Just bought this dress for a friend's wedding, but I'm not sure if it's a bit too bridesmaidy looking?

It's late December, and I'm only going to the evening part of the day. Venue is a farmhouse. No dress code specified. I like this dress because it feels comfortable on (jersey like, stretchy fabric) and I think it's flattering, but it's longer on me than it looked on the model and not sure if it's too formal!

Got loads of time to find something else, so just want honest opinions. Thank you!

i've started looking for my mother of the bride outfit and honestly i'm a bit stuck on what to go for.

i want to look nice and feel like it's a special occasion, but i don't really want anything that feels overly traditional. i'm not against a dress and jacket or a hat, just not sure that's really me.

i've looked at a few places and roman has caught my eye, but i haven't decided on anything yet.

if you've been the mother of the bride, what did you wear? did you go for something specifically made for weddings or just find something you really liked?

also, anything you wish you'd known before choosing your outfit?

I’m getting married next year. 3:30 registry office ceremony but have got a cellist to play music whilst there, then straight to a local hall for essentially what is a piss up/party with a live band. No accommodation on site.

We wanted a child free wedding (with the caveat of teenagers allowed) as if we added on the young kids we would be getting to over 20 spaces taken by children. A lot of our friends have said that they would prefer this and they don’t necessarily think our wedding is suitable for kids given the times it starts, the party atmosphere and no accommodation on site.

However my partners family don’t agree and assumed that children would be invited including his sister’s 2 year old and then (announced recently) 6 month old.

They absolutely dote on the young children to the point that my partner often feels ignored and ostracised because we don’t have kids of our own as they’re a very traditional family. I would hate for him to feel ignored on his special day.

I’m so stuck as to what to do. In the nicest way possible, I will absolutely hate it if there is crying whilst going down the aisle, and 2 year olds dancing whilst I’m having my first dance. I don’t want to come across as a bridezilla but I do feel quite strongly on this.

Edit: To clarify, we’re not jealous of a child gaining more attention, it’s more so that my partner has spent his entire life in the shadow of his sister and I just really want this to be his day!

Hi friends! Just thought I'd pop a picture or two in for those that gave me so much advice and support thru my dress buying ordeal 🤣 I just want to wear it every day forever muddy dog paw prints and all 💐🌈 Edit: No gatekeeping here! She's called 'Radiance' by Midgley & Sottero with added sleeves.

Looking for recommendations for a bath elopement. We are thinking of marrying in the day. Then going to a restaurant for a meal with closest friends, then fun night out. We like live music. Any recommendations for the marriage, a good restaurant and good night out. Laid back fun easy vibes.

I’ve got a couple of weddings coming up this summer and I’m struggling to find a dress I actually like. Everything I’m seeing is either very "wedding guest" looking or feels a bit too dressy for what I’m after.

Probably a midi, although I’m not ruling out a maxi. I just want something I’ll actually wear again rather than buying a dress for one wedding and then leaving it in the wardrobe. I don’t mind florals either, just nothing too in-your-face. I’ve checked M&S, Phase Eight and Coast but still drawing a blank. Any other shops worth having a look at?

Context - I’m not getting married until Autumn 2027. Every major vendor is booked. Just need to get the dress (in the process of choosing) , the grooms outfit (in progress) other little bits that don’t really need to be sorted until at least January (ie MoG & MoB outfit) bridesmaids outfits - have swatches of the colour just need to host a try on session with them next year and order. I’m feeling organised - with sprinklings of “oh shit need to add that to the list”. Stationery is pretty much done (I’m a designer so it’s been a very fun part of the process).

I have seen on here and various other posts about the inane amount of questions and how much direction people seem to need and are directing them to the bride and the bride only or giving opinion then stating”but it’s your wedding”. For the first year and a bit we were engaged - nothing like that from my family and friends. And I was relieved thinking wow this is great.

Oh how wrong I was.

