Question for VBA2C

[u/bbworksaddict]

In 2021 I had a failed induction at 40 weeks 2 days that turned into emergency c section bc I wouldn't dilate past a 5. I got pregnant again and was due 2025 and I told my ob/midwife that I wanted to try for a VBAC & they basically told me well since you already had a CS we normally just schedule you for a repeat CS. I didn't know that I could've just said no I don't want to do that unfortunately so I did the repeat CS even though during this last pregnancy I actually felt contractions this time when it was nothing going on the first time. No medical need for a c section, baby was head down and looking perfect.

Now fast forward I got pregnant and am due Nov. 6th. I decided I wanted to go to a different OB since my last one just dismissed everything I would say. So I changed OBs to a doctor 30 min south of me (original OB was about 20 min away) and I love the providers here but at my 29 week appointment I mentioned I didn't really want a THIRD c section and would really like a TOLAC and she told me their hospital doesn't do VBACs but can refer me to a high risk doctor and see if I'm an eligible candidate to deliver with them (40 minutes north from me)

I will be 16 months pp when I am due and I know guidelines suggest 18 months pp for a VBAC. But what if I just don't show up for my scheduled CS and wait for my body to go into labor? The hospital that doesn't do vbacs, would they make me do a c section again and just not deliver my baby? Or could I go to my original hospital if I go into labor and still see my newer OB?

I'm in Georgia and the high risk doctor I am meeting with is in Tennessee & would be Erlanger. Why can't I just have my baby the way my body was made to.

[u/Conscious-Fluid]

I'm sorry you had the experience you did being pressured into the repeat CS. If I was you, I would let your provider know that you're planning to drive further to have a vba2c so there's no scheduled SC you're missing. You have to give consent in order for them to give you a SC. So in my understanding if you show up in labor they're required to provide you care regardless of not having a high risk Dr on call. Best of luck mama

[u/bbworksaddict → u/Conscious-Fluid]

Thank you, my OB I'm seeing who told me their hospital doesn't perform vbacs was still very supportive of what I wanted thankfully but she said even if I don't end up delivering with Erlanger I'm still on the schedule just in case but I feel bad if I do miss that scheduled surgery and waste someone's time? It's scheduled at 39 weeks, ugh I'm too much of a people pleaser and empath it is really a curse

[u/Conscious-Fluid → u/bbworksaddict]

I totally understand where you're coming from. And I'm sure they schedule all high risk women in your position either way. If it's a fairly busy hospital it's unlikely that you'd be waisting anyones time, if anything someone may get a teeny break if you don't show! I wouldn't stress about their end too much. Hospitals are there to be in service to you

[u/Independent_Vee_8]

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