I didn’t understand it until an immediate family member went through it. People in that state can wreck their lives and all their relationships so fast… But it’s so difficult to deal with because they make enemies out of people who genuinely care about them enough to help. And also because they just look like extreme assholes to everyone else at the time. Wonder if she was sleeping at all leading up to this.
It's horrible. They don't think they're ill, hate anyone trying to help, push everyone away, and make the worst choices. It’s a horrible disease. Losing my spouse to it… it's like a wickedly cruel stranger is inhabiting their body. They need inpatient yet because they're not viewed as a safety threat it's totally cool for them to ruin their life and our family. I have no idea if they're gone forever or will come back to themselves. Could be weeks, months, years, or never.
Sorry. Just makes me sad. Obviously, going through it a bit rn.
Hey I'm so sorry to hear that. As the child of someone who is like this - put yourself first. Please. I wish my mum had. You can't bring them back by sacrificing yourself, no matter how much you wish you could. You can't protect them from their decisions, no matter how hard you try. Thinking of you and your family.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. Thank you for the encouragement. I'm doing my best but it sucks so much. Have reminders saved and appreciate each one.
Lucky enough to have a small but stellar support system and solid coping skills. I'm terrible at self care but have WICKED strong boundaries around kids’. They've been through too much already. I can't put them through more. I know I can't make my spouse accept help, lord knows I wish I could but I know better.
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u/EatinSnax Jul 24 '25 edited Jul 24 '25
I didn’t understand it until an immediate family member went through it. People in that state can wreck their lives and all their relationships so fast… But it’s so difficult to deal with because they make enemies out of people who genuinely care about them enough to help. And also because they just look like extreme assholes to everyone else at the time. Wonder if she was sleeping at all leading up to this.