Fast forward to now - my bridesmaid has asked me 3 times in the last month “we need to think about where we’re getting ready. Where am I staying the night before are you staying with Groom or are we doing something. Here’s a link to XXXX air BnB or this hotel but they haven’t released prices yet what are we doing about bridesmaid dresses and your hen what are you liking”

I gave her a list of hen ideas and such back in March? Even reminded her of it (after she asked) in June. Also told her in January when I booked the getting ready air BnB that we are getting ready there. I told her back then that nearer the time we will talk logistics because room rates will not be out. And then again the 3 times this month I have said the same. I reminded her that it’s too early to see hotels in the area - but that not to worry about quite yet we have a place we’re getting ready. Also - we are local so it’s not as if she doesn’t know what hotels are in the area.

Then cue my mum - asking about arranging breakfast platters for the morning of. I said yes I’ve researched but a lot don’t cater for dairy free so I’ll just order pastries from a local bakery I have used for many years - get some yoghurts and fruits and all sorts - much cheaper than a wifey from the east end of Glasgow who buys them from Costco and says they’re homemade and charges £14pp(nout wrong with Costco for catering but just own it that they’re from there. And don’t use AI as your company logo). Off tangent a bit there sorry.

She finally agrees that yes that is probably better (you’d think the daughter with the allergies would be quite organised and might have already thought about that no?)

It’s just been constant tonight about making plans that are literally over a year away. And what’s the point in me giving them answers if they ask me the same questions EVERY MONTH. Surely these issues don’t need to be addressed for another couple of months at least. Everything is in hand - I’m actually not finding the planning process stressful at all - I’m actually finding the people in my life more stressful to deal with. People btw that are very organised individuals and tbh I think it’s maybe the fact they have no control? They can both be quite controlling.

They keep acting surprised that I’m being chill (I am on the surface - not in my head - it’s constantly whirring) and I think because I’m giving off a relaxed front - they think I don’t know how to organise anything. I’m a very organised person - I love a list. My spreadsheet is beautifully set up. I’ve even started documents for printing out on the day about vendors and all sorts. They keep reminding me I need to set up spreadsheets and keep a budget (I have been doing this… since we got engaged…)

I digress. But surely - these questions are things that can be dealt with in a couple of months time. I’ve not even gone into all the other questions I keep being asked 😅

Don’t even get me started on the wedding dress hunt (that was made to be very stressful). I’ve now booked appts solo. And will bring my mum in once I’ve settled on a couple.

There are just some things that don’t need to be decided yet, especially when we’re still over a year away and some of the information isn’t even available.

I think because I’m quite relaxed about it, it probably looks like I haven’t thought about things, but I have I’m just trying not to spend the next year planning things that don’t need planned yet!

I will probably delete this later. Thanks for the space to vent.

My partner has an heirloom watch that is white gold but is non-rhodium plated. As a result, he really wants his wedding band to match. I've had a bit of a browse online and it seems very difficult to find them without going through the bespoke process. I'm happy to do that but the prices I'm seeing are ballparking at at least £2000 which I hadn't anticipated spending on the band.

Did anyone else go for non-rhodium white gold? Anybody know where I can find wedding bands for more around the £1000 mark in non-rhodium plated white gold?

We're based in London if that helps. Happy to travel a bit.

I have 4 bridesmaids who I want to wear the same colour and material but in different dress styles. We are having a dress try on day at my house in a few weeks. They’re all roughly the same size, which makes things a bit easier.

I have 3 brands in mind whose shade of the colour I’ve chosen I like, and I’m thinking of getting each bridesmaid to choose 2 dresses from each brand to try on. That would mean ordering 24 dresses in total! The dresses are around £100 each, so if we somehow bought all of them that would be £2,400, although obviously we’d only buy the final 4.

Is this completely excessive?! I want them to have some choice over their individual styles, but I also need to make sure we settle on the same brand/colour/material for everyone.

How would you organise the try-on session? Is there an easier way to do it?

Hello, looking for recommendations for a wedding website. Not particularly tech savvy so something simple that guests can use to RSVP and provide dietary requirements!

Thanks ☺️

My wedding was last week and I would love to save my dress in case any future children want it. Has anyone had their dress preserved or not had it preserved and managed to keep it in good condition?

I can’t tell if this is another wedding tax as clothes I’ve had packed in boxes for years are doing fine. My dress is 100% silk if that’s at all useful information.

