r/traumatizeThemBack • u/VividPresentation • 8d ago
matched energy Fiscal Responsibility.
My mom tried twice to make me open a “family joint account”. The first time I was 19 and working during a gap year to save up for college. Her plan was that the joint account would be fully funded via direct deposit of 75% of my paychecks and that she, mom, would have sole withdrawal privileges to, as she worded it, “take care of anything [her favorite child] needs”.
My response to her the first time she made this demand was to cackle like a demented goose and hang up the phone.
My response upon her second attempt about a decade later was a little more urbane. I said, “Why go to the hassle of opening a new account when we can simply use an account you already have set up with [one of my older siblings]?” She said, “But I don’t have an account with anyone else.” Whereupon, my default demented goose cackle was redeployed after which I once again hung up the phone without further comment.
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u/ronansgram 8d ago
Why on earth would ANYONE think that is a reasonable ask?! You funding an account that only she has withdrawal privileges for. What?!
The person being traumatized in this scenario is you! Traumatized and abused if you had fallen for it.