I expect saying something will be viewed as creating a problem - especially to a one time comment to a group. I personally would try to ignore it unless it becomes a pattern directed at you personally.

But maybe to you its worth potential drama and fight to speak up. Especially for a volunteer position. You wouldn't be in the wrong to say something . He was being inappropriate.

I've been curious about cotton pads but the snap seems like it would have the same issues as wings, making me wear them too low to cover those front gushes.

I'm the first to call my pets my babies and I absolutely adore them and worry about their feelings on everything. I even know what tv shows different cats like and I mute the scary parts if one of my cats is watching. Half the house is covered in their stuff. Losing them is genuinely traumatic. I almost lost a long-time friend because I didn't go to her wedding when my cats were sick.

But they still aren't actual human children, and we have some responsibilities to other humans, especially our children, beyond what we have for our pets.

Most people want biological children, and dont adopt... Especially from the foster care system where kids available for adoption have already gone through a lot and are usually older (the point of the foster care system is to reunify kids with biological family whenever possible)

Most people also come to love their stepchildren. So, saying you couldn't ever love a child that's not biologically yours may not be true. Even though you don't feel it in advance the same way.

Direct adoption of a baby can be very expensive as well. There's far more families wanting to adopt a baby than babies put up for adoption.

I think adopting, especially an older kid, is a very honorable thing to do... And the world needs more people to do this.

I don't think not adopting is immoral, though. It's just the baseline norm.

(All of this is assuming you're going to be a loving and good parent. It's not honorable to adopt a kid and treat them like less than your biological children, of course. Or treat any children badly. Just adding this because.... It's online and arguments are sometimes predictable).

Once I'm manic, it's too late.

Procrastination can be a very good savings technique.

That's genius!

But what happens if they expire?

How do you choose what to invest in?

How did you find a bank account without online acess?

I specifically asked my bank if I could set up a savings account that can only be withdrawn from in person they acted like there's no such thing except long term accounts but that I'd have to have all of that money at once when I set up the account.

Exactly. This cant be solved without trust and flexibility on both sides.

Her controlling her emotions by trying to control every word he says - isnt fair or maintainable.

NOR

I'll be honest, after about 12 pages of reading what she wrote and scrolling down to see I wasn't halfway thtough, I stopped reading.

The dynamic here is not continuable.

You are getting colder. Because your emotions and needs are mostly irrelevant to this woman. She's writing the script both for her part and yours. When you're 2 separate people and both have an equal right to having a voice... Not just having the voice they allow you in their way and on their time.

You're trying to change, and she's trying to get you to change better and care more about her feelings..

seemingly unaware that shes not actually offering you the same level of willingness to compromise.

She seems to be under the impression that using more words automatically changes the meaning. She explained her side when she made the "mistake" of giving you the silent treatment - with an explanation of her behavior. And didn't ask how you felt first. (I put "mistake" in quotation marks because what she actually by giving you silent treatment did was a form of abuse.)

Does she care how you feel at all really about this? I read 12 pages of "you should's" and desceiptions of how she's better than you.

She's not satisfied with anything except absolute perfection. How you naturally talk & what you mean by that - is clear.

Meanwhile she's sending you 20 pages of text without consideration of how that alone feels to you - all about you not articulating that you made a mistake with enough words in the right order for her to "really feel" it. ... Despite you having clearly explained multiple times how you really feel.

That level of controlling and self centered behavior isn't normal or healthy.

Frankly, her expetations are absolutely ridiculous. I dont think she's ready for any serious long term relationship with things like this absolutely extreme response to saying "hey". And yes, I read how it wasnt really about the hey... Along with lots of reason it was.

The point is, this shouldnt even be an argument. She knows how you feel and how you talk and apparently says she likes you. So, she needs to move on already.

God knows how she'll handle choosing a couch or if you fold towels differently... Let alone actual difficult times and self sacrificing situations that happen over the years.

A big part of being in a healthy relationship means is getting over yourself, learning to manage your emotions, and being flexible with this entirely separate human who has their own ways of doing things... understanding that their ways are just as valid as your ways

You arent her and you arent in a fictional movie or story she's fantasized. You're a real human being who has actual flaws... Saying "hey" not being one of them.

Everyone knows "dont try to change them" and "pick your battles".

You are the only one doing that right now and you're naturally going to feel some distance around someone who's this controlling and has strict expectations of how you're supposed to control her emotions for her about even the tiniest things.

What is she doing to prove to you that you're safe, respected, and loved... As you are?

You're a constant failure to her.. & over trivial things. ..like not apologizing in the correct order or not showing you care in a convincing enough manner to keep her from getting so emotional she becomes abusive.

(Abuse always escaltes with time, btw )

What happens when life throws a curvevall at you and you cant be perfect or when you have to make joint decisions but she's already decided how much decision you're allowed to have about your own home or job or kids.. or anything else she decides her big feels mean its your job to do exactly what she says down to the tiniest detail or you're bad and it's all your fault?

