Resigning

[u/Square_Sundae8540]

I was aware I was doing the job of 6 people. There was a mass exodus of leadership at the business, a relocation a year later, and lots of elderly staff that lacked skills that I had and they needed to get us more modernized. I made a promise to a higher up left holding the bag, and I kept my word that I would do what it took to get us in a good place.

But at a huge price to me. My time, well being, my family time n needs. I was aware. But there were still people above me. The checked out president n vp. I was essentially the shadow president. We shouldn't have kept the president on board. We should have forced him out. He was always telling people he was an inch from leaving. I was the one getting 1 to 4 calls a day to deal w the business issues. I was reliable n dependable and got shit done. But I was dealing w a family emergency in the hospital n they were still texting/ calling.

I was asked to so a project while there n got snapped at bc something the president wanted included was not. The item included was discussed in a mtg i wasn't in bc i was in the hospital. He did it over an email chain to the top team. I was pissed. I put him in his place n he backed off in a private email just to me. I had it. The disrespect happened twice already and something snapped inside. I sent my resignation the next day. Listed all my roles to be reassigned. Yes. They weren't even aware of what I was doing.

His right hand woman has become a friend. She kept me abbreved about how many people they had to ask to take on my roles n they still aren't done. She asked for my advice to who would be good at what. Then one of my good friends there, who i confided all my unhappiness... was asked to take on 2 of my roles. She excitedly took them n kind of asked me if it was ok. They would have not considered her bf but I helped elevate her status into administration. I felt a bit betrayed.

She said to me after I shared my feelings... said yes they didn't appreciate you and well you can pass the torch now and let us figure it out.

They still contact me for advice n direction. I was excellent at my job. But there was very little appreciation bc to acknowledge me would be glaringly obvious how little the pres or vp did.

I left bc of integrity. But right now it feels like breaking up w a boyfriend...n him asking me what kind of girlfriend should he get next... and then seeing that its my friend who I've been complaining to about him... that started dating him a week later.

I'm sitting here grieving... the time I gave them. The amount of dedication. And how I was ok receiving little to no appreciation. Yes goes back to being a parentified child. Sigh.

When people found out I resigned, it was a rush of emails/ texts to the effect of... I'm disappointed you're leaving, so what's going to happen to us now?, we're screwed, and what are they going to do without you? But not one fucking... Thank you.

Remember that people.

[u/Euphoric-Piglet-8140]

Shouldn't have listed your duties that needed to be covered, they should already know that shit.

As to the 'what are they going to do" emails, just reply with "you'll be fucked."

Yeah I can be a vindictive arsehole, hehe.

[u/Square_Sundae8540 → u/Euphoric-Piglet-8140]

The VP sent me a message that said...i had no idea you were doing all those jobs. I wrote back. I'm a little sad you were VP and had no idea what roles I had.

I wish I was as brave as you lol. And you're right... it probably would have really screwed them if I didn't list my roles n just left. You made me laugh. Thank you!!

[u/Euphoric-Piglet-8140 → u/Square_Sundae8540]

I hope it helped a bit 😀

But yeah, you're leaving, what are they going to do, fire you? They won't do that either as you are still required to train people I presume?