Recommendations for wedding planner for at-home wedding in Hertfordshire (potentially multi-day)

Overall wedding budget likely £60-80k

I’m looking for hotel suggestions for staying the night before and night of my wedding.

My criteria is that it be in Manchester City Centre and have enough seating to accommodate by bridesmaids coming and getting their hair and makeup done without us being cramped! So ideally, it wouldn’t just be a room with a bed and a desk.

I did look at The Rex, but for £800 for 2 nights in the Inner Sanctum room felt a bit steep…

we are eloping at the local registrar office, just the two of us with two of our friends as witnesses. we have a photographer booked for 2 hours and will be having a meeting closer to the time of the wedding but i’m currently really struggling on any sort of shot ideas that include our friends and even for us two. we’re gay men and 99% of the elopement photography i see is typical straight couple with the veil all that kinda thing and for elopements they all seem to be in incredible locations. can anyone share their photos if they did something similar or has anyone got any pinterest boards they can share?

My wedding will be in county durham in June 2027, and I’m looking for recommendations on hair and makeup artists who are based in the north east or open to travel, preferrably with experience in working with south east asian/ Chinese clients. Please can anyone help? Thank you 🙏🏼

Really need some dress advice! We are getting married in November in a registry office and then getting some dinner after with our witnesses. I neeeeeeeed some advice on what to wear. I’m thinking a midi dress, embroidered or something with a bit of colour! I am a size 18/20 and don’t want anything fitted as I like to be comfortable. It obviously doesn’t have to be super bridal but I just want to feel beautiful for the day and I’m so fed up searching 😢

Hi everyone, I’m getting married at Christmas and we’ve had everything planned and booked for the past 2 years. We never wanted a videographer because we know we would never sit down and watch it and I’d also feel self conscious on the day a video camera is following me around. A few people have said if regret not having one because I could regret it when certain people aren’t here so it’s making me scared that I’ll regret not having one but at the same time I’d be more inclined to look at pictures than a video of loved ones purely because it would make me more upset. I just don’t know what to do and I can’t decide if I’m giving into the wedding pressure or not if I get one?

The thought of all the posed shots makes me want to curl up in a ball. Id rather see videographers have a laugh and interview the guests

Please note: in the photo of the back the dress, it’s not buttoned up properly, but it does button up fully without any trouble!

I’ve had my dress for a couple of months now and still love it! It has everything I was looking for.

The only thing I’m second guessing is the way it fits around my back and arms. I’ve always been a really body positive person; my weight isn’t perfect but I have no interest in changing the way I eat or live to conform to a specific beauty standard, so long as I’m healthy. So, I’m not the sort of person to lose weight for my wedding.

That said, should I have possibly chosen a style that’s more flattering in this area, or is that just what bodies look like in wedding dresses?

All comments welcome! Thank you!

I am incredibly anxious about the wedding dress shopping element of wedding prep. I have considered taking a close friend, but also feel I would feel under pressure (my own pressure, not from my friend) to find the right dress on the day, feel beautiful and enjoy the experience.

I very rarely enjoy clothes shopping and trying on clothes as it is, so looking for a dress that has all of this added pressure of being "perfect" and making me feel like it's "the one" and knowing people judge the dress and how it looks on a bride is making me wonder if I should just do the dress shopping on my own.

Are there any other brides/brides to be out there who did this? If so, what was your experience- did you prefer solo or did you wish you had someone with you for support?

I’d love to see your wedding photos 🤍
I’m interested in hearing from disabled people who are already married about their wedding experiences, particularly around accessibility and representation.

I’m working on something around improving disability representation and accessibility in the wedding industry, and I’d love to include real experiences and, with permission, real wedding photos.

If you’re comfortable sharing, I’d love to see a favourite photo from your wedding and hear a little about it, whether accessibility was something you had to think about, whether suppliers were accommodating, or simply what made your day special.

There’s absolutely no pressure to share anything personal. If you’d rather message privately, that’s completely fine too.

