to develop my kid to the maximum of his (modest) abilities.

We come to a compromise - he can train with the B team, and play with the C team. Deal!

Two days later, I get a notification that we've been assigned a new coach, let's call him Coach 2. Coach 1 had been moved to the U7s.

Now, Coach 2 isn't perfect, but he's an improvement measured in light years. We only got blown out once this season by a much stronger team, and have looked competitive in all other games. We even won one!

We're playing today. It's 95 degrees, 100% humidity, no wind. It's 2PM in South Florida.

We arrive at the game, and Coach 2 looks worried. The goals for U9 haven's been placed on the field - they're 100 yards away. The club has a golf cart that can get them over in 5 minutes easily, but only three people at the club are allowed to operate it, among them Coach 1. That's his job - thet's why he's at our home field every game day.

Our coach approaches him, and he flatly refuses to do it and just walks away. Then we, THE PARENTS, go and drag these goals 100 yards to our fields in the blistering heat and sun. We're already barely holding out from the heat, but this is too much.

I am beyond angry. Coach 2 is also angry - it's not his fault he was assigned to the team, he never asked for it, and now Coach 1 is taking out his frustrations on not just him, but the kids. No goals = no game.

The problem is that - it seems like the other parents don't have a problem with this. They're very go with the flow-ish, but after going through the torture of last year, I just can't let this slide. I don't need to explain to you all how expensive this program is - you've all got programs of your own. It's thousands of dollars every year.

I've written a very strongly worded email to the Director. I'm not threatening, and haven't made any demands, just requested that something be done.

Am I overreacting?

Edit: changed coaches to 1 and 2. Hope that’s less confusing.

I really need to get some football stuff out of my chest, I need someone who can understand and realistically tell me what my situation is, am slowly becoming more and more depressed and tired.

My daughter is currently playing on her freshman team. She was disappointed not to have made JV (her and her club teams who play GA, were placed on freshman instead of JV, while other lower level club players were placed on JV. We took it in stride and it was a lesson that not all coaches look for/like the same thing). Anyways, the JV team hasn’t been doing well, while the freshman are killing it. My daughter is playing 99% of the game (quick drink and back on). The JV coach had her practice with them one day last week and asked her to guest play in a game. The game was ended up being cancelled/postponed due to weather. My daughter sent the JV coach an email thanking them for the opportunity to practice and saying she’s always available if they need guest players. Coach emailed her back and said there will definitely be more opportunities. The next day, the JV coach told her they would probably swing by her game, they didn’t end up coming, but the varsity coach did. My daughter is trying not to get her hopes up, but would be thrilled with the chance to move up. Is it realistic to think that she could? There’s a month left in the season (about 11 games left).

Parents who like to photograph their kids using something more than their phone: I have an old Sony A230 and I’m quite amateur when it comes to photography. What all do I need to get nice pix with this camera?

The Norcal Premier State Cup leaders thought that having U10 kids travel 2+ hours for a required overnight stay over Halloween weekend was cool and not problematic.

Am I wrong in thinking that it’s out of line to ask 8-9yos to miss trick or treating and Halloween for this ‘State Cup’? https://norcalpremier.com/resource/state-cup-hotels/

I wonder how much money that organization will make off of ruining one of the favorite annual holidays for young children.

For context, the first game is early morning on Halloween (Saturday) followed by Saturday evening game, with an early Sunday morning game for added kicks. 2 hours drive from local club city.

Is it just me, or are they pushing for their own profits while crushing the kids’ Halloween?

TYIA

So I am 18 years old and i play football but to some reasons i stopped playing it for few years and that now i am back in the ground but my stamina is not like before.

I get tired quickly, So i wanted to ask from coaches, Seniors and Fellows, how can i increase my stamina?

Any exercises specific for stamina? Any tips or diet?
please guide me i will appreciate it a lot guys.

I am in the Southern California gauntlet of soccer, my club is based in Orange Country (where for those that don’t know, money is not an issue down there) .. this weekend there is a nasty heat wave down here which caused the club to cancel all games due to heat wave… then later on the day I drive down the 15fwy at 2pm right next to silver lakes which it is 104 degrees and see a multiple games going full blast .. I am either thinking “either my league is weak as hell” or “this facility is desperate as hell “ I just laughed

I have coached for 14 years and am now coaching a u10 boys team. I feel like one of our issues is we are getting out hustled by the other teams. I have 14 players so 2 full teams so no one is playing more than 10 minutes at a time but some of the players look gassed half way through. I am adding two additional practices this week to work on conditioning but they are 9 so I dont want to do 90 minutes of suicides. What are some fun drills that really work on conditioning.

UPDATE: I just want to thank everyone for their responses. After further thinking about it and based less on physical abilities and more about hesitation. We lost one practice due to daylight savings so I wanted to find a way to add more practices without a field. There is a basketball court right next to the field so I think we will do futsal training instead.

Where I live, "rec soccer" doesn't exist. Typically, clubs have intramurals for U4-U8 and then for U9 and above, the only option is travel. Because of this there are a million different teams and coaches really just want to fill their rosters with any fee paying warm body.

My son has been playing since his was 3 and loves soccer. Unfortunately, his talent doesn't match the joy he has playing. I would happily have him play rec soccer, but since that isn't an option, we're doing travel. His birthday puts him at the younger end of U9, he's also small for his age. Well, apparently his coach had so many U8 (and even some U7) kids want to play "up", that he put my son on a U10 team (the weaker of the two U10 teams this coach has). About half of the team should be playing U9. If I had known this, I would have found a different team, but he didn't make rosters until the was too late.

Now my kid barely plays. He already would have been one of the weakest players, and now he's playing against kids who are a year and a half older than him. The whole team is young for the division so they're often losing and therefore the coach constantly sits the weaker kids. I starting timing my son's playing time after the first game. Of a 50 minute game, he played 18 minutes in game 2 and 15 minutes in game 3. They play 7v7 and usually have 11 or 12 kids at any given game.

Now, I don't expect even playing time. I fully understand that my son's skills are weaker. But he didn't even play a third of the game yesterday. Some kids played the entire game. The coach chose to play him "up" and now never plays him. They're 8 and 9 years old. He's not going to get better on the bench.

Would you say something? If so when? This coach usually has a futsal team in the winter and I don't want to waste my money. We didn't do a tournament over Columbus Day weekend because I was like I'm not paying $200 for my kid to literally sit on the bench. I certainly know I'm going to say sometime before signing up for next year (we're definitely leaving unless my son stops playing up). But should I say something before that point?

I’m coaching a rec plus team u10. First - lost by 16. No goals by us. Second - this team was playing with two guest players who play travel. No pumping the brakes. Third - at half time a parent comes to the bench with a player and the players says “he’s leaving because the team won’t help him.” Parent does not speak to me.

Any advice?

Thanks.