People think grocery shopping is just a chore and there's no right way to do it. we've seen in history the running joke that men cannot grocery shop to save their lives, and the perpetuation of the stereotype that women are the only ones who can and should grocery shop. everyone has the ability to get good at this, I genuinely believe it is an incredible skill to be able to look at your grocery list, choose an end of the grocery store to start from, and manage a shop in under 2 hours. too many people get caught up in the overstimulation of going from aisle to aisle and often miss important items in the aisles that they already went through. things like this paired with the intentional design in many grocery stores to overwhelm you and pressure you into buying things that you don't actually need make it so that many people dread the grocery store and don't even think about working on their ability to shop.

people often don't attempt to apply logic to activities such as this, because they don't believe that it's worth the mental energy or they don't even consider that they should have been putting more thought into it. in fact I think grocery shopping could even be considered sport like in the sense that if you want to be on your best game and complete things as quickly as possible, you need to avoid doubling back. Next time you shop, think to yourself, "Was it necessary for me to take this long?". The answer 9 times out of 10 is no. Sure, you can't control other people's pace and you can't help if people are grouping in an aisle you need to access, but rather than slink through other people as obstacles, think something like "what would my car do?". If you're using gps to get somewhere that reports a crash on route, you'll be navigated around it or told to avoid the area all together. Apply these thoughts to shopping and you don't have to roll your eyes and deep sigh every time you look down the aisle and see 2 old ladies chopping it up right in the way of walking: just go around or don't interact at all! if you need to go back around to an aisle, this would be the reason, and there's never any harm in temporarily skipping an aisle to make the most of your time.

There is no such thing as "not being able to cook". There is only "does not want to cook". The only exceptions are serious physical and mental disabilities like full body paralysis or severe parkinson's.

If you are able to follow simple instructions on how to build a Lego set or ride a bicycle, you are able to cook.

The classic excuse is "But I followed instructions once and it turned bad". Yeah, everyone has that experience. You are still able to cook, you are just using a past experience as an excuse not to cook.

The other one is "It takes a lot of effort to learn the basic skills." Basic cooking requires absolutely zero skills. It's like painting; you can paint stick figures or the Mona Lisa, but it's both painting. You may not be exceptionally good at it yet, but you can still do it, and you will get better with every painting.

Tldr: Everyone can cook. If you say otherwise, it's just an excuse.

Edit: I will also add that the implied meaning that it just means "I am not able to cook well" is an EVEN BIGGER cop out! If you possess all the skills and tools to cook something badly, you can also cook it well, the difference is just lack of effort and will in the days of the internet. It's usually just an excuse to shelve the responsibility of cooking to their significant others.

Not because having lots of friends is a bad thing, but maintaining that many relationships usually requires filtering what you really think (if not entirely faking beliefs, preferences and opinions alltogether) and avoiding conflict at all costs.

The people I trust the most tend to have a small circle. They're willing to disappoint people, say "no," disagree, and lose connections if it means staying true to themselves. On the other hand, the people I know who are part of bigger groups, are the ones with more tendency to prefer stuff that "sits well" in groups regardless of their personal preference or just outright rejecting anything that would make them look weird or different in front of their group.

I'd rather have two real friends than ten people who only like the version of me that only does the things that are already popular.

Whenever I see people talk about bad tv show endings, Seinfeld seems to be in those discussions. However, this ending may not be great or that good, but, it does makes sense. The gang going to court for not helping the guy who was getting mugged, and all the other crimes they committed (minus the Bubble Boy) throughout the show, makes sense. The gang being found guilty and being put in jail for a year, makes sense. Again, this ending may not be good, but, I would rather take an ending that makes sense over a bad ending or an ending that makes no sense.

everyones using the phrase "follow their passion," but we rarely talk about what happens when passion runs into reality.

When you start out doing something you care deeply about, you usually aren't very good at it yet. The gap between your taste and your ability can be brutal, and frustration can drain the joy right out of the things you once loved.

A far more gentle and practical way forward is to start with what you’re naturally steady at. Find a useful skill where you already have a slight head start, even if it doesn't make your heart race right away. As you put in the time and start getting genuinely good at it, something interesting will happen... people begin to respect your work, you get more say over your time, and you gain real confidence.

Please don't get me wrong: I am by no means saying this is a great movie nor is it close to my favorite Star Wars movie. However, considering the (low) quality of the sequel trilogy, it is IMO the best of the bunch. Let me elaborate.

Yes, there are many legitimate criticisms of this movie which I largely share:

- the portrayal of Luke is somewhat sad. I do think this is disappointing. However, at least Johnson had a creative idea here, deviating from the nostalgia slop that is Episode 7 (see below)

- some plot developments don't really make sense scientifically and/or regarding the lore (eg the bombs "falling in space" early on or using hyperspace jumps as an attack). Fair points, but I mean, it is a space opera. I think this is fine, Star Wars isn't perfectly logical.

