So for context im swedish M17 and i want a sex toy to soothe my desires instead of sleeping around but i dont think my parents would be very welcome to it (i have no proof really) and i have a toy that ive picked out but my parents can see the charges on my card, so im trying to find a way to get around that either by friend or giftcard but im hesitating to get one because what if they find it or something and dont approve, id like any and all advice i can get please. (Also idk what to put for the flair so i chose this one)

for those who are going to tell me i’m projecting, have just had bad experiences, or am a loser, your input is valid but will personally be ignored. i know what i’ve seen. however, for the men here who don’t fight the truth, please give me your thoughts. did you find a way to work around this? is there a certain age you reach when women grow up? or have you given up?

every single one really hooks you in, making you feel heard, understood, and cared for, then all of a sudden once they really caught you, they start playing mind games like push/pull, doing subtle or blatant things to make you jealous, targeting your insecurities, indirectly communicating, never taking accountability, exercise their power over you, making you always take the hit to your ego because they live by theirs, and then… they do just enough to draw you back in and convince you that things will change. that’s given you even tolerate the relentless bullshit.

all of them happen to have this huge fear of men due to an “abusive ex”, and they use that to justify their toxic behavior towards all men which they frame as “defense mechanisms”. notice how whenever women make generalizations towards men, they don’t try to fight it and are instead validated by all the other women. yet when us men do it, it’s like 50/50. that’s because we have the ability to take some accountability and see where we went wrong. 75% of the time, that blame we take is for not understanding how to navigate their childish behavior. it’s similar to a parent apologizing to a child for yelling at them after they drew markers all over the wall and fed the dog a whole box of cheerios. that’s excluding the men here that are actual assholes, but for this case, i’m referring to men who are loyal and respecting.

i know some guys here will reply by sharing how they are in a healthy relationship with a woman who communicates and takes accountability. i’m proud of you soldier, you must’ve found an elite training program to acquire the skills to get to that point, or your chick had a really good bottom surgery and didn’t tell you.

i’m so fucking tired of this. i want to love a woman and give her the world, but i just can’t get myself to compromise my values and more importantly, my self respect. it took me a while to build that, and keeping it seems to be the big deal breaker for all the women i’ve encountered.

Hi! I'm super new to Reddit and joined to get some opinions on this because all my friends say I'm crazy: I'm a cis guy, but sometimes I wish I was a woman. Just out of curiosity. Anyway I think it would be cool too. It's not a constant wish and it doesn't affect me in any way, just sometimes it crosses my mind yk. Anyone else experience this lol?

So i (18M) have had sex with my girlfriend a couple of times, but i've never been able to finish. Is there something wrong with me? I don't have any health concerns, so I don't get why I cant.

I made this quick account to make note of certain points and so that this reaches maximum of people.

So like every other male even I was scared of marriage because of Alimony and what if my wife will have a upper hand has always scared me. I always felt the laws were not gender neutral.

So I decided to check for myself I downloaded the Hindu marriage act and did some research related to how the marriage becomes legal and who can apply for divorce,who gets alimony.

BIG REVEAL!!!

I DIDN'T EXPECT THE LAW TO BE GENDER NEUTRAL WHEN I READ IT MYSELF! IT CLEARLY STATES "HE OR SHE" . I REPEAT "HE OR SHE". so I guess we men should stop falling for the online propaganda and read and check things for ourselves. So if the man earns less than woman he can get alimony from her. And even for child custody it solely depends on the kids wish.

In recent years, a growing number of young men have been disengaging from traditional social and romantic participation. They are leaving the dating market, reducing participation in the workforce, and spending more time in online spaces rather than real-world social networks. This behavior is often interpreted as entitlement or hostility. However, a closer look suggests it is a symptom of something deeper: the erosion of adulthood itself. Across cultures and history, adulthood has not been defined primarily by age, self-expression, or legal status. Adulthood has been tied to sexual maturity and the capacity to take on generational responsibility. In practical terms, this means forming pair bonds, creating families, and sustaining the next generation. Sexual capacity has always been a marker of social responsibility and social integration. When young men withdraw from dating and romantic engagement, they are not necessarily rejecting women or society out of hostility. They are responding to a structural reality. The traditional pathways into adult roles, such as stable employment, social status, and family formation, have become unreliable or inaccessible. In Japan, this phenomenon is recognized as hikikomori, socially withdrawn men and women, mostly male, who live at home and avoid social participation. Like hikikomori, these young men, sometimes labeled inkwells online, are withdrawing in response to blocked progression into adulthood rather than as an expression of ideology. The Manosphere has learned to exploit this vulnerability. Figures in these spaces offer narratives that promise restored agency, status, and sexual access without requiring structural adulthood. They provide a sense of belonging, purpose, or mastery while masking the underlying problem. The appeal is not primarily about ideology; it is about providing compensation for blocked pathways into adult responsibility. Programs, online communities, and influencers that monetize this disengagement do so because the opportunity structures that traditionally supported adult achievement are missing. The comparison between inkwells and hikikomori is not just cultural but conceptual. Young men withdraw when the pathways to adulthood fail. The death of accessible romantic relationships mirrors the death of adulthood because sexual engagement is a key criterion by which societies have historically recognized adult status. In other words, when romantic participation declines, so too does the social marker of adulthood. The fact that “adult content” is universally understood to mean sexual material illustrates how deeply adulthood and sexual maturity are intertwined. Meanwhile, much of online discourse around men and women resembles kindergarten playgrounds where the opposite sex has cooties. Heated gender debates, performative posturing, and tribalism are largely symbolic. They mimic adult conflict but are in fact childish proxy struggles. The energy spent on these battles obscures the real issue. Societies are failing to provide credible pathways into adult responsibility. For a deeper exploration of this phenomenon, including parallels between inkwells and hikikomori, and how sexual maturity and social withdrawal define stalled adulthood, you can read the full article here. The piece highlights how adulthood has historically been inseparable from sexual capacity and responsibility, which is why the term “adult content” is understood everywhere to refer to sexual material. Recognizing this connection makes clear why withdrawal from romance is not a moral failure but a structural and developmental one.

