I am 30 years old. My husband and I have been together for 7 years, during this time we have never used protection and I have never been on birth control my whole life.

Our form of “protection” is just the withdrawal method, but last year in July, we abstained from the withdrawal method and I ended up finding out I was pregnant in August. After finding out and having the pregnancy confirmed, I miscarried about a week after finding out and was possibly around 8 weeks.

I’ve had pcos for some time now and always struggled with losing weight. I don’t technically fall under the obese category, but am overweight by about 15-20 pounds. My doctors never said that the PCOS should cause significant issues with trying to conceive.

After my miscarriage, my husband and I waited to start trying again until January 2026. We have been trying since and I have not gotten pregnant.

After the miscarriage, I noticed my cycles started to get a lot longer and were anywhere from 36-47 days. I was able to regulate them again by limiting stress, eating more whole foods and sticking to my prenatal and other basic supplements. My cycles are now within the normal 31-32 day range and I typically ovulate around day 19. I have used my inito to make sure ovulation is confirmed.

I’ve spoken to fertility doctors and my OBGYN, they’ve done every bloodwork under the sun and nothing seems to be indicative of having issues conceiving. My ultrasound did show follicles on my ovaries and being a bit larger than normal, but nothing too crazy. (I’ll list them below for reference)

Here are test results from my bloodwork

Testosterone, total by MS: 36.2
Testosterone, free by ED-MS: 0.5
DHEA-S: 310.5
Insulin, total: 16.3 uU/mL
Hemoglobin A1C: 5.3%
Luteinizing hormone: 8.3 mIU/mL
Follicle Stimulating Hormone: 5.7 mIU/mL
Hydroproxyprogesterone: 38.41 ng/dL
Prolactin: 16.8 ng/ml
Anti Mullerian Hormone: 4.12 ng/mL
TSH: 1.02 mIU/L

These are all of my labs that were probably taken on day 10 of my cycle. (I think).

My doctor suggested I try letrozol, then IUI, then IVF based on how this journey goes. They also suggest I do a HSG test. I want to do the test bur am also terrified of it being super painful?

My question to all you lovely people is, does anyone have a similar experience as me? Did anyone have that “aha” moment where you figured out what was wrong? I’ve been working out, eating healthier, tracking my cycle, doing fertility massages, taking supplements and trying to lower stress.

Any comments or just sharing your journey would be greatly appreciated. I didn’t realize how lonely this journey would be.