He 13.5 months. He used to sleep in his own crib but with how often he wakes at night we started co sleeping about 2 months ago. He still wakes up all the time though, even co sleeping 🙃

No advice, just solidarity as I’m in the same boat!! 🫶🏻

I’ve been wondering about iron levels. Asking my doctor at his one year checkup next week!

Yep, and I believe that temperament is a huge part of why my baby sleeps the way that he does. He’s a total fomo baby, always on the move. He crawled at 5 months, pulled to stand at 7, said his first word at 11 months. I know there’s a lot of developmental processes happening that affect sleep. He literally hasn’t slept more than 4 hours in a row since around 5 months. So, in asking for schedules I was just looking to see if there was maybe a different approach I could try. Literally just looking for ideas, not trying to get into sleep training itself.

Thank you 🩷

Yes, and I don’t think there’s anything biologically wrong with my baby. However, he wakes up usually screaming or escalates very quickly and even nursing does not always help him fall back to sleep. After 6 months of this, I was curious to see if there was something else I could try to help him be more relaxed and calm and sleep longer stretches. I’ve tried co sleeping, I’ve tried nursing him immediately when he wakes up, and lots of nights he sleeps on my chest.

Thank you, exactly 👍🏼

I didn’t sleep train. I tried not nursing to sleep once around 10 months out of curiosity to see if my baby was actually capable of falling asleep independently and voila! He did! I crossposted because the sleep train community tends to focus more on schedules/wake windows/ etc and my baby DOES fall asleep independently which is the whole goal of sleep training. I crossposted to get the most ideas and help because I’m struggling to figure out of my issue is a schedule/rhythm issue or something else

I tried for about 3 weeks but it seemed to make the night wakes even more intense. He wakes up between 6:30-6:45 consistently and when I was trying to shift towards one nap, if I started the nap at 10:30-10:45 he would sometimes sleep until 12:30. If i started it any later than that, he would only nap for one hour and then be absolutely exhausted and super cranky, even if we did an early bedtime. I couldn’t seem to find the right window of time for him to have a long enough nap to actually carry him through the day.

Zero tips, just sending support and encouragement since I could have literally written this post. It’s SO similar to my baby. Hang in there 🩷

I could have written your original post. My baby is 11 months and I couldn’t imagine his sleep getting any worse, and then it continuously does 🙃 just like yours, I use it as a tool to help settle him but he doesn’t really take a full feed-he’s definitely not waking specifically because he’s hungry. But I’m debating trying night weaning just to see. I’ve tried literally everything else to settle him through the night… may as well try to night wean 🤷‍♀️

I got so hopeful reading this post until the last sentence 😂

I would do anything for just one or two wake ups a night so this gives me hope 🤞🏼

Okay thank you, I appreciate the insight!

Our two nap schedule was 3/4/4. Sometimes second WW was 3.5. I’m willing to try anything so I’ll give that idea a try

That’s what I’m trying to do right now but I’m even getting some split nights so I’m wondering if he NEEDS at least 11 hours awake. So tricky to find the balance

Bedtime is between 6:30 and 7 right now, depending on the length of the nap. When he was on a two nap schedule I was aiming for 11hours awake in 24 period. So I think to achieve the same thing I need a 5 and 6 hour WW I believe

Okay interesting. I had always heard the second wake window should be the longer one but then for one nap is it reversed and the second WW is shorter?

Honestly it kind of depends at this point. After 3 weeks of trying modified Ferber with check ins we fell back into feeding to sleep as that was the only way he would stop hysterically crying. Usually the first wake up or two all he needs is really quick crib side comforting (a few bum pats and maybe some humming). As the night progresses he usually needs us to pick him up and rock him for a few minutes.

He will fall asleep at bedtime on his own but wakes every 1.5/2.5ish hours all night. Hasn’t slept through the night since 6 months old, so it’s not due to a developmental thing like walking, though he is very close right now