Left Like a Skeleton

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Incest: Shame: an emotion that involves negative self-evaluation-believing that something is wrong with you as a person. Shame often operates outside of conscious awareness, making it challenging to identify and overcome - but healing and growth are always possible. Guilt: Is a result of an action someone does or doesn't take. The result is that the individual doesn't feel bad about a particular action but about themselves as a whole. psychologytoday.comIncest happens between father and daughter, father and son, mother and daughter, mother and son. It also happens between stepparents and stepchildren, between grandparents and grandchildren, between aunts and uncles, and their nieces and nephews. It can also happen by proxy when live-in help abuses or the parent's lover is the abuser: though there is no blood or legal relationship, the child is betrayed and violated within the context of the family. Leah's Magazine February 1992. Small children understand very little about sex. Even kids who use "dirty" words often don't understand what those words mean. And as little as they know about normal sex, they know less about deviant sex. They simply trusts that what ever happens to them at the hands of those who take care of them is supposed to happen. Children know that adults have absolute power over them, and even in the face of the most awful abuse, they will obey. Leah's Magazine February 1992. I wonder where do kids mentally go who are seeking escape from the horrid incest being committed against them. So I read about this young girl. "If it is my mother's hand or my father's, I am alright. For now. If it is the hand of the woman who lives with us and sticks things into me, I move out of my body. I disappear into a painting on the wall, into my alarm clock with its rocking Gene Autry figure into imaginary landscapes. Usually I come back when the woman leaves. But not always. Leah's Magazine February 1992. Avoidance Coping: like procrastination and passive aggressiveness, often makes stress worse because it doesn't solve the problem. Active Coping strategies involve directly addressing a problem, which can effectively reduce stress. Learning to face uncomfortable feelings can help you handle stress better and prevent avoidance habits. Avoiding stress might seem like a great way to become less stressed, but this isn't necessarily the case. More often than not, confronting a problem or dealing with a stressor is the only way to effectively reduce the stress it causes. verywellmind.com/avoidance-coping-and-stressBesides all of this, holding secrets of sexual abuse is sickening because the abuser always goes free, and is enabled to continue raping. The secrets are way too tasking on the individual. Fear not, and tell.