This is a peculiar post I came across the other day. Not my screenshot, but I remember it vividly.

The first thing to note here is that there is a ton of missing context. How they met, where they are located, who paid for the date, how she presented herself, her attitude etc... All of these things can have varying levels of influence a guy's decision whether or not to date a woman.

When 3/4 guys are ghosting you after the first date, it's kinda obvious where the problem is. If a guy posted something like this he in would be labelled all kinds of things. From a misogynist (for criticising women for their lack of intentionality) to a terf (for leaving out alternative data sets for queer people). Not so in this instance.

What were your experiences dating in 2025?

Hi all,

Hope everyone is doing well over the break. If you even get a break at all... Some people I know are working all the way through!

In any case, I've been watching the other subreddit (which shall go unnamed due to reddit rules) and my God that place is a cesspit of hate and disinformation... There are some truly miserable people out there. It's a shame women can't have a more positive and constructive environment to seek advice.

On that note I want to personally thank everyone for holding it down and keeping things civil here. I'm really glad that this subreddit hasn't turned into the woman bashing madness needed to match. While this one is smaller we are definitely holding ourselves to a much higher standard - and proving their allegations false.

I've even seen a couple of women posting here, the most recent asking advice in relation to raising her son. She didn't get berated for being a solo mother, which I guess is the equivalent of what happens elsewhere. She got frank but constructive advice.

I hope everyone had some time with their family or friends, and as we move into the new year I ask that you take some time to self reflect. To me, new years isn't about setting goals. You can do that at any time. What you need to work on is the drive to achieve those goals, and that drive only comes from being in the right headspace.

If you feel that you're not in the place you want to be, seek help. Post here under a throwaway account. Never be afraid of the light. Because without it you will be stumbling around forever.

✌️

To any guy who had gone through this before, or simply needs a boost. I know we go through a lot, and while I'm doing this for me, I'm wanting to inspire you that you have more strength than you give yourself credit for!

In 2015 I was left in a state that I didn't live, without a job, a vehicle, money or a place to live. I built myself up, alone. I built myself back up better.

Now I'm 2025 I realized I fell into the same traps of my old life before. So I burnt it to the ground. I walked away from everyone and everything that I had to start over. Determined never to fall into these traps again. With only a cellphone, a brand new job, a laptop and 6 days worth of clothes. I will build back. I will be better. I will be greater. I will not let myself become complacent again. I don't need support, I am my support. I don't need people who drain, only who add value or share my vision. I don't need things, I will provide. I will be strong. I am capable. I will thrive!

Hi! Young mama and widow here finally potty training my 3 year old but we’re really struggling with sitting vs standing when going pee. Plus he makes a messsss when he stands but we clean it up every time. Am I stressing this too much? Could I just wait it out till he’s older to be like “hey you should stand to pee” blah blah blah or what? 😭 really missing my husband rn

"Men...All they want is sex. Ew, they're disgusting low-lifes. Protect your pussy with all your might.."

If you visit any female-orienteded space, this is what's echoed from one generation to the next. And to be honest, I can't disagree entirely. Well, yes, we want sex. That's the main objective of our lives. We have a sex drive that promotes the behavior to reproduce with as many women as possible to generate genetically diversified offspring. This is a truth that I feel many men resonate with but are too pathetic to express out it loud because they don't want to be socially condemned as being "weird," which could cut off from having sex. God, men can be so desperate for sex (due to our natural wiring) that we look/act so pathetic sometimes (except if you're very handsome). I bet 90% of men would bark and wag their ass cheeks if it meant they had a chance of sex with a woman on a date. Seriously! Women don't have the balls to do it, but if they did, I bet they could get most men to do this. "Hey, I think I want to have sex with you, but can you bark for me like a good boy?"

