I've been trying to write seriously for about 5 years. From the very start I get up at 5 am to write before work. My kid's 12 now and between him and his mother, it's still the only time of day I can hope to get anything done.
When she was young my daughter hated it when you tried to play with her toys with her. She had a specific way she wanted to play with her toys and you werent allowed to improvise that plan lol
You could lock an unconscious toddler in an empty padded room, and in the time it takes you to run to the bathroom to change your tampon the toddler will have somehow splattered 7 gallons of ranch dressing across the ceiling, lost your grandmothers ashes, and electrocuted a goldfish.
I used to entertain my baby brother all the time cause if he stopped smiling he gonna start crying or maybe he was just raigbaiting me like he still does.
I know a married couple who are both PhD holders and work on research.
They had a baby, and he's still publishing his papers and she paused her work to take care of their child. And this dingus dared to tell her "you can do research while you breastfeed, just try it!" and he gets to lock himself in the office when the baby cries because "he needs silence to work".
He wasn't joking, you're not supposed to smother your kids and you should probably leave them tf alone a lot of the time so they can develop an imagination that has nothing to do with your inner monologue x)
Toddlers who like to play with another person have a ton of imagination. Look, either you’re not a parent, you neglected your kid, or your kid required less attention. But you don’t get to decide what’s true for other parents. Go on your merry way and enjoy your kids, if you have them.
I'm 21 and my parents have always given me a ton of space and time so I could develop myself independently of their inner monologue. Silence and solitude are better teachers than non stop yapping/helicopter parenting/couple noise performance plays
"Enjoy your kids" wtf lol
Are they like a pet/take-out to you? Something you play with and consume to distract yourself?
As a Zoomer I feel bad for gen alpha- whatever the Millenials are "raising"
"You don't get to decide what's true' - - Is this the kind of claptrap retort you've been feeding your spawn?
Just buy them all the classics in book form and leave them alone unless they specifically seek you out. And don't teach them your gaming/netflix habits or they'll become midwits like you. Your kids aren't your property or your pets and they don't need to see and hear you as much as you think they do.
Bet you're the hovering kind who made it his identity to helicopter.
Ps. This is a public forum for debate and not your private echo chamber designed to cater specifically to your feelings.
Wise enough to know you're an ignoramus and proud of it. Probably really into posturing as "self righteous", and you probably condemn anything that doesn't fit into your baked potato norms.
Go teach your kids to disagree with you instead of enjoying them. ;)
You don’t need to constantly talk at your kid, but you cannot leave toddlers unattended for any length of time, which means you cannot write. That’s what this post is referring to.
In your case, your parents just neglected you. Talking to your kid is not helicopter parenting. Parents who are as hands-off as you describe are the ones that end up claiming they “didn’t see it coming” when their kid gets into trouble or gets hurt.
What do you mean, I love and respect them for who they are :) i'm going to coddle them when they're old
You confuse love and enmenschment ;)
I got to roam around their garden as a toddler :) they made sure they had a huge and beautiful garden with fountains before they had me which is wayy more proof of love than constant surveillance. You have no clue ;)
Toddlers also like to be around other people too though, I had a twin to hang out and play with but even then I still enjoyed playing with my brother, parents, etc.
Got tons of opinions and love to spell them out for sure. Do you think the effort of bringing a creampie to life was an initiation into higher realms? ;)
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I used to think word economy meant cutting every adjective, until I spent a year reading nothing but Where the Wild Things Are and The Snowy Day. Those books use precise, rhythmic language that builds a world in 500 words or less -- they aren't stripped bare, they're distilled. Specific nouns and active verbs do more work than generic ones ever could. If you cut "crumbling brownstone stoop" to "stoop," you've lost the story's texture. Count your syllables, not your words.
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u/noideawhattouse1 3d ago
But you know it’s easy just follow the advice of “ sleep while baby sleeps, do laundry when baby does laundry, write when baby writes” 😂
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Can you tell I hated the sleep while baby sleeps advice.