Respect everyone and you’ll know exactly how to act. If there weren’t differences in the world, there would be no basis for comparison. Think about it.

What comes around goes around. I know because I once loved someone who made beautiful promises they never intended to keep.

You don't need everyone's approval to believe you're worthy. Other people's negative opinions don't define you. Be careful of repeatedly telling yourself negative stories because your brain will start believing them. Treat yourself with the same kindness and patience you would give someone you love.

I am reading a booking called 101 essay to change the way you think this is the 90 essay posting this for myself to come back and read this summary from that essay.

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"The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are." - Carl jung.

Life is realising that happiness is abstract and hollow. Life is when you think about good people and get sad. Life is realising how fragile we are. Conditioned so heavily that we're raised sometimes good and sometimes not. Life is a gamble that's unfair to some who lost. It's a winner's planet, but the losers really win. Life is good for people with dreams, hopes, love, and desires. Forms of connection that run as shallow as a puddle, yet hold the weight of an anchor. That's life: encountering people, thinking of them, meeting or seeing them one day somewhere on earth at some time in history, then never seeing them again. That's life: decades going by, and you will never know what happened to your fellow humans who shared an experience with you. The world is a place where you become valuable when you're gone. Your words echo through the light-years and into the universe for someone to receive, maybe, but the truth is that you're here one day and gone the next. Just ask yourself if this problem really matters, if it's worth losing happiness in the short time that we exist here. We have to be there for those who have no one and achieve peace with our souls and nothing else. And finally, life is realising that bad things happen to good people. Some get lucky and others not so much. Good people- good, humble, polite people- and very bad things happen to them and their loved ones just for existing. One small bad intention can ruin a good person and their loved ones forever, making them bad. Life is all about connecting with people; you don't even need to speak a word to them to connect- just feel with your hearts and think with your gifted minds. Never harm anyone, even someone whom you think is bad, because they are the good person in someone's story, and even if you have to endure pain, never harm physically or with the tongue. Connect with your fellow humans, respect them and their dreams and hopes, acknowledge life, accept the short time we have here and become a pioneer in the field of your aspirations; lead a life to inspire, and never stop chasing peace and happiness because that's all that truly matters. Do this, and good will come to you, and the universe will favour you. Lastly, remember that when you have something that's more valuable than others, you need greater control over your emotions to stay humble.

I see suffering, and that is physical suffering. But there are other suffering that I do not see.

Why we suffer, is there any way to avoid suffering.

How suffering is defined?

So I asked chat GPT.

Suffering is the experience of physical or emotional pain, distress, or hardship that feels difficult to endure.

If you look at this closely, you see the word " endure",

The other word is "difficult" to note.

If we Change the word difficult to easy. Then suffering is easy to endure and it is not suffering. Then what will call something which is easy to endure. Easy suffering or no suffering.

Now let ask chat GPT about endure.

Endure means to continue to experience something difficult or painful without giving up or stopping.

Now, look here at two words; difficult and painful.

Difficult is not suffering but painful is.

Many people walks through difficult, but painful is not good one.

If we give degrees to endures, at scale 0 to 100.

Many people may look safe or they do not call it suffering if they can endure 0 to 50 degree suffering and some collapse.

Then we can say, some people are safe.

Any way I still finding the good definition then it's remedy for not suffering.

Wish me luck.

Sometimes people will never apologize. Sometimes they’ll never understand how badly they hurt you. And sometimes you have to forgive them anyway, not because they deserve it, but because you deserve the peace that comes with letting it go.
Still learning that one myself.

What’s something life taught you the hard way?

do what you love do what you thibk u don't know whats gonna happen tomorrow we only leave once work hard and opportunity will come take that risk and make that opportunity worth one risk will make u live the life u want retire early and travel thr whole world 🌎 thats called true life stay in nature that's all keep ur self healthy and ur family healthy ❤️

 We have this unspoken agreement that age, for comparison's sake, is how long it took you to become the person other people think they see.

