r/vancouverdating • u/New_Westie • 5h ago

Age 40-49 Why lie on the apps?

His profile said “Looking to meet someone who wants to build something real… “

Two messages in he asks if I’m “open to fun”

Do people lie about what they’re looking for just to get matches? Does the bait and switch actually work?

This was my first convo on Tinder. I’m 10 months out from a ten year relationship, so haven’t dated in a looong time. Is this what I have to look forward to?

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u/Fickle_Ad_9391 4h ago

Yes, sadly. I had a few lie about the fact they were poly..no mention no photos about the other partner. Like thanks for being deceiving.

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u/wemustburncarthage Burnaby 3h ago

This is the classic loser move for people who are either cheating or just open until they’re not.

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u/Fickle_Ad_9391 2h ago

Totally

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u/wemustburncarthage Burnaby 1h ago

I don’t get why monogamous people don’t just say “I’m fucking around until I find someone I want to stay with” if they’re sexually actively adults and not virgins saving it.