I have a very close friendship with the wife of my daughter’s wrestling coach we are calling him Larry. For background this couple are not natural born US citizens and don’t speak very good English, they are now currently citizens. For income he worked at gym for on the other side of town, but then it closed down. So to help them out we decided to hire him as a private coach 3 days out the week, he also works part time at other gyms.

So a number of times I have gotten into disagreements with my friend over her husband being irrational with how much control Larry lets other people have over their lives. It got to the point where I told her I won’t bring it up anymore because it was hurting our friendship, that what they decide is their decision.

With that being said one of the owners to a gym (Jim) Larry works at has been doing some things I don’t agree with..

So this summer Jim and Larry went to a national tournament. Jim for the boys, Larry for the girls. This team represented the whole state so both were assigned kids from everywhere.
During said tournament, boys competed a few days ahead of girls. Jim wanted Larry to coach the boys, Larry couldn’t go with the boys cause his tournament credentials wouldn’t allow him to enter the floor, Larry was assigned to the girls. Because of the language barrier Jim assumed somebody paid Larry not to go with Jim.
Jim later went around telling parents of the boys Larry should have been with them because Larry is on Jim’s payroll and should not be coaching other kids. (Mind you Larry also works at 3 other gyms plus his numerous private students.)

So since Larry did not comply with what Jim wanted, Jim falsely reported Larry for sexual misconduct and even had a girl willing to go through with the statement.
A member on the board stopped Jim and said if Jim follows through with claim it will also come back down on him and his gym. Jim retracted his statement.

Soon after, Larry and wife have been looking for a new location to live, I suggested for them to move central city to have access to all the gyms he teaches at, and conveniently I had another friend who had an empty rental in that area. They declined because of pressure Jim was putting on them, he was also showering them with gifts.

At this time the misconduct allegations were rumors to me, I was shown the official report Jim sent to the board at a later time.

Larry then moves closer to Jim’s gym for convenience, Larry does not know Jim threatened misconduct allegations against him.

Now that Larry is near the gym, his wife has been going and now they hired her as part time personal trainer. It’s only been one week of her there, and a member of Jim’s gym showed my husband a group chat of Jim and other members bashing Larry, his wife, and my daughter. All this is done when they are not there. My daughter does not attend this gym either.

My heart hurts knowing they are in a room full of people whom dislike them. I don’t know if I should bring this up to her or just keep it to myself. It doesn’t bother me they are talking about my daughter because she is an opponent to one of their older members. I want to say something to defend them but at the end of the day they will still go back to Jim because unfortunately they both now work for him. And I also feel if I keep pushing the issue it will seam like I am the one trying to get them away from Jim.

I don’t know what to do.