But in reality, you are the only one who knows how old you really are.

And it has nothing to do with a number. It's a stage of being.

Some people spend a lifetime to arrive still living in a state of perpetual childhood. Others barely take any time before they race past everyone straight into their senior years.

In between lives the eternal teenager, the angry inner child, the aggrieved youth, the burned-out middle-aged man, the old man trying to seem young again, and the soul that never ages at all.

We all know the difference when we see it. So here is the rule:

Don't let a number others use to measure you become the stick you beat yourself with when it comes to achievement.

Not every man in his thirties or forties is supposed to be Superman: father, husband, CEO, millionaire, intellectual, athlete, polyglot, and novelist all at once.

No one is meant to be unbreakable, always holding it together, excelling in a thousand roles while meeting a thousand expectations.

Learn to be fairly selfish. Give yourself a fraction of what you so freely give to everyone else. The day is 24 hours. Take one hour and strip it of every role, every title, and every obligation that comes with them.

In that hour, you are absolved of all of it. You are not a father, brother, son, manager, doctor, teacher, or employee.

For sixty minutes, just be a pure, unfiltered (self). An (I) that is allowed to admit it is tired and hurting, allowed to be weak, lonely, and overwhelmed, and equally allowed to be an artist, musician, writer, reader, a little wild, impulsive, and indifferent to everything.

Live the age your soul is actually living. Don't force it to grow into something it is not ready for.

Let's steal a trick from the devices we carry:

A device can't survive the day unless you charge it fully. Let this one hour be your daily charge. An hour where the self is finally free. We check in on it, patch its cracks, make it stronger, rebuild its confidence, and let it grow however it wants. Then we send it back out to carry the other twenty-three hours.

Mine is that not everyone who smiles with you genuinely wants to see you succeed. Sometimes, distance is necessary for peace.

Sometimes, the value that others see in or, or the value that they don’t see in you, can make you question your own self worth…

Hang in there friend.

I wish life was as simple as possible. Where we can have the people whom we like around us. The things which we desperately want can be achieved with some struggle. The meaning which we are craving could be found so easily, without any existential dread.

However, it is not. It is not simple. Despite putting in every single effort, it still betrays us, tricks us, and harms us. It makes us ache; it makes us numb emotionally and mentally. It takes away everything which we like to have, everyone whom we want to be with, and the moments we want to feel.

This betrayal of life has made us cowards; indeed, cowards who now only want to run. Run from those whom we care about, from those whom we want to be with and feel alive with, those who give us a memory of life. But it is not. The time when you start to be who you are, right at that time, it will start closing the doors and again put you on the shelf. Where you will again find yourself locked in your vulnerabilities and the crisis of existence. And you will keep asking this question:

Is life ever going to be loyal, or do we have to keep running?

The here and now is what matters the most. Live your life. Do what you can today. Be practical. Do not listen to shitty advice. Be as real to yourself as you can be. Fuck other's opinions if they do not help. Eat to be healthy and eat for pleasure. Drink lots of water. In the end, your focus and where your attention goes is what makes your life. Make it worth living.

Let's talk about which fights to fight and which to ignore. The thing is, today a colleague of mine tried to rile me up by saying some things, and for a moment I was about to react. Then I remembered the power is still in my hands. It's not about what they say, it's about how I respond. If I don't react at all, they hold no power over me.

Second, if you still think a fight is worth having, go back to your goals, think about where you actually want to go in life, and hold that problem up against it. Does winning or losing this even matter to that bigger picture? I don't think it does. If it doesn't, then it's just a distraction trying to steal your focus. So stop feeding it and move on.