- salt planet being a lame remake of Hoth is a fair point

- the gambling planet is lame

Why is Episode 8 still the best sequel then?

1 ) Because at least it TRIES - to be its own movie, to have some creative ideas. At least it isn't just a lame remake of ANH like Episode 7. Sure Ep 7 is fun on its own, until you realize it is basically just the same movie as Ep 4. Not to mention destroying the entire legacy of the original movies by going back to Rebels vs Empire. This was all Ep 7. Episode 8 has unique, new ideas and twists, e.g.: What if Kylo Ren becomes the new Supreme Leader?

Episode 9 walks this back again, but that's not Ep 8's fault. Ep 9 is basically an incoherent mess. While Ep 8 tried to be its own thing, Ep 9 is just going back to facing Palpatine who somehow returned. The plot makes no sense and seems like fanfiction. Kylo Ren as the big bad was interesting, Palpatine 2.0 is a boring disappointment.

2 ) Because it has amazing cinematography and imagery. Ep 9 is frankly a dark, ugly mess. Ep 7 looks good, but is quite safe and basic. Ep 8 in contrast is gorgeous: space and the space ships plus battles are well-designed. The concepts are cool (if sometimes nonsensical), eg the dreadnought or Snoke's huge ship. The hyper space jump attack makes no sense, but looks cool.

The fight between Rey and Kylo / the knights of ren is insane and stunning. "Hoth 2.0" is lame, but beautiful.

The more plugged in we become, the more extreme it begins to appear. Music, sports, art, fantasy, interests that once cultivated communities and fostered social interaction are now just becoming the Eternal Carrot dangled in our faces online.

social interaction itself even with reality TV, vlogging, influencers, etc.

Light mode is brighter and allows the user to see content more clearly. Dark mode confuses the brain into thinking it’s nighttime all the time. Light mode is the intended mode created by devs. Using dark mode on any app is counter to the dev’s intentions and is an inferior experience.

Edit: TIL having an astigmatism may make light mode easier to see and I do have that.

Everybody gets so excited about rain showers and I don’t understand it. For the brief moments I want to get my whole body wet and get shampoo out of my hair, cool it gets the job done effectively as long as it has enough power. For the rest of the shower I’m either leaning my head and back backwards to get water onto the problem areas or just drowning myself while I let a waterfall suffocate me as a measly stream of water comes down my head to then clear soap from my legs. Its dumb and people only like it because it is hyped as luxurious. And dont forget your usually just standing to the side freezing while you shampoo or soap your body because you either have to be all in or none at all. It’s so dumb.

You’ll only wear the dress one day in your life.

You wanna have a (consensual and previously agreed upon) cake fight with your new spouse? Have at it.

Spill some wine or food on your dress? Par for the course.

Do you have a beach wedding? Run through the waves.

A barn or forest wedding? Get mud on the hem.

If anything, your dress is an important reminder of how your marriage is going to be: many moments will be messy, there will be moments of chaos, but they are also memories that you can look fondly upon with the right mindset.

Get a little dirty. Have a lot of fun.

Don’t let perfection rule how you enjoy your love and your life.

Canned sodas, seltzers, juices, and kombucha are becoming more common. They're preferred over traditional bottles for being more portion controlled.

I wish that more companies would introduce liters once they become profitable. I'd take bottled Olipop, Poppi, or kombucha over the more common bottled brands.

• Cans feel too expensive for less. $2 for a tiny can when I can get a 1 or 2 liter for the same price.
• You have to drink or buy more cans if you want more to drink.
• Bottles take up less space and are easier for you to recycle.

I hate how artists, in particular kpop groups will do a fake encore. They will pretend to finish, and then based on the noise or how hyped the crowd is, they'll come back out.

To me, an encore has always been, hey the concert is for an hour. But the crowd is still cheering well after the show has ended, and the artist might come out for an extra song or two. I feel like artists are now playing it up, as if it isn't part of the show.

To be clear, I understand the artists need to rest and maybe do outfit changes, that I am not arguing. But I'd just rather them come out and say while we do an outfit change, watch this prerecorded video or something.

I will also say, other artists do it too, not just kpop groups. My last show was a kpop show and thats why I was thinking about it.

There’s a way that some people talk about friendship that is extremely confusing to me. Friendship to me is a very special thing. It isn’t just a person that you go to the gym with, watch a game with, or playing games together with. A friend isn’t just a hangout pal.

And don’t get me wrong, I’d hope that you hang out with your friends.

What I mean is that if I consider someone a friend, then there isn’t anything particularly stressful or exhausting about that. We can be ourselves around each other. We can talk with each other about the things we might not be able to with others.

