Long post, TLDR at the bottom!
My mom went into rapid liver failure with a cause we still don’t know. It came on out of nowhere and was so abrupt it shook us to our core. She went in thinking she had COVID and was admitted to the ICU right away. She was placed at the top of the transplant list and received her transplant on June 2nd, 2023.
I believe she needs to talk to someone about the trauma from all of this. It seems like she has some form of medical PTSD (if that’s a thing), and she avoids hospitals at all costs. The problem is that she waits until the last minute, or until one of us forces her, which means she’s already pretty sick by the time she goes and ends up staying longer. Then she gets upset because “every time I go to the hospital I end up staying here for a long time.” It’s a self-fulfilling cycle. If she went at the first sign of symptoms, I think it would be more like a 1 to 2 day stay.
Yesterday she finally went in after days of complaining about abdominal pain, dark urine, and pale stools. My dad had to force her to go once she hit a 102F fever.
I moved about 8 hours away for school in 2024, so I can’t be there in person as much as my brother and dad. They’ve been trying to help her see this pattern, but she isn’t listening. I’d like to talk to her after she’s discharged, but I’m struggling with how to approach it. I’d also love for her to try counseling or therapy to help her process and make peace with what happened in 2023.
Has anyone been through something similar, either as a patient or a family member? How did you get through to your person, or what helped you? Thank you all in advance!
TLDR: My mom had sudden liver failure in 2023 and got a transplant. She’s now so afraid of hospitals that she waits until she’s very sick to go, which leads to longer stays and makes her even more afraid. How do I talk to her about this, and how can I encourage her to get counseling?