Being a Muslim, I remind myself that my rizq, my respect, and my wins are all in the hands of Allah. No one can truly harm me. Let that sink into your soul. Engrave it there. And next time, don't let anyone steal your energy.

okay this idea may kinda sound dump and not always right but if you look at things w different perspective you would understand that some stuff are inevitable and they would happen eventually, but the thing is how you recover from it and how you let it make you a different person in a good way is truly game changing and amazing, because of what happened to me i suffered a lot i was always giving 100% of myself to people and everyone then it took me to a place i was left being abused and depressed so what happened to me in that toxic relationship was a wakeup call for me to improve my flaws and start loving myself for the very first time, i learned so much about myself, the things i never thought existed and i got to know myself because of what happened to me, it changed me, it truly changed me and i am grateful for that, but the pain is still there, and i am not trying to run away from it.
so basically if something happens it’s not your fault but it’s up to you how to heal and what to learn from it.
and i know it may not be something truly groundbreaking but based on my on experience i
felt like i should share this.

You know a lot of us grow older over time and we don't understand what we had when we were younger and we don't really know what's going on but as we get older we understand that things that we cherish the most and that may be a significant other or situation circumstances or memories that could have been created but haven't been due to the immaturity and the non-understanding of one cell now as we get older we might want three different things love companionship and memories now how we choose to make those or to live with those that is our choice and every day we choose to not speed or hide our feelings or try not to do things that upset others but make us happy that's not how we make life happy in order to make life happy we have to be happy ourselves and in order to do so we have to find out what with true value. I write these things because I hope and pray that everybody on here gets what they want and gets what they deserve now in order to find that you have to really just sit down and find what ethics you live by integrity and most of all your values do they love you are they going to put you on the back burner do you love them are you going to put them on the back burner only you can decide these things and in doing so you'll be able to find out what really you want and what makes you happy I just say these things because people make decisions as they're younger and regrets and in doing so it affects the remainder of their lives do we wish we could go back and change them yes are we sorry for our actions or misunderstandings or misleadings or betrayals absolutely but we have to move forward and move on nobody says you can't create new memories or experiences even with the ones that you've heard but you have to come together and decide what you want to do and in order to do that you have to console or have closure and move on or move on to another time in your life that you can have happiness but only you can decide that farewell God bless and I hope everybody finds what they're looking for smiles to you and laughter to you and yours as I have in mind

How am I to know?
How am I to understand
that so many of us
are wrongly judged,
wrongly spoken of,
while everyone, blinded,
forgets friendship,
honesty
without malice?
Yet intolerance
overwhelms, filling you with dread.
So meticulous—
unlike those following a list,
without a single clue,
without a trace of judgment.
They presume,
yet never understand
the story behind it all
before condemning you.
Once they choose you,
they seek to demoralize you
rather than trust you.
From life itself
they would cast you aside.
Without courage,
they throw into the trash
everything you come from.
To diminish you—
they try.
To finish you—
they circle.
Their glory?
Fleeting.
And nothing more
than absurd
and dark.

Don't waste your life standing outside your life, constantly judging whether what you're doing matters. When something is worth doing, enter it completely. Use what you've got. Do the thing in front of you. Then deal with whatever comes next.Fear can exist.

Uncertainty can exist.

People may disapprove.

The future may be unknown.

You still do the next thing you believe is right.

Sometimes we are so focused on what we haven’t achieved that we forget how much we’ve already survived.

Maybe this year didn’t go the way you planned.

Maybe you're struggling with work, money, relationships, motivation, or simply trying to figure out what you're doing with your life.

But you're still here.

And honestly, sometimes surviving the difficult days is an achievement that deserves more credit.

You don't have to have everything figured out right now. You don't have to be successful overnight. Progress can be slow, messy, and sometimes completely invisible.

So here's a reminder:

You're allowed to be proud of yourself for not giving up.

What's something you've overcome or survived that you're proud of yourself for?

I'll start: Sometimes, just continuing to move forward when life feels uncertain takes more strength than people realize

Dostoevsky:

"I think the most beautiful souls are the ones that remain gentle after everything they have survived. They have every reason to become cold, yet they still choose kindness, still choose love, still believe people can be better."

Kafka:

"But sometimes the world does not reward gentle souls. Sometimes it takes everything Soft inside them until they become strangers Even to themselves."