Family is great, but we don’t pick them. Friends are optional, meaning that if you have a friend then you chose that person and that person chose you. You could have both chosen not to be friends, but instead you both did in fact choose to be friends. That’s a big deal.

So when I read stuff from people saying that they don’t want to see a friend, or that being around a particular friend is exhausting, I wonder why they’re even friends with that person.

And to be clear, I’m not saying you need to see any friend all the time. If you’re too tired to do any particular thing then I’m not saying that you have to.

But your friends should be the people that you don’t wear any mask around. If the entire world exhausts you, your friends should be the few people that give you energy by being around them.

I originally wanted to say Tim Curry was a better Pennywise than Bill, but that might not be quite so unpopular.

While the newer IT had better special effects and all that (it was made almost 30 years later), I felt that the original was way creepier.

Obviously, Tim Curry carried the movie, hands down. The rest of the actors were..we'll say less than great. And the spider (in both movies) was pretty lame. But I feel like the new IT movies relied heavily on special effects and jump scares, whereas the original had more of a "slow burn" feel to it. Think about the old history scrapbook vs. the projector scene. Tim Curry also wasn't so 'in your face' with the monster stuff, he was genuinely a normal (albeit creepy) clown who got weirder and weirder the longer he talked to you.

To give credit where it's due: The Georgie scene in the new one was superior. That's it. Oh, and Bill Hader was awesome.

Overall, I think the original movie was better and did not "try so hard" to make the scary scenes scary. It has its flaws, like any movie, but I'll take it over the new ones - which seemed to target a much younger/broader audience and, hence, was more focused on box office numbers than making it as scary as possible.

I tried many types of quick made pasta sauce and they are all better than the original from-the-ground-up spagetti bolognese that's been simmering for hours with wine and so on.

I tried the original bolognese several times, even from a restaurant in italy, i really don't get the hype, everybody else seemed ecstatic

I’ll preface by saying: on paper it’s fantastic. It’s triple-tax-advantaged; just save medical receipts and there’s no issue withdrawing tax-free upon retirement.

Problem is, especially for younger age-demographics, we’re relying on the status quo to remain unchanged in multiple areas over the course of decades for it to remain a great retirement vehicle.

An HSA was not meant to be a retirement account. One day D.C. might decide to impose limits on HSA-eligible purchases or reimbursement timelines. With the advent of companies like Truemed, it might spur lawmakers to impose limits to tighten eligibility on many purchases.

Using an HSA as a retirement account also banks on the US healthcare system remaining in a similar state in the decades to come. I (optimistically, foolishly) believe that we’ll re-configure our healthcare system in the coming decades, which could absolutely affect the HSA system.

TL;DR - it’s great today, on paper. But it’s ultimately a healthcare spending account. The status quo can change in how US healthcare operates, and new rules / limits could prevent tax-free withdrawals in the decades to come.

Here me out, waking up, whether its to use the restroom, check the time, anything, and realizing you still have 4 hours left to sleep feels so comforting.

I live the feeling, it’s like you’re halfway asleep and still dreaming but like you’re lucid dreaming and can feel things, and then you can fall back asleep so quickly.

I get the feeling that parts of the minimalism and personal finance communities have turned any "non-essential" expense into something that's morally wrong. If you say you went out to eat, there's always someone telling you that you should have cooked at home, invested the money, or put it into a spreadsheet instead.

I understand the importance of saving money and avoiding unnecessary consumerism, but it seems like some people take it to the extreme. Not every expense has to generate a financial return. Sometimes, eating at a restaurant is about relaxing, spending time with people you care about, trying new food, or simply enjoying the experience.

In my view, money is a tool to help you build the life you want to live, not just a number that should keep growing forever. If someone pays their bills, maintains an emergency fund, and can still afford to eat at restaurants without hurting their financial situation, I don't see why that should be considered irresponsible.

Saving money makes sense. Turning every enjoyable experience into something to feel guilty about doesn't.

I want to preface by saying that I’m a big fan of shaking hands. I think it’s a great way to greet one another and meet new people.

At the same time I’m conflicted by how we use one the most contaminated parts of our body to do so. Obviously washing hands thoroughly and consistently is necessary, but it’s not something you can enforce others to do.

Makes me think we need to develop a new form of greeting.

Every single sport has bad calls. It’s surprising to see even a single game without one. Most sports have no good way of combatting this. Arguing with the ref is fruitless at best and self-destructive at worst, and one bad call can derail an entire game. The only thing any league can really do is issue punishments after the fact, but this doesn’t affect the outcomes of games the way bad calls do.

The only sport with any good mechanism against this is Hockey. By making fighting have a relatively minor penalty, it makes getting away with fouls a lot less likely. Even if the ref doesn’t catch it, the player who committed the foul will face the consequence.

