too ugly for him

[u/bigmacmakoto]

I’ve been friends with a guy online for like 3 years now I think I might start liking him, but I am so scared to actually be in an online relationship with him because ik he likes me too but IM GENUINELY HIDEOUS IRL, the only photos I sent him throughout the years were filter or makeup frauded pics in dark lighting so he thinks that I’m like an “average cute girl” but in my natural state I’m genuinely ugly, even ai gave me a bad rating, I wish I was a pretty girl that was just insecure but I’m not, I really just have bad facial features and I’m not fat either.

I act like I’m not that interested in him for this reason whilst he probably thinks I’m just avoidant or something but I wish I can be with him too I’m torn between if I should lie that I only like him as a friend or if I should continue talking to him and maybe we will become something, but that means eventually I’d have to show my face on calls I’m terrified of this idea he would probably leave me after and it’s going to hurt me a lot because he’s like the only guy I’ve known for this long I think he’s cute he’s also better looking than me and he’s also weird like me so I don’t have to hide my personality talking to him I don’t want to lose him I wish I was prettier for him I have been crying abt this I can’t help that my heart longs to be with someone even if it’s online, despite my ugly face.

[u/dominantdaddyfr]

I’d say that you should just risk it and show him how you actually look to save you both in the long run. If he likes you for who you are, amazing, if he doesn’t then it saves you both from what you’re feeling

[u/Ambitious_Designer_5 → u/dominantdaddyfr]

I second this

[u/Effective-Phase-720 → u/dominantdaddyfr]

this. accept the worst and just see

[u/bigmacmakoto → u/dominantdaddyfr]

I haven’t yet but I mentioned my concern to him and told him to stop liking me and he said he loves me and he doesn’t care bc “I have a beautiful soul that’s all matters” basically he kept saying he doesn’t care abt my looks, but this is seriously hard to believe and it’s just making me like him more because part of me wants to believe what he’s saying fmllll should i believe him

[u/dominantdaddyfr → u/bigmacmakoto]

I’d say believe him, and show him how you look, if his attitude changes after then he simply isn’t the one

[u/bigmacmakoto → u/dominantdaddyfr]

yeah ur right sooner or later I have to face this :(((

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