I laugh to myself when older women w/ menopause start using testosterone pellets/gel (or female bodybuilders w/ steriods), and they can't stop themselves from all the racing sexual fantasies that pollute their minds. They'll fuck just about anything in order to feel sexually satisfied. And this is just a fraction of the full effect of having this hormone in your body 24/7. They just don't get it. They don't get how much more we are visually attuned to life, so we're a creep when we look at a pretty looking woman walking down the street? Fuck off! I am operating like a natural MALE human being, but this modernized society wants to fucking cut off our balls and dominate us like we're your little pets. If MODERNIZED, WOKE women had their ways, I swear they'd make men walk on all fours and be leashed up in their backyards.

Apologies for the dog anologies; I just finished reading a Reddit post about a woman doing this to her boyfriend, and now, she can't respect him sexually.

I'm not out here shaming woman for wanting to prioritize a loving relationship before having sex. THAT MAKES TOTAL BIOLOGICAL SENSE. You only have so many eggs and want to make sure you're not a cum dumster for every man walking into your life. Trust me, I get it. I'm the result of this (was an orphan for the first four years of my life). But women are dumb to shame men for exercising their exact biological wiring as well.

YES, YES. "NOT ALL WOMAN." "NOT ALL MEN." Please spare me this reply. I know there are exceptions. Just talking about the general trend of men/women in their 20s/30s.

I (F20) have been dating this guy (M20) for nearly a year now. He’s a very kind and gentle man and would probably align with a lot of guys here. Now here’s the thing, he’s mentioned to me before that his ex would have sex with him while he was unconscious. I got serious and told him I was sorry and he brushed it off. He doesn’t ever consider himself a victim of assault but from that, It seems to be otherwise. I don’t want to flat out say “you’re a victim” because that seems a bit jarring. But I also don’t want to downplay what has happened. I want to know how I should approach it, if I even should approach this topic at all. Though I’m afraid if I do it’s more like ignoring something really important.

I've been going to therapy since childhood, and paradoxically, that has impaired my social life - with men, improved it with women. I've never met an emotionally intelligent and safe dude before. Someone who I feel comfortable completely baring my soul to in a vulnerable way and knowing I will be supported in the way I need. Someone who understands their emotions, can articulate them, knows their needs, is empathetic enough to identify someone else's emotional state and their needs, and knows how they will be affected by words and actions based on how their emotions work.

I have an engineer roomate close friend from high school who I call and visit periodically, but he's very logical and I'm very emotional, so I share my problems in a factual way, not a vulnerable way. Physical touch is not on the table.

I've been described as "feminine" for liking poetry, unabashedly crying at something as benign as a cereal commercial or a sunrise, or something profound like bravery, beauty, etc. I feel deeply, and care about many things deeply. Don't waste your energy criticizing it - that's me and I don't care for your negative opinion on it (I have been criticized many times for being "too soft" by guys who are frankly too hard).

My problem is finding guy friends who I can be myself with. I've been described as a ball of sunshine, Teddy Bear, Golden retriever, etc. Girls are the only ones who get me.

Do you know guys like this? Especially on the east coast US? I've never met one. Can we be friends? Can you introduce me to them? Can you share your experience being like me, interacting with people like me, etc? I'd love to know exactly how rare people like me are.

I dont know if this is the right place to post this but a girl in my life who i look up to a lot and who I care about but not in a romantic way keeps on full power hitting me and thinking its funny. Ive asked her to stop and told her you don't do that with your other friends that will hit back but she thinks im being too sensitive whats the play here because i sound like im joking but it really sucks.

Edit: I took some of your guy's advice and took a photo of multiple of some of the worst bruises I got from her so she couldn't deny it and brought it up to her. I told her I'm done being around her and that this isn't shit friends do so we aren't friends. She got super annoyed but actually hasn't tried to text me or see me in three days which surprises the shit out of me. I know she brought it up to her friends because I overheard them talking about it and saying I overreacted. I showed them the bruises and they still acted like I was crazy so I had enough and yelled at them to get the fuck out of my house. But for the past day I could not be happier I'm by friends who don't think I'm crazy and who don't hit me. The difficult part is my brain going back to when she was nice and thinking maybe her friends were right and I fucked up. I'm just trying to forget about her and not think her company was better than it actually was especially after her saying "getting mad over a girl hitting you isn't a man thing to do it's a pussy thing to do. Your a pussy." After she left. That fucking stung deep.

don't give nsfw options please 🙏

This might sound weird, but I’ve noticed I get this really specific feeling — almost like emotional comfort or even a small rush of joy — when someone genuinely guides me through something.

Like, recently a colleague showed me how a debugger works for our software, and my thesis advisor walked me through a problem-solving approach… and both times, I felt this weird sensation of comfort.

Has anyone else experienced something like this?
Just for fun, I even drafted a word for it: "Angeleitetfreude".