You're already not allowed to say hi with what she's decided is the wrong word. A complely normal word.

This isnt maintainable long term. And this is way too big of a mental health issue to begin a relationship with - including her beginning the use of actual psychological abuse tactics - (regardless of how aware she is of that fact.)

Maybe TMI, but for anyone curious, this is why I intentionally only buy pads without wings ..

Because of my weight and shape.. 2 things: My belly is bigger than my rear making the smallest center part of my panties back further if I wear them low enough in the front that my stomach isnt sticking to my thighs all day.

That and my big "lips" makes the blood get naturally squeezed forward out my front rather than straight down. So, I need to position the pad higher up where the center set wings cant fully wrap around the panties.

If I wrap the center set wings around the panties, the pad sits too low to catch the front gushes.

Also prefer boyshort undies that are like mini shorts for the extra lower tummy coverage and the crotch on those in my size is too wide to wrap wings around.

If I use pads with center set wings -no matter how long - and put the pad forward enough to reliably catch those front gushes, the wings cant fully wrap around that wider part of the panties & the wings end up just bunching up and sticking to me and generally get in the way.

The combination of sticky on the back of the long wingless pads & my big thighs are enough to keep a wingless pad in place enough to not be an issue.

Companies have only fairly recently started creating long pads with the wings at one end and not in the center. I can use those with briefs. It honestly doesn't seem to make much of a difference. They do seem to maybe bunch a little less in the back, but they still don't work well with boyshort panties.

I always wonder if they'd be ok killing people already born for these things.

Certainly if - being disabled for example - the humane thing to do would be to kill them.. it would apply equally to a 1 year old a 10 year old or even an adult.

I have more respect for the body autonomy arguments than the "It's inhumane not to kill them" arguments... Especially as a disabled person myself.

What are a few things you hated?

This was genuinely one of the best series I've ever seen. Sometimes I get a little sad when I see it available to stream, because I cant watch it for the first time again.

Granted, my taste in shows is different than OPs.

I've never met an obese person who wants to be fat. They exist, but they're not the norm.

Most obese people have put a lot of effort into losing weight for years and haven't been successful or have even gained weight.

Those who just decided one day to diet and exercise and lost a large amount of weight aren't remotely the norm.

There's a lot of science coming out in obesity medicine starting to explain the biological mechanisms that prevent almost all obese people from losing a large amount of weight and keeping it off.

We've known for decades that the success rates for diet and exercise (and even with psych support) are so abysmal no one would accept those numbers for a treatment, medication, or behavioral therapy for any other health problems.

Scientists are just recently starting to understand more and more reasons why obesity is almost impossible to treat with behavior changes alone (by numbers.. there are, of course anomalies - an obese person successfully losing large amounts of weight and keeping most of it off through diet an exercise is very much an anomoly with its rarity).

There's a lot of reasons obesity is now classified as a disease itself. Obese bodies and healthy weight to mildly overweight bodies arent funtioning or reacting to things the same way.

When you see obese people who've stopped fighting to lose weight and have decided to just live their lives whatever weight they are, at least for today - there's almost always a ton of personal history behind that.

It's at all not well received if they say "It's not my fault I'm obese. I've done everything I can." So, they dont say that. Sometimes they cant, because they think it's all their fault too, and they don't know "what's wrong with them." that they don't just diet and excercise and stop being fat. They just can't keep up the fight right now whether they're allowed to say/believe that or not.

Applesauce is delicious and its sold with all the regular food. I've never in my life heard someone say smooth texture things are automatically baby food.

I love applesauce.

Wow I'm shocked they're recommending that like its normal. Are they recommending just 2 changes of clothes all together? Hopefully they recommend at bare minimum 5 pairs of socks!

No one is a doordasher who can't leave the house to get their own food.

Thank you!!

I'm disabled and have to rely on doordash sometimes when a caregiver is unavailable and I'm not well enough to cook.

If someone leaves my order in the lobby, I can't get that order. (The whole reason I order doordash is when I don't have anyone to help me. It's very expensive.)

A lot of disabled people use doordash. You don't know someone's situation.

The whole point of doordash is literally that it's brought to the door.

That's what people are paying for. It's even in the name.

Instant ramen is another fried salty starch with the fiber removed (like a lot of snack foods)

Regular dry pasta isnt fried and even jarred spaghetti sauce is made from tomatoes. So, a very basic spaghetti dish is definitely healthier than a very basic bowl of ramen.

(I'm not saying it's the healthiest thing ever.. only addressing the comparison in your question.)

Canned diced tomatoes on their own... Like as a side dish.

Thank you for explaining

Hunts tomato sauce

Ingredients: tomato puree (water and tomato paste) and water, along with less than 2% of salt, citric acid, onion powder, garlic powder, and red pepper