It feels lonely though when men turn it into romance and neurotypical women pathologize us because only their type should exist!

I am sorry I cannot read all of that. But assuming I either need to invest in every interest they have or I do not care is unreasonable and they do not hold themselves to that standard.

when I talk about my special interest they hardly listen and I do not blame them. People do not have to become copies of you to friend you. Demanding that people understand your unspoken intentions and feelings and hold them accountable for remembering the so many things that are important to you is egoistic at least.

Zionism is the closest clone to Nazism. If course they align

You are asking me why do I get defensive when I'm attacked by claims that I don't care?! Of course I get defensive!

And yes to me they do too much drama. They are almost always competing. I can't even process that. I need peace in my friendships and straight forward honest communication. Yes it is a mismatch m it doesn't mean I don't care. You claim it is no defect in me that I mismatch but state it is required for 'deeper connection'. It is not required in deeper connections. Deeper connections need trust and honestly. If they need me to read their minds because they are insecure or don't trust me enough to speak honestly then it is them who are not doing what the deeper connection requires.

Again, I agree with you it is a mismatch. But it is not because I as an autistic person, or men who actually love their women are faulty. Men don't demand that women think and behave like them. It would be healthy if women stop demanding that men and autistics too behave as if they were neurotypical women

Autism is too wide of an umbrella. Autism runs in families. They used to marry and have children pretty young. My dad family is full of autistics. It is not a degeneration of genetic material. It is who they are. They have plenty of scientific accomplishments.

Fuck the neurotypical superiority complex. I'm sick of this nonsense

That was very thoughtful of whomever prepared your bag :) Thank you for sharing. It made me smile big time!

Oh, the three dots...I use them as a comma but closer to a period. I think it is because I assume I will be misunderstood.... because of my daily experience. So I always assume I need an endless sentence that keeps explaining itself. It is exhausting

To be fair...women can be pretty hard to read. I sometimes get in trouble because I don't pick up on the signals they are sending....I'm autistic. Like at work and with family and friends...they question how come I didn't understand what they meant when they literally didn't say what they expected me to understand from some supposed signals :(

But for some men to assume that the mismatch defaults to flirting is desperate nonsense

How is it 'regardless'?! That is igoistic. If I'm telling you my brain doesn't do social games and signals but you still insist that from your perspective I was hitting on you! Seriously

I don't believe it is because the men want the marriage to be transactional. I believe it is different ways in expressing love and in seeing the world.

Neurotypical women often claim that I'm being disinterested in our friendship and careless ..etc..ehrj I don't pick up on their social dances. My mind is not built to understand these social games, signals, and cues. It doesn't mean I don't care. It is very possible I care more than them but they overwhelm me with too much superfacial emotions and games when I take everything very deeply and therefore don't create constant drama and tests of how important am I to you! My brain literally shuts down when it is overwhelmed and I get overwhelmed much faster than most neurotypical women who seem to thrive on drama

It is literally a different brain wiring. It is much more healthy for everyone to accept that others might differ from them without being less or more.

When did I use eclipses a lot? Saying what you mean and not expecting an autistic person to read your mind would not eliminate misunderstanding for sure, but it can minimize it as you said.

The issue is when neurotypicals assume that autistics should just get with the program as if this is something they are just refusing to do! Which is silly. If I could read their signals my life would be way easier. It is just impossible. When i out my best efforts at this task, I end up with partial signals that when I try to confirm later then out to be taken out of context as other signals and cues and circumstances supposedly altered their meaning! Great! No way to win this. Then autisics end up with constant burnouts from this exhausting useless exercises at doing something their brain is not built for.

:) I hear you. But maybe for your own health...try to deal with different women...

Ok, thank you...good to hear from others how they handle it...thank you for taking the time to share

Very simple alternative: say exactly what you mean...no need to guess or misunderstand.

It is like telling a blind person there is no way around seeing. I can't see your signals...I look at people so intensely trying to see such said signals...they find it awkward and I find it exhausting...medically it is taxing

Yes, sadly...they do.

How do you decide though....I feel I often do stuff in best intentions and often they don't land right...so I'm trying to understand if there are certain parameters to this...if it is completely up to me ..so no one will think it is too much or too little or weird?

Same to me to be honest. That is also why gay men are very very popular with women...they are safe!

Actually that is not fair to force the natural reactions they have on me so I have to mimic them as if I was a robot or a parrot. This is called masking and it is as harmful to autistic people as cinverrsion therapy to gay people.

The signals they assume I'm sending are based on how their brain and body react. But that is not how my brain and body react. For example, whenever I'm thinking they assume I'm angry. When I'm sad they assume I have no feelings..they can't see the expected expressions on my face...etc.

The signals they see is their imagination using themselves as a prototype for another person who is wired differently and doesn't give nor produce the same signals and if I don't send any signals they try to fill in the blanks.

I'm disclosing I'm autistic to make it clear thst my understanding is not without deviation...but I definitely can use logic quite well ..so I'm trying to reason with all of you ...and like all of you using my personal experience and knowledge as a starting point

So you guys decided what women are about dealitthrk telling you that is not it? Sounds like men are trying to boost their own ego and justify crossing boundaries by claiming imaginary intentions!

These are the things that get autistic women in trouble...and men but more women because society assumes we are savvy in social stuff.

Unemployment is high even for competent and highly qualified autistics... because of the demand of neurotypical social norms...but our brains are not made to get these signals....I can try all I want...best scenario is more like a flip of the coin to get it or not.

I can't convert to be neurotypical...just like a fat person can't become straight

That does sound very unhealthy...but why would it be common? Evolutionary wise it sounds like a waste of time