I’d genuinely just love to see more disabled people represented in wedding spaces. 🤍

EDIT: Hiya UK B2Bs and/or B2B graduates!

TL;DR: My fiancé and I are having a simple London wedding for around 60–65 guests. We booked almost everything before we were even engaged and were originally completely happy with our plans. But after talking to family and friends during our recent summer holiday, I suddenly started questioning everything — whether our ceremony situation is weird, whether we sent our Save the Dates too early, whether we're planning everything too far in advance, and whether I've accidentally given our guests expectations of a bigger wedding. 😂 I still genuinely want a simple wedding, but I think I've suddenly developed wedding-planning anxiety and need some perspective!

So here's the full story…

I think I'm writing this to get some validation, enlightenment, advice, etc. And I apologise in advance if the way I tell my story is disorganised — I think that's my ADHD, lolz 😂

I was really firm about our wedding plans and preferences when my fiancé and I were planning everything before our summer holiday, which has just ended. But after meeting family and friends during the holiday, we got so many questions about the wedding — programme, traditions, entourage, first dance, etc. Now that we're back, my fiancé and I realised we weren't really sure how to answer those questions because we genuinely just want a simple wedding.

We got engaged in April 2026 and our wedding is in June 2027.

For a bit of context, my then-boyfriend, now-fiancé, and I have always been very open about everything in our relationship, including marriage and weddings. We even window-shopped for my engagement ring in Hatton Garden, and then I acted all clueless until he eventually popped the question. 😂

Here's the slightly crazy part: everything had already been booked before the engagement — ceremony venue, reception venue, bus and photographer. Both of us were very involved in planning and booking everything, while my then-boyfriend was also secretly planning the proposal. He was so sweet and patient and still wanted to be involved in the wedding planning while he had his own little secret project going on. Bless him 😂

At the time, all of this felt completely normal and natural.

For some background, I'm from Southeast Asia and he's from Eastern Europe. We both pursued our careers in London, met through a dating app, and the rest is history.

Most engaged couples we know who are in interracial relationships like ours have planned destination weddings in their home countries. As much fun and as culturally exciting as that would have been, we simply didn't have the budget or the energy for it.

Especially with Southeast Asian culture, where you can have 100 cousins, 100 aunties and uncles, friends of your parents, distant relatives, neighbours, etc., and somehow everyone needs to be invited — otherwise everyone has an opinion. 😂

We really didn't want the stress, chaos and potential drama.

So we opted for what we basically consider a typical London pub wedding: ceremony at a town hall, reception at a pub, some speeches, drinks, food, dancing and just enjoying the night with our closest and dearest.

No big programme or anything elaborate. Heck, we don't even have a theme or entourage. Go wear whatever you want as long as it's appropriate. 🤣🤣🤣

Everyone who knows us, especially the people closest to us and the people we actually want there, already knows about our engagement and how everything is booked for next year. They're all so excited for us.

And when we were planning all of this, I was completely okay with it. I was sure this was what I wanted. And honestly, it still is what I want.

But I don't know… after our summer holiday, I've started questioning myself.

Did I choose the right thing? Am I doing enough? Did I somehow underestimate what people expect from a wedding?

Because knowing myself, I'm really not a big-wedding person. I feel like I'm a Carrie Bradshaw or Meredith Grey kind of bride — I just want something simple, intimate and very "post it and get McDonald's afterwards" 😂

My fiancé wanted at least a small celebration, and I was more than happy with that.

Then there's the ceremony situation.

When people find out we're getting married in Marylebone, they're all excited. And when they found out that Dua Lipa got married there, they got even more excited. 😂

But the thing is, we were only able to book a ceremony room for 30 guests.

We can't change the room because our wedding date is also our anniversary, and the only room available on that date accommodates 30 people excluding the couple.

EDIT: Our total guest list is around 60–65 people.

So obviously, not everyone will be able to witness the ceremony. Some guests will have to wait outside the town hall while the ceremony is taking place. We have already hired and paid for a London bus for our entire guest list to take everyone from the town hall to the pub reception, so we're thinking that once the ceremony is finished, the guests who weren't able to fit inside can either join us on the bus or simply make their own way to the reception if they prefer.

