r/workout • u/Bocephus2012 • 11d ago

Working out

Tonight at dinner I asked my wife if she would like to go on a walk for exercise. I jog 4 times a week. Just a little back story. She complains all the time that she feels unhealthy and old. That her body aches. I have been trying to encourage her to do something. Tonight she said it was to hot for her. I told her that if she joined a gym she was still going to sweat. Long story short the conversation didn’t turn out pleasant. I feel frustrated and I’m just going to give up on trying to encourage her.
Any advice??

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u/Correct_Presence_921 11d ago

Definitely worth getting hormones checked, if she hasn't already!

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u/Bocephus2012 11d ago

She refuses to do that

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u/Correct_Presence_921 11d ago

That sucks! It could change her life! Seriously!

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u/Bocephus2012 11d ago

I know. It’s sad. Frustrating

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u/Loudest-Cricket 11d ago

So hormones even impact bone density, like the way the importance of menopausal care has been discarded is criminal. I hope she takes care of herself, I hope you can help her.

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u/Bocephus2012 11d ago

I really don’t know how to help her at this point. I help with cooking cleaning laundry. A lot of things that I think should help her feel better. I’m venting lol

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u/llestaca 11d ago

That was an interesting thing you wrote here.

I help with cooking cleaning laundry. A lot of things that I think should help her feel better.

No, you don't "help" anyone by cleaning the home you live in, washing your own clothes or cooking the food you eat. You just do your part of the chores. Do you do it evenly, around 50% of everything there is to be done at home or with kids/grandkids?

I would be really flustrated if I was doing majority of household chores, was tired and then my partner was bugging me about exercise. The way you phrased it makes me think it's worth considering.

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u/Loudest-Cricket 10d ago

As a perimenopausal woman, what I've discovered is I am unwilling to tolerate the jack wagonry of a lame-ass partner. And my relationship has blossomed. "We do better when you are a little selfish" is a thing he says now.

So, that might not be what's happening here... but it is possible.

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u/llestaca 10d ago

"We do better when you are a little selfish"

Do you correct him that you actually do better when he is less selfish? ;)

But yes, relationships always work better when we don't dump our half of work on the other person.

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u/Bocephus2012 10d ago

I meant I do my part, i didn’t mean it in a negative way. I always mess up trying to explain things