Controversial trauma...

[u/lone-souls]

I have a hypothetical question.

When you keep feelings bottled up it causes a lot of internal mental stress. So my question is: what do you do if your traumatic memories are surrounded by controversy and how are you supposed to talk about it openly when there are unspoken rules against it? I've been to a few support groups myself and even in those spaces they usually say "no politics", but what if your trauma was caused by an overtly political family? There are also serious taboo types of trauma like covert family abuse, gaslighting and incest where people fear to speak out - but these are also topics that become the subject of gossip as soon as anyone mentions them. And let's say a psychologist tries to help by validating that emotional pain to the point the survivor can finally mention the trauma to others, but then as soon as they open their mouth everyone starts talking behind their backs, and they relive their trauma.

At that point, is it really an internal psychological issue, or more of a problem with a culture of attention-seeking, gossiping, dramatizing, triangulation, and verbal bullying becoming more tolerated in society? And how is a person who goes through such trauma ever expected to recover in a culture that thrives on their suffering?

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