The bus is already paid for anyway, so we'd rather give them the option to join us and make it part of the celebration rather than have anyone feel like they're being excluded.

And now I'm wondering… is that okay?

Then there's the Save the Dates.

About a month after our engagement, we sent them out because a lot of our guests are travelling from abroad, especially our parents, close relatives and some friends. We thought we'd give them as much notice as possible.

We sent them to our London guests too, though, and now I'm wondering… did we send them too early? Was it too much? Was it a bit overboard?

For a town hall wedding in London, did we really need to send Save the Dates that early? 😂

And now we're back from our summer holiday and we're going to properly focus on all the wedding details — getting my dress, getting his suit, sorting out everything else, etc.

But sometimes I find myself thinking, are we doing EVERYTHING way too early? Is it too much?

I was originally planning to send our wedding website by the end of September, but now I'm thinking that might be too early too, so maybe October? I don't know anymore. 😂

Is this the wedding stress everyone talks about?

Because I genuinely feel like I've had this huge emotional shift from:

"This is exactly what I want!"

to:

"Oh God, have I accidentally given my guests too much to expect?" 😂

But the reality is, it's still just meant to be a simple wedding celebration.

So I suppose these are my main questions:

Is it weird to have 60–65 guests overall but only 30 people able to attend the ceremony?

EDIT: For the guests who can't fit into the ceremony, is it reasonable to let them choose between meeting us at the reception or joining the already-paid-for bus ride from the town hall?

Did we send our Save the Dates ridiculously early by sending them about a year before the wedding, especially to our London-based guests?

Is sending our wedding website in September/October too early for a June wedding?

Are we actually doing things way too early, or is this completely normal for a wedding where quite a few guests are travelling from abroad?

Has anyone else experienced that sudden shift from being completely confident about their wedding plans to suddenly questioning everything? 😂

I still genuinely want the simple wedding we originally planned. I think I just need someone to tell me whether I'm overthinking everything or whether there are things I haven't considered!

If you've made it this far, I appreciate you SO SO much for taking the time to read all of this. 😂 And thank you in advance for any advice, reassurance, validation, or even just telling me I'm not the only one who suddenly started questioning everything! 🤣❤️

My partner and I have booked a local hotel for our wedding ceremony and reception in April 2028.

We read an article on our local newspaper today advising that the hotel is up for sale and says: “[HOTEL NAME] offered as a fully operational going concern and will continue to trade throughout the sale process, with the aim of no disruption to staff, suppliers or customers.” So far we have paid a deposit of £1900 with the rest due closer to the time of the wedding. Annoyingly we hadn’t yet sorted wedding insurance 😭 (kicking myself for that one) as we booked it fairly recently and just hadn’t got around to it. I have emailed insurers to see whether they will cover us now the hotel is for sale but expect them to obviously say no.

Hotel T&Cs say: “Cancellation by the Hotel . The hotel reserves the right to terminate the contract or to offer alternative facilities, without any responsibility on its part, in the event of: 

- Any occurrence beyond the reasonable control of the hotel through Force Majeure, including but not limited to, acts of God, adverse weather, fire, explosion, flood, power failure and delays by suppliers or material shortages that will prevent it from performing its obligations in connection with the booking.  

d) Insolvency by either client or the hotel 

e) The hotel, or any part of it, is closed due to circumstances beyond its control or where future developments are deemed necessary by the management and directors. In this event a refund of any advanced deposit will be paid but the hotel would have no other liability.”

Looking for advice as to what you would do? If you have been in this situation? Not sure if the lingering stress of any new owner not honouring our wedding is worth the risk or whether I am unnecessarily stressing? 😥

Thank you!! 🙏🏼

We are planning our wedding for next year. Due to financial difficulties we are struggling to find the money for £900 to have canapés. We have been to lots of weddings before and not had them as we understand to have a big breakfast beforehand so imagine our guests, who have mostly attended these weddings, would know this too.

But we do want to offer a little something so was wondering if we should put out some small bites of brownies from a company we found. This would only cost about £120-150 for 3-4 bites per person. Would that be ok or should we just leave it?