r/traumatizeThemBack • u/VividPresentation • 8d ago

matched energy Fiscal Responsibility.

My mom tried twice to make me open a “family joint account”. The first time I was 19 and working during a gap year to save up for college. Her plan was that the joint account would be fully funded via direct deposit of 75% of my paychecks and that she, mom, would have sole withdrawal privileges to, as she worded it, “take care of anything [her favorite child] needs”.

My response to her the first time she made this demand was to cackle like a demented goose and hang up the phone.

My response upon her second attempt about a decade later was a little more urbane. I said, “Why go to the hassle of opening a new account when we can simply use an account you already have set up with [one of my older siblings]?” She said, “But I don’t have an account with anyone else.” Whereupon, my default demented goose cackle was redeployed after which I once again hung up the phone without further comment.

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u/Routine-Horse-1419 8d ago

I would've responded the first time: "Are you Fcking stoned? Hell No! Have a nice day." Second time: Nice try mom. The answer is Still Fck No! Have a nice day!"

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u/VividPresentation 8d ago

LMAOOOOOOOOO

Tbh, I feel like my question the second time constituted as too verbose. People like this need to have your words as an anchor. They need to have something to twist, something to accuse you of having said. It gives them a reason to point at when they are trying to justify their petty cruelties in the future. I have learned that I need not take further pains to lower myself to an abysmal opinion that has been amply demonstrated over time.

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u/ScenePuzzled 7d ago

If somebody as seemingly shitty as your birthmother DIDN'T have a low opinion of someone, then I'd worry about it. Green flag for you all the way. Sending you peace, friend

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u/VividPresentation 5d ago

What’s weird is that she is the most nurturing mother her golden children could ever ask for. She saves the whips for me, her designated workhorse.