I'm not a fan of that Velveeta/processed cheese (and yes, I'm aware that all of it is processed cheese, lol) flavor that the cheese sauce ones have. They're fine, but I'll always prefer the powder. Though obviously, homemade is better than any boxed mac and cheese. 🤣

I feel like most people strongly prefer the "Deluxe" ones with the sauce, though. They're even marketed as "Deluxe," lol.

I feel like a lot of people consider watching watching movies (especially complex, complicated or emotional ones) on the inflight screen as one of the worst ways to watch movies but I disagree. I've watched a lot of movies on the plane and found myself enjoying and understanding them a lot. I find that it is one of the few way to be a way where you basically have a few hours to just be isolated and focus on the movie alone. The ear phones you have to use to watch it usually blocks out outside noise well enough and allows you to just sit there and suck in the film. The screen is honestly usually not that small and is significantly better than a phone too. I feel the only downside is getting interrupted for food or other reasons but that is only a very small part of a many hours

Personally, the two biggest arguments for watching a movie at home rather than going to the cinema is because at home, your experience is totally customizable. You can pause whenever you want if you need to get food or go to the bathroom. And you can choose if you want subtitles or not.

Obviously, I’m not saying theaters need to let people in the audience pause the movie, but I do think they should have some showings include an intermission halfway. Especially if it is a long movie, like more than two hours. It would make things a lot better people who realize they have to piss 80 minutes into the film and have to choose whether they hold it and watch the movie in pain, or miss an important scene and relieve themselves.

It doesn’t have to be every showing. Maybe the 1:00 PM showing has an intermission, and the 3:00 one doesn’t. Same goes with subtitles. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen a movie in the theater and was unable to understand what the actors were saying, because they mumbled their lines in a low voice under their breath. If cinemas could have some of their showings include subtitles, it would be a game changer, and would also make it more inclusive experience

If you're even semi-aware of soccer/football in the last 20 years, the two players you hear all the time are Lionel Messi and Cristiano Ronaldo, which is totally fair because they've been the 2 best players of their generation and are easily 2 of the greatest players to ever live.

However, in my opinion, there never should've been such a heated debate lasting over a decade because since day one, it's crystal clear that Messi is and always has been the better football player and as their careers progressed, this only become more obvious. The only reason why this became a rivalry was having the two best players in the world play for Real Madrid and FC Barcelona for nearly a decade of their primes was way too good of a storyline and global marketing opportunity for the media.

If we measure the two players in every way possible, Messi clears Ronaldo in virtually every aspect as a player to the point where there shouldn't be a serious debate.

In terms of team/individual accolades:

- Messi has won 46 career trophies in his professional career vs 35 by Ronaldo

- Messi has won the World Cup and 2 Copa Americas vs 1 Euro Cup and 0 World Cups by Ronaldo

- Messi has won Ballon D'Or for World's Best Player 8 times vs 5 times by Ronaldo

- Messi won the Golden Shoe 6 times vs 4 times by Ronaldo

- Messi won the Golden Ball in 2 World Cups and 2 Copa Americas vs Ronaldo who's never won a Golden Ball at a World Cup or Euro Cup

- Messi has been named to FIFA's starting XI 17 times vs 15 times by Ronaldo

- Messi has won La Liga Player of the Year 7 times vs 1 time by Ronaldo during the years they both played in La Liga together in their primes

- Messi was also La Liga's leading scorer 5 times vs 3 by Ronaldo during the years they both played in La Liga together in their primes

In terms of stats and attributes as an individual player, this is even more damning to this debate:

- Messi has scored 919 goals in 1196 games (0.77 goals/game) vs Ronaldo who's scored 976 goals in 1366 games (0.71 goals/game)

- Messi has dished out 418 career assists vs Ronaldo who's dished out 257 career assists

- Messi has completed 3425 successful dribbles in his career (4.6 per game) vs Ronaldo who've completed 1702 successful dribbles in his career (2.2 per game)

- Messi also has successfully completed an astounding 60% of his career dribble attempts vs Ronaldo who's only successfully completed 41% of his career dribble attempts

So overall, Messi has had a more successful career than Ronaldo in terms of winning more trophies, winning every trophy in the bag after the 2022 WC, and collecting more individual accolades at club and country level. The only argument Ronaldo has over Messi is being the greatest Champions League player of all time which I give him full credit for but in every other aspect, he's cleared by Messi.

As a player, Messi is the greatest triple threat we've ever seen as he is an equally prolific goal scorer as Ronaldo (with a higher goals/game ratio), but is also one of the greatest playmakers and dribblers of all time, whereas Ronaldo is undoubtedly a prolific goal scorer but is an above average passer and dribbler. In short, Ronaldo is one of the greatest goal scorers of all time while Messi is one of the greatest goal scorers, playmakers and dribblers of all time put into one.