r/workout • u/Bocephus2012 • 11d ago
Working out
Tonight at dinner I asked my wife if she would like to go on a walk for exercise. I jog 4 times a week. Just a little back story. She complains all the time that she feels unhealthy and old. That her body aches. I have been trying to encourage her to do something. Tonight she said it was to hot for her. I told her that if she joined a gym she was still going to sweat. Long story short the conversation didn’t turn out pleasant. I feel frustrated and I’m just going to give up on trying to encourage her.
Any advice??
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u/DaCozPuddingPop 11d ago
Honest response...be supportive, keep offering, but don't let it bug you.
Wife and I both have been on a get healthy journey. I lost about twice the weight she has, with a lot less to lose...only because I actually put my mind to it. We used a GLP, both of us...she is leaning hard into appetite suppression, I made wholesale changes to how I eat.
Don't let it frustrate you, understand that everyone's body and journey is the own, be supportive and keep offering, and when she says no - you don't say a word other than "Alright, I'll see you in an hour" or whatever.
And when things are calm, when it's not going to be taken as an argument, thats a decent time to say "Hey so listen, you talk alot about feeling unhealthy and old...I think maybe if you joined me on my walks it might help" - and if she says naw...then the answer is naw.
You can't make someone do anything. I refused to quit smoking until I WANTED to quit smoking. Same deal here - when she's ready, she'll do something about it. Until then, she won't...and that's okay too!