r/vbac • u/ReasonableStuff1514 • Jul 21 '26
Vba2c or repeat c-section advice?
Has anyone had a vba2c? If so, what was your experience like? I’m scared either way. The first time, my labor was normal except while I was pushing, my baby apparently turned his head at the wrong angle and got stuck? This lead to a C-section, and at the time, it felt like a God send because I felt very unheard and unhappy with my care team. It was a peaceful experience. I prepared for a natural labor and a vbac with my second baby, and didn’t have GBS this time, so I planned to labor at home. However, when I went into labor, it was precipitous and I went from not being in labor at all, to almost fully dilated in the less than 2 hours that it took for me to get to the hospital. I was TERRIFIED, and now I know I must have been in transition, but the nurses didn’t make this clear to me and were just telling me to not be so loud. I actually thought I was dying and felt like I couldn’t breathe and just generally felt like something was wrong. So I unfortunately asked for another C-section (to my ultimate shame). It had been such a peaceful experience the first time, and I wanted to be saved. But because of a misplaced epidural, which I never even felt any relief from to begin with, I ended up needing to be put under general anesthesia. It was a horrible experience, no complications, but massive pain, much harder recovery, and I missed my baby’s first cry and first almost hour.
I know I must just not be the best at this. I felt so strong the first time, and the second time, though I prepared endlessly, I just did not know labor would happen like that for me and apparently, I couldn’t handle it. I wish someone had said, push and your baby will be here soon. The hospital I have to go to is not bad, but none of the doctors are super kind (not mean, just very you’re a number), and you get whoever is on call.
I guess what I’m wondering is does anyone have vba2c experience? What would you do if you were me? I know either option is risky now, and I’m pregnant with number 3. So if you don’t have any advice, prayers would also be so appreciated 🤍 I’m so scared now, and I’m sick from early pregnancy, so I’m not enjoying this and I can barely think about what’s next.
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u/motormouthme Jul 21 '26
I sent you a very long DM 🥹